Furious Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 That's great...wishing you the best of luck. Take care
Spark1111 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I'm headed to work so I don't have time to answer all the questions but here is the shortened version and I'm doing this voice to text so if there is a mistake I'm sorry the children are 21 and 19 they got started very early like I did. The house cost $150,000 and they owe $100,00 on it still I have done a lot of soul searching and I have decided to call it quits. I did care about him but I need to do what's best for me. As for my ex we talked for a very long time last night and I'm considering getting him 1 more shot. It's almost like he had an epiphany and realized all the things he has done wrong by being just selfish and basically a dick lol If we do try again though I'm not just going to go running back home he is definitely going to have to prove to me than our relationship will be 50/50. He is really going to have to work for it. Not gonna get into a whole lot of detail right now but I can honestly say I would like it to work no I'm gonna cross my fingers and see what happens the next few weeks. I grow weary seeing women getting batted about like ping pong balls when men do not know what they want. BEGirl.....it is time for you to back away from both situations. Live your life, seek therapy, grow stronger, and WAIT to make any life altering decisions regarding which, if any, man you will contemplate for a future. Don't be anyone's fallback girl. Don't be anyone's plan B. Let them prove to you, by their actions, that they are worthy of your time, attention and affections. Do not let the OM use you to leave his marriage as he will resent you for that decision. Let him divorce, live alone and get his head together. As for your xH, make sure he wants you for you and not because he doesn;t want another man to have you. There is a lot of that going around. Make sure your xH gets to therapy to understand why he was an unappreciative dik and that he has learned why he did what he did so he can reassure you it will never happen again. Many men love the pursuit, but once they attain or win the woman, especially away from another man, or away from her independence, they grow complacent and the same old issues resurface. Don't make this mistake. I think you should date many men until you know clearly who and what you want. Good luck to you. 4
MissBee Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I grow weary seeing women getting batted about like ping pong balls when men do not know what they want. BEGirl.....it is time for you to back away from both situations. Live your life, seek therapy, grow stronger, and WAIT to make any life altering decisions regarding which, if any, man you will contemplate for a future. Don't be anyone's fallback girl. Don't be anyone's plan B. Let them prove to you, by their actions, that they are worthy of your time, attention and affections. Do not let the OM use you to leave his marriage as he will resent you for that decision. Let him divorce, live alone and get his head together. As for your xH, make sure he wants you for you and not because he doesn;t want another man to have you. There is a lot of that going around. Make sure your xH gets to therapy to understand why he was an unappreciative dik and that he has learned why he did what he did so he can reassure you it will never happen again. Many men love the pursuit, but once they attain or win the woman, especially away from another man, or away from her independence, they grow complacent and the same old issues resurface. Don't make this mistake. I think you should date many men until you know clearly who and what you want. Good luck to you. Couldn't agree more!!!
2sunny Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Filed is a far stretch from his W being served and lthe D being FINAL. Glad you took a step back to assess the situation. For now - if you called it quits with the MM (OM) are you willing to have absolutely NO contact?
allgoodhere Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 You should go with it. Have fun. You don't have to marry the guy. If his wife cheated a bunch, just have him and see if it is something you want.
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