samslick Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Im 28 years old, and spent pretty much all of my 20s with my ex-wife. We were together for 8 years, married for 2. I met my ex-wife online back before online dating was getting really big and had dated other women before her also that I met online. My divorce will be final in the next 2 months or so, and as I start to look forward in my life, thoughts turn to starting over again with someone else, and it seems very daunting. I do plan to remarry and I really want children, it's just that I've been out of the game for so long that Im not really sure at all how to start over. Im successful, I have my own house, a dog, and a well paying job. I was close to considering having kids with my ex-wife , as we talked about having our first one before I turned 30. Thank god I didn't. I lost a lot of my friends through the divorce, but the single ones that remain, are in no hurry at all to get married and probably think Im a little nuts to even be thinking about dating. What is online dating like now? Has it changed much since 2003-2004? Im not sure I even want to bother with looking online, and Im definitely not the kind of guy to scour bars and clubs to look for women. Id like to hear from those who are in the same boat as me---late 20s and starting out dating after being in a long term relationship or marriage.
texan80 Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Hi there, Your story sounds just like mine! I met my husband online when I was 22 years old, been together for almost 9 years, married for almost 6 years. We're now getting ready to separate, and I completely relate to how you feel. I've been with the same guy for almost a decade, and dating again is very foreign to me as well. I went to a bar with a girlfriend last night, and I felt like I was transported to another time, like being in the Twilight Zone, if you know what I mean. But I think it's good to start over and try something new. Just thought I'd say hello and let you know that you're not alone.
thatone Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 Im 28 years old, and spent pretty much all of my 20s with my ex-wife. We were together for 8 years, married for 2. I met my ex-wife online back before online dating was getting really big and had dated other women before her also that I met online. My divorce will be final in the next 2 months or so, and as I start to look forward in my life, thoughts turn to starting over again with someone else, and it seems very daunting. I do plan to remarry and I really want children, it's just that I've been out of the game for so long that Im not really sure at all how to start over. Im successful, I have my own house, a dog, and a well paying job. I was close to considering having kids with my ex-wife , as we talked about having our first one before I turned 30. Thank god I didn't. I lost a lot of my friends through the divorce, but the single ones that remain, are in no hurry at all to get married and probably think Im a little nuts to even be thinking about dating. What is online dating like now? Has it changed much since 2003-2004? Im not sure I even want to bother with looking online, and Im definitely not the kind of guy to scour bars and clubs to look for women. Id like to hear from those who are in the same boat as me---late 20s and starting out dating after being in a long term relationship or marriage. like most other things, as more people get on the internet, internet declines. dating sites are no different. they're pretty much cesspools of damaged people that you would have to spend hours at a time for days at a time sorting through to find any semblance of normal. then there's the fact that they are about 2 to 1 men to women. that said, women in your age range are a lot more attainable than when you were younger, so you shouldn't have much trouble, but i would recommend against the dating sites.
snug.bunny Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I was all but single for one year in my twenties. When I reached 30, is when I became single for the first time. And boy, was it different. There was no instant technology(we had beepers! ), no online dating, no myspace/facebook. It was kind of a cultural shock, all these new terms and slangs you had to learn. Can't say I didn't enjoy stepping out into the new world but I didn't really get back onto the dating horse for a good couple of years. Just wanted to be out with my friends and have fun. Maybe that's the approach you can take? A lot of times, people are wary about someone who is freshly divorced so you may find it a bit challenging in that arena. Try not to fret though.
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