fabbygabby Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 So I seem to have an issue. I've been with my SO about 3 years. He's a great guy. I like to think I trust him despite having issues with past boyfriends, and I certainly love him. He's never cheated or given me a reason to distrust. The only thing really is about 2.5 years ago where he'd flirted with a girl via messages (albeit innocently) and I was upset about it for a while. I read them and later notice they were deleted. I'd confronted him and we have moved past it. Being that that is the only problem or trust issue we've ever had (and it was so long ago), I don't understand my problem... I LOVE SNOOPING. I am not sure why. I go through his phone, never find anything. I've searched his internet history 4 or 5 times in the past. I've never found anything except him looking at his ex's facebook, which I don't care about because I do the same. We're all human here. So essentially, I've never found anything incriminating. SO WHY CAN'T I STOP??? I haven't a clue what the hell I think I'm looking for, I have never found anything, yet I'm always so tempted when he isn't around and his laptop is. Can someone please explain why I can't stop and how I CAN stop?? I hate the urge I get. It turns me into an anxiety-driven psycho. Thanks!
bamp78 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 You're not going to like the answer to your question so why ask? You're insecure and have hangups from past relationships so even while this guy hasn't done anything in 2.5 years to violate your trust you still feel the need to violate his personal space. This is a huge red flag and has long term ramifications for your future behavior. You should consider yourself lucky that he is still around cause you are violating all kinds of natural boundaries that are in a healthy relationship. This answer may sound harsh but to be honest the only way you will change is if you decide to do something about your issues ie: therapy and change yourself. Good luck...
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