Made a pickle of things...

[Nukulus]

Ugh... Where to start. Not sure if I should've put this in the friendship forum or this one (this one seems to get a bit more traffic).

 

Anyways, I apologize in advance for the length, but to give you all proper context for the awkward pickle I found myself in last night feel it might be necessary.

 

So to begin, I moved to a new city for a job and up until the past couple months I'd only been hanging out with a couple people outside of work. Since then I've found myself in a greatly expanded social circle and had some new romantic prospects come from that.

 

The first girl, I will refer to as S, made it plenty clear she thought I was attractive. We had hung out a few times as a group and then went on one date. The date was fun, and we ended up sleeping together that night. After that however things got a bit weird. We had scheduled a second date but she canceled on me three different times. I was booty called once. Because of that behavior I figured she wasn't wanting anything serious. Which was fine by me, I wasn't sure whether she was relationship material.

 

Things get awkward though this last week. I started hanging out with another girl, D, also kind of in the same social circle (no one is like super best friends, but we've all hung out together on occasion). Anyways, D and I hang out a few times over the past week. Couple times with other people and once just ourselves. Just hanging out, not a date, etc. But I find myself really liking her, and her me (I think). So saturday we're hanging out and as the evening goes on it ends up being myself, her, and a couple friends of mine (female). Things were going great until I found out that S was going to come by. I didn't want to deal with this, and tried to let D know that I was over S and things weren't going to happen. I thought I was being obvious, but I guess not.

 

I got up and went to the restroom and when I came back S was there. D had started talking to some random guy that wasn't part of our group. S had obviously come with the intentions of hanging out with me again (I never gave that impression). Anyways after about 45 minutes of D hanging out with this new guy and seemingly having a good time I've had enough. I get up and leave abruptly without saying good bye. I know I made an ass out of myself, but I feel I was in an impossible situation. IF I would have stayed and said nothing D would have talked to the random guy, S would have tried to be all over me and things with D would be ruined. IF I were to have said something to D I come off as jealous, and I have no right to be unhappy about anyone she talks to.

 

Anyways as I leave D chases me out. It was very dramatic lol, but for some weird reason it made me admire her even more. Anyways, we have a good long discussion about what happened. (She was talking to the guy because she thought that I asked S to come and that because she knew I had a thing with her she thought I wanted to hang out with her). I explained my side and that I didn't really want S to come, I was just trying to be nice and please everyone. I told her that that I liked her, and the only reason I was out was to spend time with her.

 

SO Whew! that's behind me. Except now D wants me to clear the air with S and she's right. So I go explain things with S and it goes as well as can be expected.

 

D and I leave and go back to her place. I was going to just drop her off, but she asked me to stay. We just talk, and kiss for a bit and then sleep. No sex. I stayed until almost lunch this morning. She was very sweet and kept saying things like "I'm so glad you're here" "I'm glad you decided to stay" etc. Anyways I leave and we each send a text and thats all we've talked since I left this morning.

 

So I'm hoping I didn't blow it with D with my stunt. I don't know what it is, as we haven't even gone out on a real date yet, but I do know I'd like to see where it might go. So my question for you all is about how to go about all this. I want to see her again, and take her out obviously. But I'm thinking I should give it a couple days before trying to schedule something given all of the drama this weekend? Or maybe I should just call her tomorrow? Eff I don't know. I just hope I haven't screwed the pooch already.

 

As for S, well she sent some weird (given the situation) texts after our conversation last night pretty much with the saying good bye, have a nice life vibe. Which I don't get. At all. We went out for one date and she booty called me once. I just don't want things to be awkward in the future If I see her. Suggestions on what to say, if anything, in that situation?

 

Anyways, thanks to anyone who has read this far. It was truly the most awkward 90 minutes of my life last night.

[daphne]

Forget about it and move forward. It was understandable, and an awkward situation at best. The worst you could have done was get jealous or lost your cool. Moving away from the awkwardness was a bit of damage control in a sense. I would suggest that you let things cool off for a few days and ask her out. It seems that she genuinely is interested. S is only interested now that someone else is in the mix. Goofy.

[Nukulus]

Ahh... Well that makes me feel a bit better about the situation. I'm definitely trying to forget about it though. Thanks!