Author RedRobin Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 I think you need to figure out how to bait for the fish you want to catch. Problem is, the pond where I live has very few fish. Time to stop beating myself up and continue my plan to get out of here. This last adventure with Mr. Sexy time and a few others locally have me convinced. These guys are considered a 'catch' here. They find ways to navigate among the other 'fish' that I consider my social network... as in, respectable married people with solid relationship skills. Then I get to know these men just a bit, and I see their values suck. It is really a disappointment. Because the ratio of men to women is so skewed here, these men must be getting away with poor behavior. Heck, even the mayor tried to get me to have an affair with him not that long ago. Everyone knows he's an *ss, but he still got elected. So, there you go. THAT is what I have to choose from here. Thank you for the advice though. In a different area, I'm sure the finer points of your advice would be worth pursuing. As it is, when one lives near a polluted pool, sometimes its best not to fish at all.
zengirl Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Problem is, the pond where I live has very few fish. Time to stop beating myself up and continue my plan to get out of here. Sometimes finding a new fishing spot is required, certainly! Because the ratio of men to women is so skewed here, these men must be getting away with poor behavior. Heck, even the mayor tried to get me to have an affair with him not that long ago. Everyone knows he's an *ss, but he still got elected. Pretty sure that's how mayors are everywhere, fwiw. But, yes, every area can be different. I'm sure it gets harder with age, too, as many of the good fish are hooked already.
Author RedRobin Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 Sometimes finding a new fishing spot is required, certainly! I'm sure it gets harder with age, too, as many of the good fish are hooked already. I'd like to think that it isn't solely a function of age. There are lots of reasons why people are single. Not all of them because they are bad 'catches'. I made a bad choice of who to marry years ago. If I allow myself to think on it too hard, I could get really depressed about the kind of men who are available now. But it isn't something I can do anything about. I know I worked like hell to save my marriage... but it takes two people. I'd agree that the ones who are commitment minded and able to keep a commitment probably are taken. But, if I'm walking around, there has to be someone else like me in the same boat. Thanks again.
zengirl Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 I'd like to think that it isn't solely a function of age. There are lots of reasons why people are single. Not all of them because they are bad 'catches'. Oh, certainly! However, at a younger age, before almost anyone is married, of course you just have access to a wider pool is all I mean. I don't think that means there's no hope when you're older at all --- I do think it means you come across less potentially good matches, just by numerical odds, and it can take a little more time, patience, and skill to catch the fish that best suits you is all. You can catch a lot more dumb luck in youth.
oranged Posted June 2, 2012 Posted June 2, 2012 Sometimes finding a new fishing spot is required, certainly! Pretty sure that's how mayors are everywhere, fwiw. But, yes, every area can be different. I'm sure it gets harder with age, too, as many of the good fish are hooked already. there's a lot of fish not hooked but they are bad fish. i'm a bad fish.
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