SerCay Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Hi.. So what do you guys think about Facebook in relationships? What is considered normal nowadays? Let's say you been dating for 2 years.. know each others family and all, should the relationship with status be on there?
NateC Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Hi.. So what do you guys think about Facebook in relationships? What is considered normal nowadays? Let's say you been dating for 2 years.. know each others family and all, should the relationship with status be on there? I've seen status changes when a relationship first starts...it's basically when you both feel like changing it really.
SoMuchLove Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 im all for putting up a relationship status because why be ashamed to hide it? the only thing is. . and this is SUPER IMPORTANT to remember. . . .when you break up--everyone is gonna see that too. and that sucks. PLUS all their friends/family un-friend you. and that sucks more.
YellowShark Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Here's what I think. GET A LIFE!!! What is the matter with people? Facebook is a fad, and just like Myspace and others before it it means absolutely NOTHING in *real* life. The Earth functioned for centuries without Facebook, and will function no matter what stupid crap people post on it. Let it go. It doesn't matter what the hell is written on it.. unless you give it that power. 3
HHC Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Facebook is just a website. The fact that someone has or doesn't have their relationship status on it doesn't raise an eyebrow for me. Who cares? If I was with someone and they didn't change it and I thought they were doing it to hide it from people then we would have a problem, but the actual act itself is a none issue. It's the actions of the person that matter 1
Green Light Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Stay away from Facebook! Look at the enhanced heartache it causes in some of the stories on this very forum. I'm so glad that neither I nor my wife have Facebook accounts during these difficult times. There is such a thing as too much information.
ls32ssibm Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 If you have an attractive girlfriend on Facebook, you have to know that guys will hit on her. When you break up, they will know, and they will be all over her. From experience.
Author SerCay Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Thanks guys.. See in my case I had caught my so having phone activity with others before and his list existed of 90 % female acquaintances.. When I asked him to friend me and put our relationship there he said he couldnt, because he needs space, he said it had nothing to do with girls and he can put up 'in a relationship' but not with who.. Thats when I started to make an issue of it, at that point we had been together 2 years and I never ever checked his phone nor asked him where he had been etc. So none of the typical jealousy things my point is, if we are serious and all, why is 1 click of your mouse bugging you so much? When we haven't even been friends on fb until now.. it bugs because it seems as if im putting fb before real life but its just weird to me that a person with so much online activity like him would make such a fuss out of a name!!
flitzanu Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Thanks guys.. See in my case I had caught my so having phone activity with others before and his list existed of 90 % female acquaintances.. When I asked him to friend me and put our relationship there he said he couldnt, because he needs space, he said it had nothing to do with girls and he can put up 'in a relationship' but not with who.. Thats when I started to make an issue of it, at that point we had been together 2 years and I never ever checked his phone nor asked him where he had been etc. So none of the typical jealousy things my point is, if we are serious and all, why is 1 click of your mouse bugging you so much? When we haven't even been friends on fb until now.. it bugs because it seems as if im putting fb before real life but its just weird to me that a person with so much online activity like him would make such a fuss out of a name!! yup. that's an issue. if he is refusing to change status, then he probably doesn't care about you as much as you care about him. as the others say, yes, it's "just facebook" and having a status or not can be irrelevant, but i think that is when BOTH of you can agree what the status should or shouldn't be. if one person is asking about it changing and the other is refusing...you're not that important, or you're being hidden from someone else (or they are hiding someone from you). how do i know? because the three times i've seen this behavior personally, i was being hidden from someone else. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 yup. that's an issue. if he is refusing to change status, then he probably doesn't care about you as much as you care about him. as the others say, yes, it's "just facebook" and having a status or not can be irrelevant, but i think that is when BOTH of you can agree what the status should or shouldn't be. if one person is asking about it changing and the other is refusing...you're not that important, or you're being hidden from someone else (or they are hiding someone from you). how do i know? because the three times i've seen this behavior personally, i was being hidden from someone else. It happened to me as well, and when I tried to change my status, he got furious and threatened me. I wonder if he changed his status for his new g/f....his excuse was "I'm a private person'....riiiiiiiight. Your answer is spot on. as always. 2
Author SerCay Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Yess I got that exact same excuse too! Private person, and willing to put ''relationship'' but not my name..
flitzanu Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Yess I got that exact same excuse too! Private person, and willing to put ''relationship'' but not my name.. you should run 2
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