water4150 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Ok so 7 months past my break up with ex. I finally moved on and I found a new girl now. She is amazing! We known each other for a while b/c of school and thanks to finals we studied together and became very close. Once the semester ended we went to the bar with a group of friends (all mutual). At the bar we were just touching elbow to elbow and then touching gradually increased. Long story short on I was driving her home and she was all over me while I was driving. There was quiet a bit of making out. She did have a bit too much to drink lol but she remembered it all and said it was an "epic night". We had to take a small test for our nursing program so we met up at school. We parked in different places and she offered to drive me to my car. We hugged and kissed. Then when we were driving (different cars), I pulled in front of her, put both my hands through the sun roof and made a heart shape. She had a big smile...a reallllyyy big one and we were blowing kisses to eachother and making faces through the mirrors. We were both smiling and everything. Buttt now with the text messages she doesn't reply until 6 hours later, or she will neglect a text message. For example, last night she texted she hates her job...I wrote back "=\ wish there was something i can do to help ya" and she has not responded at all. Another time we had a small conversation and then she just stops talkign completely. I would be the last message and I won't send a follow up b/c I don't want to push her away or do too much. What do I do? Or what shouldn't I do...I don't want to mess this up b/c there's something about this girl that I never felt with my 2.5 year ex and in one night with her I had more fun then the 2.5 years of the ex... Help...
NateC Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 It's hard to say exactly what the best move would be...do you know a lot about her past? Previous relationships can play a big part in her behavior...especially if they didn't end well (not saying there's a way for a relationship to end *well*, but some have a lot more emotional impact than others). If she's had a bad experience before she might be closing herself to you...in that case, keep trying, but don't push her too much. Try to see her in-person again and perhaps bring it up.
Author water4150 Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 It's hard to say exactly what the best move would be...do you know a lot about her past? Previous relationships can play a big part in her behavior...especially if they didn't end well (not saying there's a way for a relationship to end *well*, but some have a lot more emotional impact than others). If she's had a bad experience before she might be closing herself to you...in that case, keep trying, but don't push her too much. Try to see her in-person again and perhaps bring it up. Yea...she has a really bad relationshp history...she told me about them. But the thing is she even said to me "you treat me so good". And based on what she told me, I'm probably the best she has so far but I think she might be some what scared when we are not near each other? I don't know its really hard to say. When we together she is really there and all over. So its a tough game for me... I'm used to my ex where we would text non stop and the responses were right away. I guess she is different and thats what making its fun..
NateC Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Yea...she has a really bad relationshp history...she told me about them. But the thing is she even said to me "you treat me so good". And based on what she told me, I'm probably the best she has so far but I think she might be some what scared when we are not near each other? I don't know its really hard to say. When we together she is really there and all over. So its a tough game for me... I'm used to my ex where we would text non stop and the responses were right away. I guess she is different and thats what making its fun.. Every person is different. It seems to me that she prefers in-person interaction rather than texting. You know what to do now.
Author water4150 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Every person is different. It seems to me that she prefers in-person interaction rather than texting. You know what to do now. Yea, I'm trying to keep my cool but I keep thinking...great what if there is another guy that I may not know of... During the end of my relationship with the ex...she was talking to some other guy before she broke it off with me. She killed my trust and I want to be able to not worry about anything like that. I don't want that to ruin what I can have with this girl. I didn't go through the rebound phase, I wanted to avoid that as much as possible and with her...I know I'm ready to move on. I guess I'm just worried and jealous?
NateC Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Yea, I'm trying to keep my cool but I keep thinking...great what if there is another guy that I may not know of... During the end of my relationship with the ex...she was talking to some other guy before she broke it off with me. She killed my trust and I want to be able to not worry about anything like that. I don't want that to ruin what I can have with this girl. I didn't go through the rebound phase, I wanted to avoid that as much as possible and with her...I know I'm ready to move on. I guess I'm just worried and jealous? It's normal to be worried. Just go with the flow and see what from comes it. However, don't set your expectations too high.
truth_seeker Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 During the end of my relationship with the ex...she was talking to some other guy before she broke it off with me. This is what girls do. They have the new guy lined up before leaving their boyfriend.
FitChick Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 This is what girls do. They have the new guy lined up before leaving their boyfriend. Men are no different.
Author water4150 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 It's normal to be worried. Just go with the flow and see what from comes it. However, don't set your expectations too high. That's the thing...we already hooked up and we had a kiss goodbye a few days after so it feels like there is really really really high potential... I'm also a bit inpatient since its been 7 months since my last one lol...but there is no doubt that this is an upgrade
Author water4150 Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 This is what girls do. They have the new guy lined up before leaving their boyfriend. Yea...too bad the thing is that the guy was engaged and has no direction in life with no degree... Unlike me whose busting my butt off in nursing school making my own choices in life...Her loss!
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