ElPapi Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 My ex broke up with me 10 days ago because she said we were not clicking anymore. When she is stressed with all her work and her son she becomes distant. it has happened before and we got back together. I want to get her back but the letter is not going to say anything like that. The letter is going to be more about how she is a great mother and person and that I love her son and that i will be there for him no matter what. The father doesn't live close and he doesnt see him often. I will also say how I respect her decision to break up. The other thing is i wanted to tell her that I was saving up for an engagement ring and that I was looking at apartments for me to finally move out and be more independent. I am 22 and she is 25. Should I send the letter? What should I say?
mephisto Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Write the letter, post it here and leave it at that. Simple, right ? Stick to it. Any other attempt will stress her even more. My ex broke up with me 10 days ago because she said we were not clicking anymore. When she is stressed with all her work and her son she becomes distant. it has happened before and we got back together. I want to get her back but the letter is not going to say anything like that. The letter is going to be more about how she is a great mother and person and that I love her son and that i will be there for him no matter what. The father doesn't live close and he doesnt see him often. I will also say how I respect her decision to break up. The other thing is i wanted to tell her that I was saving up for an engagement ring and that I was looking at apartments for me to finally move out and be more independent. I am 22 and she is 25. Should I send the letter? What should I say?
furby19 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I agree...but I say write the letter and read it everyday to yourself. Don't send it to her. If she really wants to be with you....she will come back in the future. In the meantime go out with some friends, get a new hobby, or do some overtime at work. Don't dread the situation. You can not change someone else's mind or the way that they feel. So take care of yourself and if you are the one for her, she will be back.
Author ElPapi Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Well yesterday I saw her and we were talking. I told her I wanted to give her son my favorite baseball cap. She said that it was crossing the line and that I should give it to my first born when I have it either with her or someone else. she also can't get back together because she is just so busy. Why would she say that about the baby? Does she still want to eventually get back? No woman would say that to somebody she doesn't want. I also gave her the letter. We talked on Facebook and she says she has no comment on it yet which is understandable. I talked about how I lover her son and all that. For now she just wants to stay friends. 1
furby19 Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 (edited) She does not want to be with you. She does not want to even be your friend. She told you that she was too busy to get back with you? Listen to me....I am a female. There is no such thing as too busy. I know from personal experience that people tend to make time for people that they want to make time for. She is too busy for you because "she is just not that into you". I'm not sorry for being mean either. We specifically told you not to give her the letter. You pretty much gave her power over you when you did that. Therefore, you don't need our advice because it is clear that you are going to do whatever it is that you want to do anyway. Take care of yourself and go back and re-read the replies to your post if you want to know what we think. I'm not giving you anymore advice. P.S She does not want a baby by you. She doesn't want you to give her son your hat because she does not want to feel guilty allowing you to give something that may mean something to you to her son when she knows that she is not trying to deal with you anymore. She just doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Edited May 27, 2012 by furby19 1
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