PJKino Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 As a whole popularity and status seem more important to women in judging men then vice versa why do you think that is? Why doesnt a womens popularity or status really boost her up in guys minds as much as the other way around? I always found that fascinating the whole dynamic One of my friends whos i guess the "leader" of our group always had women interested in him sexually becasue of it but it but it went beyond just sexual attraction, a married women in our social circle said she admired that he was one of the popular kids in high school and because of that she was always seemed smitten by him[not in a sexual way] and seemed to want his approval and wanted him to like her badly Mind you were in our early 30's shes talking about high school which was 15 years ago for most of us So ladies what is it about a mans popularity that either turns you on sexually or badly wants approval of a man with status to like you as a person and be accepted by him? 3
Mrlonelyone Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I think it's false to think that a woman's social status does not matter. A woman with a hot body but who's known to be a total itch will not keep friends or lovers. I don't know about genetic women but this is my $0.02. A popular man, a successful man is one who will be better able to provide. Not only will some of his popularity rub off on me but it means people are less likely to mess with him and by extension me. That has been my experience. 1
MaxNoob Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I think it's false to think that a woman's social status does not matter. A woman with a hot body but who's known to be a total itch will not keep friends or lovers. If I had a choice between: A) A woman with 500 facebook friends, phone constantly ringing, surrounded by judgmental friends who tell her I'm too young for her (even though the age difference was 1 year apart) or B) An introverted woman with no friends, but living a life that is true to her herself and not what others expect of her, such as Hillary Swank in Million Dollar Baby. I'll take B.
Kamille Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I admit status matters to me (but for me popularity is something else entirely, and not something to which I give much thought). The bottomline is this: I fall for men I admire. It can be as simple as admiring the work they do for their community (ex), their intelligence (ex ex), their drive, etc. It could be a provider thing, as suggested by Mr. Lonelyone, or it could be a result of socialization. Pick up any adventure movie: the core basis of the narrative is this: Man does something outstanding, woman admires him. My conclusion to that? Pick one thing, one thing you're passionate about and excel at it. There's likely to be a woman out there who will admire you for it.
AD1980 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Women want a man that is better then her ie she can look up to
oldshirt Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 My conclusion to that? Pick one thing, one thing you're passionate about and excel at it. There's likely to be a woman out there who will admire you for it. There's a lot of truth to that statement. (the disclaimer that I would add though is it has to be something that women are actually interested in and see a value in though. Reaching a score of 499,376 in Minion Warriors is likely not going to acheive any admiration in most women)
gaius Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Women are just judged differently status wise, mostly on their looks. It's just as important to guys. Also, you can be absolutely awful at everything but if you find a way to be confident and authoritative women will still love you. I think the problem is most men can't bring themselves to be that unless they are good at something. 5
ThaWholigan Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Women are just judged differently status wise, mostly on their looks. It's just as important to guys. Also, you can be absolutely awful at everything but if you find a way to be confident and authoritative women will still love you. I think the problem is most men can't bring themselves to be that unless they are good at something. And they convince themselves it's too hard to be good at anything, or not worth the hassle. 1
FitChick Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I don't need a popular guy, just one who is comfortable socially so he wouldn't embarrass me like Tom Hanks in this scene. 2
d'Arthez Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Confidence and strength of character can do wonders for men. The first can be learned, the second is a personal journey to grow a spine, instead of acting like a fair weather jellyfish. Women's status often revolves around her looks and feminine ideals she has to adhere to (why do you think tomboys are not often seen as attractive?). The latter can be learnt, whilst the former is mostly an accident of birth. 1
threebyfate Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Reconsider the issue from another perspective. Why was your friend popular in high school and how did he become the "leader" of your group? 1
ThaWholigan Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Reconsider the issue from another perspective. Why was your friend popular in high school and how did he become the "leader" of your group? Ahh, the million dollar question 1
Star Gazer Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 As a whole popularity and status seem more important to women in judging men then vice versa why do you think that is? Why doesnt a womens popularity or status really boost her up in guys minds as much as the other way around? I have found it to be the exact reverse. I've never cared if a guy was popular or had status, but many men have liked ME for that very reason.
Woggle Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Not to stereotype but women seem to care much more about being trendy and popular than men do especially after a certain age. I know some men who wear their outsider status as a badge of honor but few women that do. I know women in their 30s and 40s who still care about keeping with the Jones and social status. They have to have the latest fashions and the nicest house and most expensive car. True female rebels are sexy as hell but they are a rare breed especially in these materialistic times. They used to be much more common place when I was in my teens and early 20s but these days they are hard to find.
Kamille Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I also think the OP is missing part of the dynamic... I don't care about getting a man's approval. But many men care about getting mine. As much as I fall for men I admire, they also like to be admired. I can only hope one day I meet a man who admires me as much as I do him (like SG). 1
d'Arthez Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I have found it to be the exact reverse. I've never cared if a guy was popular or had status, but many men have liked ME for that very reason. My kind of girl:love: 1
threebyfate Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 To respond to the question with my personal preferences, it's less to do with popularity and more to do with the qualities in a man. If he's dumb, forget it. If he lacks a code of ethics that he adheres to, forget it. If he lacks a great sense of humour, forget it. If he lacks wit, forget it. If he lacks drive and passion, forget it. If he lacks logic, forget it.If he lacks the ability to be caring and unselfish (within reason) towards his loved ones, forget it.If he lacks confidence, forget it.If he lacks.... The list of forget it, goes on and on where popularity is irrelevant.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 (edited) Women want a man that is better then her ie she can look up to Pretty much this answers the question. Women are just judged differently status wise, mostly on their looks. It's just as important to guys. The difference is a woman's looks aren't based on hierarchy. Men like short, tall, skinny, chubby, long-haired, short-haired, etc. type of women. What might be considered a high quality woman to one man could be considered low quality to the next man. I have found it to be the exact reverse. I've never cared if a guy was popular or had status, but many men have liked ME for that very reason. I'm curious to know what popularity and status men liked about you? Edited May 20, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Unnecessary
Ruby Slippers Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I've recently been seeing a guy who is pretty far from my usual type - and we had a conversation last night which cemented my understanding that in his circles, he is a "high-status" guy. He's pretty much always the leader of the pack, and the other guys look up to him. It's not his status that impresses me - it's the fact that he's quiet but strong, very confident in who he is but not arrogant, highly observant in any situation, take-charge. Of course, that disposition attracts a following, which creates the status. Men can see it, and they follow him. I can see it, and I want him. It's hard to explain why these qualities are so attractive. I guess it's because he's like the "king of the jungle". People like him and nobody messes with him, so I feel safe and protected with him. Also, a guy like this goes after what he wants - so it gives me a good, secure feeling to know that even with all his options, he's chosen me. 1
Badsingularity Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 whatever. it's his status. you women play with words. Nope. It's inner strength and strong self belief.
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