Author iris219 Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 30 and 21? Predatory behaviour. Next! Actually, he’s 38.
Author iris219 Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 I would not date a man who dated someone that much younger than them. A man in his late 30's dating a women in her early 20's would gross me out too. I personally view it as a sign of poor character. I don't care that society gives it a pass. I want men who want an equal. Not a little girl... It speaks to the dynamics he prefers, and I'd want no part of that. I’m realistic about the age issue, even if I don't entirely agree with it. If given the opportunity, I believe most men would date a young, attractive girl. He said that he was trying to be her friend, that he didn’t pursue her sexually. I don’t know how or when that dynamic changed. You don't think this is about jealously? I don’t think it is about jealously. Feeling jealous wouldn’t make me so uncomfortable. It wouldn’t make me not want to touch him. I can deal with jealously. I’ve dated men who’ve dated models and actresses before me and I never felt grossed out.
RedRobin Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 (edited) I’m realistic about the age issue, even if I don't entirely agree with it. If given the opportunity, I believe most men would date a young, attractive girl. He said that he was trying to be her friend, that he didn’t pursue her sexually. I don’t know how or when that dynamic changed. Most men might try it because their friends egg them on or they are curious. The decent, well-adjusted ones avoid it and don't think it is healthy either. The less well-adjusted ones will find all kinds of ways to justify it. Take a look around this site and ask yourself if you'd date any of the men who brag about dating much younger women. Think about it. Are you really interested in a guy who just wants to f*ck faces? Seriously... it is either one or the other... they are superficial, are predatory, or have some kind of control issues. If it was a messed up experiment... then maybe. Still, that is a huge age difference in my book. Look, I realize your dating pool is rather limited where you are. It is probably tempting to look the other way on this. I wouldn't. But that is just me. Edited May 20, 2012 by RedRobin
Author iris219 Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 Most men might try it because their friends egg them on or they are curious. The decent, well-adjusted ones avoid it and don't think it is healthy either. The less well-adjusted ones will find all kinds of ways to justify it. Take a look around this site and ask yourself if you'd date any of the men who brag about dating much younger women. Think about it. Are you really interested in a guy who just wants to f*ck faces? Seriously... it is either one or the other... they are superficial, are predatory, or have some kind of control issues. If it was a messed up experiment... then maybe. Still, that is a huge age difference in my book. Look, I realize your dating pool is rather limited where you are. It is probably tempting to look the other way on this. I wouldn't. But that is just me. Exactly. If I had any options, I wouldn’t even be considering this guy, for reasons beyond the young girl. It’s so depressing what a lack of options will cause you to accept. I'm willing to settle (I mean really SETTLE) and I can't even find a man above horrible! Anyone can read my previous posts and see how incredibly depressing dating can be for women over 30.
RedRobin Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Exactly. If I had any options, I wouldn’t even be considering this guy, for reasons beyond the young girl. It’s so depressing what a lack of options will cause you to accept. I'm willing to settle (I mean really SETTLE) and I can't even find a man above horrible! Anyone can read my previous posts and see how incredibly depressing dating can be for women over 30. You just need to move to a different area. Find a way. Seriously. When the recovering alcoholics, perpetually unemployed, and serial cheaters can find girlfriends in my town with a snap of their fingers... it's time to freakin' move. That, and all of my single female friends have the same issues. They aren't even that picky. They date men of different ages, economic status, etc. What all of us won't compromise on though, is values. So, here we are...
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