Imported Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 becuase i'm 40 years old and a virgin. that's why. how long should i wait? That's why you're a virgin, because you're "waiting". Pussy is easy to get and you don't even have to be anything special to get it.
verhrzn Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Maybe you already mentioned it, but what's your objection to posting a picture?
canoeracer Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 and now its ridiculous because women just hate virgins at 40 How would they know you're a virgin? You aren't telling them, are you?
FitChick Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 How would they know you're a virgin? You aren't telling them, are you? He tells everybody!
Necromancer Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Working out does wonders for your own self-esteem. Even if it just means going on walks. As a woman, I will tell you that confidence and personality will make up for almost anything and everything. Be confident when you talk to people, be funny, work on just generally being friendly. Try this out on some girls who are not talking about you or being otherwise very rude. Also, go to events associated with your interests to meet more like-minded people, such as through meetup.com If you have confidence in yourself, other people will too. When my bf and I started dating, he introduced me to one of his friends. He was pretty worried because he felt his friend would hit on me or in other ways attempt to "steal me", and he was worried his friend might be successful (I might decide his friend was better than him). I was horrified by this, but he said his friend was just a natural ladies man, and had no problem getting women to fall all over him. My bf is quite attractive by most people's standards. He's extremely smart, well educated and athletic. He was also in his mid-twenties at the time and not experienced with women, and had almost no history with dating (none since early high school). He was horribly shy around girls (still is actually). His friend was extremely average looking, average height, average build. Had a decent job as an engineer though, drove a BMW, dressed like your average geeky guy. Apparently was doing pretty well for himself, not rich, but not hurting. Same age as my bf. Looked like a pretty average computer geek (and we were in the Silicon Valley). I met him, he was funny, a bit on the cocky/arrogant side, but very warm and inviting. And an odd cross of geek meets smarmy guy hitting on you in the bar. All in all, I was appalled that *this* was the guy my bf was worried about. But, to his credit, he had confidence. He had no shame in talking to any girl, no matter how "far out of his league" she might be. And he had about a 95% success rate. Young girls, older girls, beautiful girls, quirky girls, you name it. Not a single girl I have since met that was one of his exs was anything short of very pretty. While I found him to be somewhat on the creepy side, (maybe because I was the gf of one of his supposed best friends?) the moral of this story is that confidence WORKS, and it clearly has nothing to do with how built, ripped, tall, or hot you are. (This guy was 5'10, no build, very average). 95%? really?........ what does he approach 1 girl a year, after she had made it clear she wants to **** him?. The only guys who are braging about 90% plus success rate i know, are really good looking and they never approach random girls. Please cut this confidense and personality bullcrap, girls don´t give an ass about your personality/confidense if you are not good looking(face vise). 1
bamp78 Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 Who cares what she(s) thinks? What do you think of yourself? You have low self esteem and you show that to others through your body language. Stop thinking about what others think of you and develop a better mindset and over time as you become more self aware and confident people will naturally be attracted to you. It doesn't matter how you dress or what you bench it's all about how interesting your personality is so if you live a boring life than go get some hobbies, meet new people, volunteer somewhere so you get exposed to life outside of what you live now.
Author Necris Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 problem is when women do not think you are attractive you will never have a relationship.
ThaWholigan Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 problem is when women do not think you are attractive you will never have a relationship. Not true. If you don't think you are attractive, then you will project yourself as an unattractive person, ergo women will find you unattractive. It's hard when you have your negative beliefs reinforced, I get that. I have struggled with my own appearance over the years and always believed I was ugly until I started to see myself as a more attractive person. As a result, people now see me as a more intriguing and attractive person, because I stopped believing I was ugly. Now, I still have a way to go in terms of my looks. I could be better at grooming, I don't really have that much style these days and I need to be MUCH fitter than I am now (my dad is still giving me a pasting about not working out ). But I'm confident I will reach those goals, and I'm more relaxed now that I know that I don't need any validation from people about myself - even if I may want it.
rana-rana Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 I noticed women in general do not think I am very attractive so what should I do? This isn't anything new to me its been apparent forever it seems. Like a couple of days ago I overheard a couple of girls whispering about me talking behind my back both girls themselves were obese so that was actually kind of funny, but annoying at the same time since I've had been nice to them but they talk behind my back oh well. This behavior isn't actually that unusual it seems that in my experience women in general do not seem to be attracted to me just cold, distant, unfriendly, and a woman flirting with me or actually not rejecting me and wanting to go out with me is something totally unheard of. So I was wondering what should I do? Sometimes I wish I could just totally stop thinking about women I would probably feel so much better. Yea maybe u should lml. But seriously, if u have no luck whatsoever with a girl then try the other way.
Freddys Posted May 21, 2012 Posted May 21, 2012 How would they know you're a virgin? You aren't telling them, are you? He isn't telling them verbally, BUT with actions . . . "Virginity" isn't if you have ever placed your d*ck into a p*ssy, but the way you act, speak, move even the way you shut your mouth.
Author Necris Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Not true. If you don't think you are attractive, then you will project yourself as an unattractive person, ergo women will find you unattractive. It's hard when you have your negative beliefs reinforced, I get that. I have struggled with my own appearance over the years and always believed I was ugly until I started to see myself as a more attractive person. As a result, people now see me as a more intriguing and attractive person, because I stopped believing I was ugly. Now, I still have a way to go in terms of my looks. I could be better at grooming, I don't really have that much style these days and I need to be MUCH fitter than I am now (my dad is still giving me a pasting about not working out ). But I'm confident I will reach those goals, and I'm more relaxed now that I know that I don't need any validation from people about myself - even if I may want it. I know I'm not mr.ultrahotcoolguy or whatever but personally I don't think of myself as that unattractive but it seems that women do not seem to be attracted to me. Its not that I need validation but if women do not find me attractive the possibility of having a relationship approaches zero.
Author Necris Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 He isn't telling them verbally, BUT with actions . . . "Virginity" isn't if you have ever placed your d*ck into a p*ssy, but the way you act, speak, move even the way you shut your mouth. people can smell virginity it seems, way back in high school I was laughed at for being a virgin, everyone knew I was a virgin and I never told anyone.
Author Necris Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 anybody else feel like its impossible to get women to feel attracted to you?
Author Necris Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 (edited) Why don't you post a pic... Unfortunately I can't show a picture of myself since for one I don't keep pictures of me around and I'm not really comfortable giving them out, but I will say, to myself I'm not that unattractive and I've seen guys who I perceive as alot less attractive than me getting women with ease. I am 6 foot 3 inches 230lbs, Black and somewhat muscular (I can bench 270). Perhaps I could lose some weight and become better conditioned I'm not obese or anything but I don't have ripped muscles either and having fat is quite unnecessary, my skin could be better, and I do have severe scoliosis and one of my hands hasn't developed properly both of these are congenital birth defects and according to my doctor and other people not actually noticeable at all. Typically I wear a polo or gamer shirt (I'm extremely nerdy), blue or black jeans, basketball shoes, glasses, and sometimes I wear headphones to listen to music. Edited May 22, 2012 by Necris
JesseJames Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 Yeah, they can sense freak worse than a mosquito senses human. Nothing to do really. Freak chicks never go out or do anything. You most likely don't want a freak chick anyway. SOL. Sorry dude.
motive2002 Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 I'm a bit tired of hearing "get some confidence". It's a bit cliche. If you can't "get some confidence", and really no surprise there since it seems almost esoteric, get yourself a good WINGMAN! First #1 thing to make yourself instantly more attractive is: SMILE Yeah it isn't a hairstyle or a fitness program, but could it be that simple? It absolutely is that simple. Second #2 thing to make yourself instantly more attractive: Are we on to hairstyle or killer abs yet? Nope! The next thing is to HAVE A GOOD TIME! If you are having a good time AND smiling, people want to know what's up. They see you as cheerful, and probably most important for the ladies NON-THREATENING. How can you easily get both of these things going on without much practice? That's where the WINGMAN comes in. If you got yourself a good buddy you can laugh and joke with and generally have a good time, you will appear more attractive from just that alone. Not only does it give you "social proof" (i.e. "Hey that looks like a friendly, easy going guy!") it makes you seem less threatening (I did mention that right?) and of course the whole smiling and having a good time thing. Losers don't have friends. You are automatically not a "loser" when you've got your wingman buddy around. You are a fun, laid back, easy going person with a smile on their face and having a good time and people want a good time. If you are sitting on a bench by yourself, already lamenting how you are not getting attention from any chicks, you are not smiling and having a good time. If you look in a woman's direction and you do not smile, or otherwise acknowledge their existence in a friendly manner (a smile is good for this) you may seem like a creepy lecher or something. That will get a couple girls talking about you and probably not in a way you'd like. Practice your smile and having a good time, and stop thinking about what women are thinking about you and the confidence thing will start to build up naturally from there. I can't believe I'm posting this but there it is 1
JesseJames Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 I'm a bit tired of hearing "get some confidence". It's a bit cliche. If you can't "get some confidence", and really no surprise there since it seems almost esoteric, get yourself a good WINGMAN! First #1 thing to make yourself instantly more attractive is: SMILE Yeah it isn't a hairstyle or a fitness program, but could it be that simple? It absolutely is that simple. Second #2 thing to make yourself instantly more attractive: Are we on to hairstyle or killer abs yet? Nope! The next thing is to HAVE A GOOD TIME! If you are having a good time AND smiling, people want to know what's up. They see you as cheerful, and probably most important for the ladies NON-THREATENING. How can you easily get both of these things going on without much practice? That's where the WINGMAN comes in. If you got yourself a good buddy you can laugh and joke with and generally have a good time, you will appear more attractive from just that alone. Not only does it give you "social proof" (i.e. "Hey that looks like a friendly, easy going guy!") it makes you seem less threatening (I did mention that right?) and of course the whole smiling and having a good time thing. Losers don't have friends. You are automatically not a "loser" when you've got your wingman buddy around. You are a fun, laid back, easy going person with a smile on their face and having a good time and people want a good time. If you are sitting on a bench by yourself, already lamenting how you are not getting attention from any chicks, you are not smiling and having a good time. If you look in a woman's direction and you do not smile, or otherwise acknowledge their existence in a friendly manner (a smile is good for this) you may seem like a creepy lecher or something. That will get a couple girls talking about you and probably not in a way you'd like. Practice your smile and having a good time, and stop thinking about what women are thinking about you and the confidence thing will start to build up naturally from there. I can't believe I'm posting this but there it is I'll have to disagree with the whole smiling thing. Some are better off smiling with their eyes. Nobody really wants to see teeth and the inside of the throat... that's gross. A wingman isn't fooling anybody but the elderly. Having a time....everyone can agree with that.
ohmygoshistalk Posted May 22, 2012 Posted May 22, 2012 there is really really really no point announcing that u are a virgin, especially to a girl u like or a bunch of girls.. just act like you know and hope they dont notice.
Author Necris Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 Yeah, they can sense freak worse than a mosquito senses human. Nothing to do really. Freak chicks never go out or do anything. You most likely don't want a freak chick anyway. SOL. Sorry dude. That reminds me of a story, I did meet a girl that was a bit different than most girls I met and even went on a date with her. She was shy and nerdy like myself so I thought I found my counterpart, she wasn't very attractive but I didn't care, unfortunately the date went pear shaped extremely quickly. I don't know for some reason she wanted to act as insane as possible in the middle of a restaurant that I took her to from yelling out her man on man orgy sex fantasies to voicing support for the Nazis it was pretty bad she was definitely a head turner but in the worst way possible. After the date she revealed that while she had fun she didn't really like me and she never spoke to me again.
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