mpz Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 really need some help and guidance please..6 years of my life goneeat and my mind is constantly on my recent break up. I have been in a serious relationship for 6 years with my ex girlfriend. We loved each other more than anything,we stuck through a lot. Even went to different universities,but we managed to see each other at weekends and it felt really special. She graduated a year before i did and she moved to a new city because of a job. we were making it work and had plans to move in together once i had graduated. however when i did graduate i moved back home whilst i was looking for a job, i did want to move in with her but didn't want to mess her around,i.e,we found a place together for me then to get a job in a different part of the country. Anyway recently i had to opportunity to go and work abroad for a month,i needed the experience and my gf wasn't going to stop me but i knew she wasn't happy because she was in a bad place because i wasn't with her.when i arrived back she told me she couldn't be with me anymore. 6 weeks on i find out she has not only been sleeping with someone else,a fitness instructor from her bootcamp classes,but they also went on holiday together. i can't believe after6 years that this has happened to me,i love her so so much and can't let go on so quickly. i thought we loved each other more than anything,i can't sleep and the thought of her sleeping with someone else kills me. and to go on holiday with him so soon,im just so gutted. i need help and advice on how to deal with this situation. thanks
Laveli Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 (edited) Not sure what you’re asking for, let it go. She is garbage! She may evenhave done something like this before also. Seems like a pro to go on a holidaywith him so fast. Consider yourself lucky my friend. Cheaters gonna cheat. Live your life, find happinesswithin. Edited May 20, 2012 by Laveli
Author mpz Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 Thanks man, no matter what I do it still hurts. I'm filled with guilt as to how I could have changed things to prevent this from happening. 6 years of knowing someone isn't going to get out of my system any time soon. Not only that she was on the phone to me yesterday telling me to drive down to see her......why would she be doing that!?
Tree_Salmon Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Thanks man, no matter what I do it still hurts. I'm filled with guilt as to how I could have changed things to prevent this from happening. 6 years of knowing someone isn't going to get out of my system any time soon. Not only that she was on the phone to me yesterday telling me to drive down to see her......why would she be doing that!? She feels guilty for being a crappy person. This is all about her and nothing about you. Selfish and immature. I was in a 5 year one. Not really like yours but the outcome is basically the same. I wouldn't say you wasted 6 years. I'm assuming you had some great times. In fact, i did some amazing things in my life during the first 3 years of my relationship. It was truly an incredible thing. I will never say it was a waste. Look where you are now. You are thinking about things that you never had to before. I say this isn't a waste. It all happened for a reason. You wont make this mistake again. You shouldn't anyway.
Author mpz Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 Yeah we did have some great times, like every relationship we had our ups and downs. Think it makes it harder that she was my first love too. I hope this has happened for a reason, just feeling pretty lost and not sure whether I should just cut her out of my life for good now?
Laveli Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 She feels guilty for being a crappy person. This is all about her and nothing about you. Selfish and immature. I was in a 5 year one. Not really like yours but the outcome is basically the same. I wouldn't say you wasted 6 years. I'm assuming you had some great times. In fact, i did some amazing things in my life during the first 3 years of my relationship. It was truly an incredible thing. I will never say it was a waste. Look where you are now. You are thinking about things that you never had to before. I say this isn't a waste. It all happened for a reason. You wont make this mistake again. You shouldn't anyway. This! Very well said.
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