Forever Learning Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 You're very welcome. Glad it helped SOMEBODY, lol. People DO regress in life if they don't improve. After so many years, your confidence wanes and if you're in the same position as you were X-years ago, then you're not growing. And if you're not growing, odds are you're regressing. This is not a knock on anyone, but one must be vigilant about matters as to not regress. The worst = regressing and denying it. Before I saw your post today, I was thinking about this, in terms of myself. I had several epiphanys recently and stumbled upon this realization about myself. To then read your very well written and insightful opinion about it, just further cemented my suspicions that this has happened to me. Luckily, I realize it, and have some plans of action to work on this for myself. The first step is admitting you have a problem (or shortcoming, or area to work on). I do admit that about myself. I need more practice, and practice makes improvement, if not perfect. Thanks again! I am feeling upbeat about my chances at improvement in this area, and feeling optimistic about it is a great thing. 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted May 23, 2012 Posted May 23, 2012 Last time I checked, I'm not 14; so how come I'm still getting nervous when I talk to girls I'm even a little bit interested in. Earlier at work today I had an short conversation with a girl I'm somewhat interested in. But the conversation was awkward and I couldn't flow like I normally can. I also felt my heart racing, mouth got dry and felt like I was going to start sweating. WTF!? I should be long past that stage. Totally normal
Meeks7 Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 Before I saw your post today, I was thinking about this, in terms of myself. I had several epiphanys recently and stumbled upon this realization about myself. To then read your very well written and insightful opinion about it, just further cemented my suspicions that this has happened to me. Luckily, I realize it, and have some plans of action to work on this for myself. The first step is admitting you have a problem (or shortcoming, or area to work on). I do admit that about myself. I need more practice, and practice makes improvement, if not perfect. Thanks again! I am feeling upbeat about my chances at improvement in this area, and feeling optimistic about it is a great thing. Wow, don't cha just love that? When you start feeling a certain way, then you come across something (could be on the radio, a coworker, or even an internet post) that confirms it for ya? I love that. I call those "divine appointments." Wow well... I'm sure glad I hit submit. I almost didn't figuring Somedude81 would not care to read it (and he admitted he didn't) but I had no idea it would end up benefitting someone else. Hallelujah! Haha. So glad to hear you've taken the first step. What is your 2nd step going to be, if you don't mind me asking? Another tip: momentum is HUGE. Like super super critical. Don't let an epiphany sit for days on end without any sort of action being carried out, because days quickly become weeks, and weeks quickly become months. Before you know it, you haven't changed at all in 2 years. So I urge you to act upon your 2nd step (whatever you see that 2nd step as being) ASAP. Momentum is everything in a sense. It helps to build upon small victories, step by step. I wish you all the best! 1
Els Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 What's funny is that I don't think I'm that attracted to her. There's another at my work who is much more attractive than her, and I can joke around with her no problem. But she has a boyfriend and is off-limits. I think that the fact that I want something from this girl, is what is giving me trouble. I'm just dissaponted in myself because I can talk to girls, and I've asked out other girls without being nervous, so this is just odd for me. Well, this is the sort of thing that gets better with practice. IMO you haven't had much practice, you've asked out maybe 20 girls in your life? I don't understand what you mean by the bolded too. Did you not 'want something' from the other girls you've asked out before?
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