AnObserver Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Just wondering, how common is it these days for a 32-yr-old man to still be single and unmarried? I have a small social circle and can't really judge. I am talking about big cities, e.g. Washington DC, Chicago, NYC.
Laveli Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 32 just broke up with the ex, from Los Angeles. Hope this helps
Sid6.7 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I have never been married, no kids. No intention on getting married. There is nothing really a man can gain from marriage. It's much more common than you may think. Just date and have fun. Life is good. 1
FitChick Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 In large cities, it's quite the usual thing. Only in the rural areas where people have few choices do they marry young. 1
ziggue Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Is female, 32, unmarried, and lives in Sydney, Australia but did not grow up in the City. Glad I moved here but.
coltsfan1 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I am 32, never married and no children. I live in a town of close to a million people and I know quite a few good guys nearing 30 that are like me. I have a good education, a nice home, great family, and great friends too. I would like nothing more than to meet a gal to share both our lifes with. I don't feel like there is anything wrong with my other friends or myself. I hope this helps. Edit- don't know why there is a thumbs downs in my post. I don't know how it got there....... 1
fucpcg Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 You've GOT to be kidding... 32 and single in places like DC? Dime a dozen.
heatherfeather Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 34 female never married...no kids...a couple long relationships. I grew up in the country ..live in a bigger city now really not a big deal. Nothing is wrong with me I just haven't found the one obviously 1
ohmygoshistalk Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 one of my close male friends is turning 32 next year and has never been married and never had sexy time. think about it.
Airborne Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 one of my close male friends is turning 32 next year and has never been married and never had sexy time. think about it. I have a great idea for a birthday present.
stillafool Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 32 isn't that old, especially for a man. Why do you ask?
Art_Critic Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Very common..... 32 is just reaching the "time to settle down" age.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I just saw a news report which said that 1 of every 7 adults in the USA lives alone. In some cities that is as high as 50% of the adults. So people should stop worrying. If your living alone at 35 40 67 or whatever....your not the only one.
carhill Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 A number of friend's children who are in their 30's are not married/cohabiting LTR. Also, I'm noting many 'date' much longer before getting married than was common in my generation at that age. In my generation and social circle, I was an anomaly, being 30's and unmarried; not so much so any more, IME.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 In my generation and social circle, I was an anomaly, being 30's and unmarried; not so much so any more, IME. According to the same news report I mentioned earlier, in the 50's about 4 million Americans were living alone. Now a days that is about 37 million americans. To think of this visually, there are almost as many people living alone as their are either Hispanics or Black Americans. Strange though isn't it. Look at TV and one would think that most people are married or living together. Living with a romantic partner, family or group of friends/roomates. (Especially during those holidays) There would be allot less loneliness and misery if the media reflected that plenty of non losers live alone.
carhill Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 So, using your numbers, the 'living alone' population increased from 2% to 12% from 1950 to 2010.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 So, using your numbers, the 'living alone' population increased from 2% to 12% from 1950 to 2010. Something like that. It's like being single went from being only for hermits and crazypeople....to being as normal as being black. The culture hasn't caught up yet. Most people still idealize being married and having kids etc.
carhill Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 In my local zip code, 6.7% of both males and females of all ages are 'householders living alone', with females outnumbering males in the 65 and older category, 4.7% to 2%. This reflects the rural culture, which varies markedly from metropolitan culture.
pillowcase Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 OP - it's common enough and getting more common. I'm i the same boat as you - 32, unattached, no kids. A fair few (though by no means all) of my friends are starting to settle down, get married and squirt out a few anklescratchers but I'm by no means an anomaly in my social circles. And for every one of my friend's who is settled and happy, there's one who is settled and unhappy. The grass is always greener.
RiverRunning Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I have never been married, no kids. No intention on getting married. There is nothing really a man can gain from marriage. It's much more common than you may think. Just date and have fun. Life is good. Nah, there's actually quite a bit to be gained for a man who gets married. But the losses of DIVORCE are much bigger. If you find a keeper and you're confident it could be for life, statistics generally show married men are much happier and healthier. Not to mention all the help with the housework (or the woman doing all of the housework), child care, and oftentimes nowadays, financial assistance with the bills. To address the OP's original statement: not that uncommon at all to be unmarried in your early 30s in a big city. I live in the suburbs. Where I'm from, it IS a little uncommon to still be unmarried by your mid-20s. I've recently started dating my ex again non-seriously. He'll be 29 this year, never been married.
Sid6.7 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Nah, there's actually quite a bit to be gained for a man who gets married. I disagree. Nothing beneficial about it. But the losses of DIVORCE are much bigger. Agreed. For a Man the losses are staggering. Incomprehensible in some instances. If you find a keeper and you're confident it could be for life, statistics generally show married men are much happier and healthier. Not to mention all the help with the housework (or the woman doing all of the housework), child care, and oftentimes nowadays, financial assistance with the bills. These are all things that can be achieved without marriage being involved. As far as being happier, my sample size shows a much different result. Out of, say, ten of my married friends. Eight are miserable and frequently tell me they should have never gotten married. I tried telling 'em. Not being married is great!
FitChick Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I fear Sid will find out the hard way that he wished he had been married when he is in his sixties and older. I read a profile of a man who was 63 but I think is much older judging by his voice and the fact that he had black and white photos of him looking 30-ish, with dark out of style hair and clothes. He wants a woman in her twenties, preferably Eastern European, to look after him. In return he will take her on trips and introduce her to the "right people." I found it all rather sad. Even if he finds her, she will run off with one of those younger, "right people" and leave him even worse off.
Sid6.7 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I fear Sid will find out the hard way that he wished he had been married when he is in his sixties and older. I read a profile of a man who was 63 but I think is much older judging by his voice and the fact that he had black and white photos of him looking 30-ish, with dark out of style hair and clothes. He wants a woman in her twenties, preferably Eastern European, to look after him. In return he will take her on trips and introduce her to the "right people." I found it all rather sad. Even if he finds her, she will run off with one of those younger, "right people" and leave him even worse off. I don't even know what this is supposed to mean. I have no idea what reading a profile of a person has to do with me and my aversion to getting married. I don't care to get married, It's my opinion there is no gain for a man to do so. What's it to you? If you are implying I am going to grow old alone, well guess what? There is absolutely no guarantees that anyone won't get old alone. None! And by the way do people not plan any more? I have IRA's, and other investment accounts and have diligently planed for my retirement when that day comes. I will be financially stable to care and provide for myself with whatever means deemed necessary. Could marriage ever happen? Sure, anything is possible I suppose. But as of right now I see no benefit to it and no plans on it, life is too good. And if that day did miraculously rear it's head there will be a prenuptial involved I can tell you that much. Nothing wrong with being unmarried.
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