goldengirl11 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 (edited) I have been communicating with a man of a similar age on a dating site for about the past six weeks. We had seen each others photos on our profiles and had exchanged several e-mails and now have had two long phonecalls, each lasting more than a few hours, one lasting through most of the night! Then he sent me two pics taken on his mobile after our last chat on Thurs which were close up ones, and to be honest was not very attracted to him in them. The ones on the site looked better maybe? And not that I'm saying that I'm thin but he said he'd started going to the gym recently. At some point on the phone last time we got into the subject of looks and he said that he wasn't that bothered appearance-wise in a partner and asked me if I was, to which I replied I was partly but not the whole. I admit that I was a little disheartened by this though as I wondered if it could mean that he didn't find me that special to look at in my pic? He also didn't remark on it when we first started 'talking,' yet other men who have approached me on the site have complimented me on it. I want to find a man who really likes me on the inside and out and vice versa. We plan to meet for a dinner date in about 10 days when we'll sort of meet in the middle, although he'll come a bit further I think. He lives approx 3-4 hours away where he has a house, but doesn't have a paid job currently. I'm also jobhunting but he doesn't know this - I was embarassed to say. Any thoughts? Edited May 20, 2012 by goldengirl11
FitChick Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 I think you both being unemployed is more of a problem.
Author goldengirl11 Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 I think you both being unemployed is more of a problem. Yes as in the travel involved?
d'Arthez Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 Self-taken pics, especially on a cell phone, don't always look the best. He may also be a bit insecure about his own looks (an insecurity you may have fed in the conversation). Aside from that, not all men are only interested in the package. So the only thing you are doing now, is taking the position that he should judge you on your looks, and when he does not you feel insecure. That is slightly messed up. What is stopping you from meeting him?
Author goldengirl11 Posted May 20, 2012 Author Posted May 20, 2012 Self-taken pics, especially on a cell phone, don't always look the best. He may also be a bit insecure about his own looks (an insecurity you may have fed in the conversation). Aside from that, not all men are only interested in the package. So the only thing you are doing now, is taking the position that he should judge you on your looks, and when he does not you feel insecure. That is slightly messed up. What is stopping you from meeting him? I still plan on meeting him, just sharing my... concerns, that's all.
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