hate101 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 First she is 9 Years older, she chased me, and asked me out. She initiated first kiss and tried to initiate intimacy. Dated for about 4 months. She has kids, so I was always pushed off. No big thing, I liked that about her, kids first. She has guys chase her all day, everyday. And she seems to have recent bad relationships, was married to abusive husband. Now its hard for me to open up, been a while since I dated. So I would try to communicate over text, she of course would always respond way late to text and she never wanted to talk on the phone. She apparently hasnt been in a relationship in years and always hinted as to thats what she wanted with me. But when I try to ask, I get yelled at or mocked. And she wants to be done. The last time I asked, what do you want qith me, she replys, stay just the same, your perfect, I wouldnt change a thing about you. Sigh. Then later ask again and she gets mean and responds mean. Like how many times do I have to say it, I dont want a relationship. First time shes said that btw. It was always I cant do one right now, bot until I finish court and my kids.... So I get upset, throw a fit and apologize the next day, then she responds I am done, goodbye, you did this to.yourself, dont text or ill change my number. PS, I know I was the nicest guy she has been with. I treated her better than anyone has, and she knows it. Only **** up I would do, is accuse her of being about money, I did that a couple times. But explained myself. Something I need to work on. She never called me her friend, but she would always refer to money, hence the idea she is about money. I dont think she is. Now she hasnt talked to me since that text. I tried, would sent her text once a week, some mean some nice and sent her one Facebook message. Called her once, no answer. I bugged her alot and regret it. Tried contacting her for a month n a half. We never really developed a connection, we started to, but then this hits. Did I mess uo for being so needy after the break up? I was never needy before, and never clingy, I drunked texted her some clingy stuff. What do I do? The end of this is what bothers me. I did a lot for her, I mean a lot, more than you can imagine. And put up with a lot. To easily she was whiling to cut ties. Now she never texted, we always would meet up, and I would text. I know were she works, shoukd I visit her, I feel like I lost my balls, texting and sorta beggin and all that, and would feel akward as hell. Should I wait for her to contact me and or wait for he to deal with her legal issues and try talking to her in person?
lovinglife21 Posted May 20, 2012 Posted May 20, 2012 No don't go to see her. She clearly doesn't know what she wants, sounds like she wants you to be there for her emotionally on her terms, but not have commitment. Honestly you don't want to be in a relationship like that, one day she'd just switch back and you would always have to worry about that. Don't contact her, find someone that will appreciate you for the person you are and will be proud to be in a relationship with you. If you really feel like you need to say goodbye, text or email get it all out of your system and then never speak to her again. xx
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