Imajerk17 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 My grandmother passed away exactly 9 years ago. I still miss her. Grammy was a very wise woman. Especially when it came to dating. And she stayed sharp and "young" right up until her passing. She never got "old", and even in her later years she used to share stories with her much younger female coworkers about men. Grammy always told it to me straight. She admitted in her younger years that she was a wild girl who (a) tooled her Nice Guy boyfriend at the time and then broke up with him, (b) was obsessed with another guy who was a total jerk, and © dated one guy on Friday night (the jerk) and another guy on Saturday night (the guy who would be my grandfather) with neither knowing about the other, until her father (my great-grandfather) put a stop to it and told her it was time for her to pick one. (And then when she was married she was faithful to my grandfather all the way to his passing.) She also told me, after my first love blew me off, that *I* was the one who screwed up. ("I TOLD you not to call her so much but that's what you did! You smothered her and there was no mystery about you. Listen to me next time!") I was so so lucky to have her. Of course, the dating advice was only a small part of it. Thanks to her though, I have a lot of insights about women that I wouldn't have gotten otherwise. I just wish I wasn't so hardheaded and set in my Nice Guy ways at the time. This thread is for you Grammy! 1
gaius Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Everyone needs a bluntly honest woman in their life. Sounds like she would have made an excellent loveshack poster.
ThaWholigan Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 I never really got that much advice from my granny, but I love how sharp she was, very similar to yours. She had a stroke recently, so I hope she can recover fully soon. I usually got advice from my mother instead . My mother has always given me pearls of wisdom. I can honestly say that my mum wasn't one of those "just be nice" mums I hear about a lot. She always told me to have boundaries, not to be needy, to be vigilant about who I date etc. I'm kinda lucky in that respect, when I was diagnosed, she was the first to tell me not to let it get in the way of the man I could become, and always encourages me to date. I remember when she found my porn and got into a massive argument with me about it. I have funny memories of her shouting "If this is what you want, why don't you just go and get laid? That's obviously what you need, so just get it over with...". I laughed my ass off, it was funny hearing my Christian mother say this to me .
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