The more i think,it is becoming clear...

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Hi guys,I already post here about my situation,I had relationship for 7 years,then I have been dumped two months ago,out of nowhere.My boyfriend just left me,and acted cruel,telling me how he doesn't love me anymore.

When I look back,all the stories he told me about his exes.He was my first boyfriend,but he had before me 3 girlfriends,and his longest relationship before me,was 2 years.All 3 girlfriends dumped him,and after the last one dumped him,he got that much drunk,that he didn't know what to do,so he was acting crazy,being drunk,and he broke his arm,when he fell somewhere(where he was drinking)...so that shows how he is weak.

So when I think about that,I feel like he made revenge on me ,on the person that loved him with all heart,I gave him everything ...He acted strong after leaving me,rough,like I am crap,he didn't want to answer the phone,and even when he did that,it was nightmare how he talked with me,he stopped answering on text messages...when he talked to me,he was sooo self worth,so self confident,like he was waiting for the chance to break someone's heart,because he has complexes from the past.

It is brutalisation,way he dumped me(by the phone)!!!

Besides that,I wish him never to find someone honest and loyal,like I was,he deserve to get dumped by some b*****s he used to date before me.

I am sad,why I had to experience this much pain???I did everything to make him(us)happy,everything,everything!!!

[lovinglife21]

There are hundreds of reasons why he might have broken up with you out of nowhere. Trust me after weeks of ruminating I can conclude that I will never know. It is not worth your time thinking about it- I know sometimes its impossible to not, but you will just torture yourself trying to find answers.

 

This theory might be the real answer, it might not. just take comfort in the fact that if someone has the ability to completely switch off like that then they are not a person you want to be in a relationship with.

 

Try your best just to think about you, what you would like in a future partner and why he wasn't the right person for you.

 

I found these quotes particularly helpful;

 

'I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was'

 

'The fact that he left me says nothing about me, and everything about him'

 

and finally the old chestnut;

 

'You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped.

 

I found that I was obsessing because I thought if I knew why I could change his mind. But acceptance is key, you can't change him, he won't come back, and nothing you say will help. It doesn't matter why now, you can't do anything about it, you just have to focus on things you can do, and that is looking after yourself so you can heal

 

You can keep strong if you believe it!

 

xx

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'I don't miss him, I miss who I thought he was'-Exactly!!!

 

He said that he burned all the pictures of his exes,I wonder,did he already burned mine he had in room... (((((((((((((

 

Oh this stupid feelings,who invented them If I could just switch them off!!!