I have no idea what this even is but I don't seem to care because I am lonely!!

[Jlisa]

Ok as a bit of background info, I broke up with my ex 6 months ago. We were together for 5 and a half years, were about to buy a house together when things became difficult and he decided 'he didn't want a girlfriend anymore'. Broke my heart basically, as I thought we would be together forever. Now backtrack three months and I met a guy at work. We started emailing each other and then he took me out for lunch a few times. It was a nice distraction and took my mind completely off my ex. So I kept going along with it, we've been out on weekends and hooked up. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't enjoying it, except the thing is I can't see it going any further than a friends with benefits type situation. I'm not sure if he wants more either, have gotten very mixed signals. He's not really the type of guy I would go for, I know we wouldn't last long term. Something just doesn't feel right about it. He's a bit wild (although keeps trying to convince me he's not) and if his housemates are anything to go by, he could be playing the field. But otherwise he is really sweet, has paid for pretty much everything when we go out for lunch/dinner etc and acts like he cares about me (checks to see if I got home ok etc). Also the fact that I work with him is very weird, we kind of don't speak in person at work very much so not to have colleagues get suss about what is going on between us. Anyway I just went away for a month and haven't been able to get him out of my head. We were pretty much in contact everyday while I was gone and I'm really craving our next 'date/hookup', whatever you want to call it. I have definite feelings for him which is crazy and is going to cause me a whole new bout of pain when we decide to stop the whole thing, but I can't stop myself! He's got me under a spell or something!!! Maybe it's just that I can't handle being alone!! Ahh what to do? Oh yeah I also drove myself insane while I was overseas because I started having health problems that seemed very like pregnancy symptoms! So I did a number of tests, fortunately I'm not (we did use protection but I was sooo paranoid) but imagine trying to explain that one at work! What should I do? End it, or keep going along for the ride? I feel like I'm already too involved that I'm going to find it difficult to end!!!

Edited May 18, 2012 by Jlisa

[FitChick]

Look around for someone else to take your mind off of him. But if he doesn't want to end it, he could make trouble for you at work at the very least by gossiping about you. That's why you should never date someone you work with.