finalstate Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I originally came here in response to a thread about people lying about their height on online dating sites. Since it is locked I guess I will just start from the top. Why do even intelligent women actually care about the height of their mate? I am more than 4 std deviations above normal intelligence and have made over half a million dollars in algorithmic day trading. In person I usually make a strong impression on people but I have ran into some friction when it comes to competing men of greater height... In online dating it seems like a height of less than 6 ft automatically disqualifies you from consideration... No matter how intelligent the woman is all your profound personality traits and accomplishments get multiplied by 0 if you are under 6 ft. In person this isn't true, and I reguarlly humiliate guys who are taller than me... But often times if I do so I am just being "bitter and emotionally immature" and if I don't say anything then the naive perception that the taller guy (who probably mows lawns for a living and is worth 1/10th what I am financially) is more competent persists. I am sorry but I don't feel that some drooling floppy eared moron should get preferential treatment over me just because he is a few inches taller. He is less capable in every way, even in physically combat intelligence and ingenuity is a more potent weapon than just plain size.
Surfer203 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I am short... 5'6" so I am not taking personal offense but you are coming off as an arrogant jerk. If your online profile reflects this attitude that is probably why you aren't getting any dates. They fall back on their height, you fall back on your intelligence and financial success.. both are weak sources of personal "value". 7
FrustratedStandards Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 A few inches goes a long way Lol, seriously though, if you are THAT smart, then um... what's your number? Height is attractive, especially to a tall woman like myself (5'10) but with brains AND money like yours, i'm surprised you're even complaining. A smart woman wouldn't let a few inches get in the way of big brains like that. Intelligence is a bigger turn on that height, that's for sure. The only problem is that there aren't lots of smart cookies like you, so women instead look for taller men. And when they can't find them, they complain. If there were tons of tall guys, women instead would complain about there being so few as smart as yourself. It is what it is.
TigerCub Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Will you get over yourself already?! Maybe girls dismiss you because you come off as a pompous jerk and not because you're short. 3
FrustratedStandards Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I would be arrogant too, if I was him. Pfft. Money AND brains? Yummy. How tall are you anyways OP?
WonderKid Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Be like Vegeta off Dragonball Z. No matter how short that guy was he didn't give a damn. One of the coolest short guys I've seen and he's a cartoon. LoL
FitChick Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 If it's true that height is the ONLY reason women don't like you, and you have plenty of money, this is your obvious solution.
Wesker Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 If chicks don't like short guys, then explain how all these race jockey's have extremely hot wives? 1
FrustratedStandards Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Ahaha. I have to agree with ironyouth. He made some very good points.
Quiet Storm Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Maybe this old post of mine will give you some insight http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/325242-am-i-shallow-18.html
AD1980 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Maybe this old post of mine will give you some insight http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/325242-am-i-shallow-18.html Everyone has a right to be attracted to what they are attracted to..Ill never understand people shaming people for attraction..Im only 5'8 and i have physical preferences and wouldnt want people telling me who i should be attracted to..Granted when some women pick high heels over a potential great guy i shake my head but its their right.. My only question of your post is you say a guy is less likely to approach a 6'2 250 lb Man then a 5'8 160 lb man what does that mean? If a man approaches your boyfriend lets say he beats him up do you think hes gonna carry you away on his shoulder like King Kong? Most women get sexually assaulted when theyre alone and if they get assaulted when there boyfriends there it probably means the guy has a weapon and the size of your boyfriend will not matter at that point.. I also think picking tall men because of status is a little immature but to each his own..different things are important to different people..
gibson Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 (edited) I have a question for you... Why don't you date a 250 pound women that are built like a linebacker? Because you are not attracted to them right? Would it matter if they are smart or had a good job? There are plenty of women that are shorter than you who would have no problem dating you... Go ask them out! Writing an essay on LS on why tall women should forgo their preferences and what they are attracted too in hopes that one will date you... Is a total waste of time! If you read an essay on LS on why guys should date a 250 pound women... Would you start to become attracted to them and date them? Edited May 18, 2012 by gibson 1
TheBigQuestion Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 (edited) All the intelligence in the world won't get you anywhere in dating. For many women, intelligence is a necessary condition for attraction. However, it is rarely sufficient. Unless you're a showy millionaire, having money isn't much of a positive either. How long did it take you to make half a million dollars? If you didn't make it in under two years, quite a few female LS regulars have you beat already. Why would they be impressed? Edited May 19, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
dasein Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Welcome to the forum. Sorry you are getting so much flak here, your concerns and feelings are completely legitimate. Short guys do indeed have to work harder in dating and mating, no rationalizing that possible. It is mostly a function of female vanity, not of any kind of rational or even sexual emotional process. In cultures where vanity is not as rampant as in the U.S., male height simply isn't the issue it is here. Enjoy the successes you have in life and try to overcome given realities that aren't so favorable. This is generic advice, but best I can do without more detail in response to what is likely a vent or rant.
mesmerized Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Welcome to the forum. Sorry you are getting so much flak here, your concerns and feelings are completely legitimate. Short guys do indeed have to work harder in dating and mating, no rationalizing that possible. It is mostly a function of female vanity, not of any kind of rational or even sexual emotional process. In cultures where vanity is not as rampant as in the U.S., male height simply isn't the issue it is here. Enjoy the successes you have in life and try to overcome given realities that aren't so favorable. This is generic advice, but best I can do without more detail in response to what is likely a vent or rant. LOL, you are truly SOMETHING! Most women are more SEXUALLY attracted to a taller man, period. I don't know of any culture in which a shorter man is just as desired as a taller man and I bet you don't know either. 1
AD1980 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 LOL, you are truly SOMETHING! Most women are more SEXUALLY attracted to a taller man, period. I don't know of any culture in which a shorter man is just as desired as a taller man and I bet you don't know either. Im glad you speak for all or most women around the world you must have literally millions of female friends to get the majority of womens opinion on things 2
PJKino Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Male height or lack off is by far the #1 dealbreaker/universal turn on or off in the mating world and its really not close People point to womens weight but the reality is theyres equally as many guys who like meat on a women as there are ones built like 10 year old boys that is the hollywood standard of beauty that was formed by gay men Male Height is pretty universal,obviously theyres some women who dont mnd short guys or wil settle but the large majority are attracted to tall men
mesmerized Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Im glad you speak for all or most women around the world you must have literally millions of female friends to get the majority of womens opinion on things I have talked to women of many cultures. K let's say there might be small societies in which height is irrelevant just like there are ones in which a woman's waist to hip ratio is not a factor in choosing women. But they are the minority. Most men would agree that the waist to hip ratio thing seem to be ingrained in their brain, I would say the same thing about males height. I also like to say that for women, it's not that the taller the better. It's just that they prefer a taller man than themselves, sometimes significantly taller. 1
dasein Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 LOL, you are truly SOMETHING! While there may be some truth to height being a universal preference, I don't find it nearly as entrenched in other cultures I've experienced. Tall men look better in clothes with a dressed up heel wearing woman, and as an accessory to the average luxury addicted vain U.S. woman. U.S. women preferring tall men is mostly a product of bragging rights, competition with other vain females, and is akin to a man preferring a certain look in a woman because "she looks good in my car, dude." That's my opinion, it is a moderately well-informed one gained over many years, and I'm sticking to it. You don't like it? Tough.
Badsingularity Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 LOL, you are truly SOMETHING! Most women are more SEXUALLY attracted to a taller man, period. I don't know of any culture in which a shorter man is just as desired as a taller man and I bet you don't know either. and here I always thought that I was the most attractive thing to women, then second most came tall men, then all the rest of the men. I guess I need a little humbling sometimes:o
PJKino Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 While there may be some truth to height being a universal preference, I don't find it nearly as entrenched in other cultures I've experienced. Tall men look better in clothes with a dressed up heel wearing woman, and as an accessory to the average luxury addicted vain U.S. woman. U.S. women preferring tall men is mostly a product of bragging rights, competition with other vain females, and is akin to a man preferring a certain look in a woman because "she looks good in my car, dude." That's my opinion, it is a moderately well-informed one gained over many years, and I'm sticking to it. You don't like it? Tough. I agree hispanic women arent nearly as hung up on it..Not saying other cultures arent into tall men but the us seems to have the biggest height obsession..As you said alot of it is women needing a man to be a foot taller and 100 lb's more to feel feminine and another part of it is STATUS something that is a drug to women
mesmerized Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 While there may be some truth to height being a universal preference, I don't find it nearly as entrenched in other cultures I've experienced. Tall men look better in clothes with a dressed up heel wearing woman, and as an accessory to the average luxury addicted vain U.S. woman. U.S. women preferring tall men is mostly a product of bragging rights, competition with other vain females, and is akin to a man preferring a certain look in a woman because "she looks good in my car, dude." That's my opinion, it is a moderately well-informed one gained over many years, and I'm sticking to it. You don't like it? Tough. I don't deny that tall men also look better on our side but men are the exact same way if not worse in this regard, aren't they? The term arm candy exists for a reason. I had a male telling me that he is attracted to curvy women but shows off very thin women with his friends just to gain status. BUT, I still think liking a taller man is more biological than anything else. A tall man appears to be more masculine and strong compared to a shorter one (given both have the same built) and masculinity is something that gets our juices flowing. I rarely wear hills and I've been very much attracted to taller men since I can remember. Women feel more "protected" and feminine with a taller man than themselves as opposed to with a shorter man or man of the same height. 1
gibson Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Yawn... So you are not attracted and do not want to date all the smoking hot woman that are shorter than you but you complain and think it's wrong that taller woman will not date you because you are shorter. Am I the only one that sees the OP is guilty of the very thing he is accusing Taller Woman of doing? If you insist on dating a taller women than you... Quit your whining and ask everyone of them you see out until one says yes. See how easy that is?
irc333 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Right it appears that mates, to some, are seen as accessories that supplement their current fashions. "She looks sexy standing next to my Audi" While there may be some truth to height being a universal preference, I don't find it nearly as entrenched in other cultures I've experienced. Tall men look better in clothes with a dressed up heel wearing woman, and as an accessory to the average luxury addicted vain U.S. woman. U.S. women preferring tall men is mostly a product of bragging rights, competition with other vain females, and is akin to a man preferring a certain look in a woman because "she looks good in my car, dude." That's my opinion, it is a moderately well-informed one gained over many years, and I'm sticking to it. You don't like it? Tough.
gibson Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Right it appears that mates, to some, are seen as accessories that supplement their current fashions. "She looks sexy standing next to my Audi" Hahahaha! I see your posts all the time and no wonder you can't get a date. Your problem is your attitude, lack of self-esteem, self-worth, confidence, etc. The rest of us are not having the problems that you are. So if you didn't know this yet, your problem is YOU... not woman.
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