hurting1982 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 This is about my 4th attempt to decide what to do with my current situation and it's starting to stress me out! My boyfriend of 7 months split up with me last month and at first I was absolutely crushed....thinking about ways to win him back. No contact wasn't working as we were still texting each other, and we still saw each other a few times too. Things had started to get easier and I am starting to clear my head, then last week we met up and decided to give it a trial being friends. We agreed that if it gets awkward we need to say. It was a good break up as far as break ups go and I agreed with him finishing it as things hadnt been right for a while and didn't want either of us to get more stressed with the way things had gone. We never argued, didn't cheat, and started out like a house on fire! By keeping contact I think I ruined any chance possible of him reconsidering but at least my head was starting to get used to us not being a couple. The thing is this now....I'd made so many bad decisions when we were together such as not suggesting to do stuff to keep us interested, leaving him with mates on a night out and going home early, not showing interest in what he liked doing. And now agreeing to be friends I don't know if this is yet another bad decision. I seriously think I can hack just being friends with him because in the end that is what we had become. But now I'm worrying about saying the wrong thing to him...giving him the wrong impression that I'm trying to get back with him when it's not my intention, worried about stressing him out by saying the wrong thing which in turn is stressing me out! My friends have said to stop overthinking things and see how it goes, and stop worrying what he's thinking about what I'm saying to him as I'm probably over reacting. My new philosophy in life is life's to short after finding out one of my friends has a terrible illness and I don't want to waste time holding grudges with my ex when I think we could work as friends and so does he. I just don't want to make the wrong choice
heatherfeather Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 My advice is to cut all contact all together for say 30 days to see 1
Author hurting1982 Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 I'm sure I could cope 30 days....maybe that's a good idea. I'm Sure we'll be fine. But at least 30 days would give us time to make sure it's the right decision
alexandria35 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Having a friend is not supposed to be that stressful. If I had a friendship that had me all tied up in knots and worry the way you are I wouldn't consider that friendship worth the effort. If you can't relax and be yourself around him then it's not really a friendship.
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