Joaquin Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 (edited) Wrong. One word...confidence No, alcohol.... for the girl... Not too much though of course. Edited May 18, 2012 by Joaquin
beyond Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Umm... four days after my most recent break up I had very good monkey sex with a friend of my younger sister. Yes, it felt good but didn't help with getting over the break up at all, but it didn't do any harm either. Ok, got to ask, though probably shouldn't....what is 'monkey sex'? Does it involve swinging from trees? Are bananas involved? :confused:
Joaquin Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Ok, got to ask, though probably shouldn't....what is 'monkey sex'? Does it involve swinging from trees? Are bananas involved? :confused: No monkeys or bananas but fairly wild vigorous unabashed sex.
Green Light Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Wrong. One word...confidence Having an offer of sex sure would help my confidence! Or do I need the confidence first? Kind of a chicken/egg thing.
beyond Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 No monkeys or bananas but fairly wild vigorous unabashed sex. Lol, ok, thanks for that. *goes back to leading sheltered life*
paperboy48 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I can't even imagine what it would be like to get the offers! And I'm not a bad looking guy for my age. Am I the only one here who has never been offered sex from friends and acquaintences? Do these people just flat out ask you for sex? I must really live in a prudish area. I'm with ya
Author Tree_Salmon Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 Having an offer of sex sure would help my confidence! Or do I need the confidence first? Kind of a chicken/egg thing. Confidence is everything. You cant fake it though. Then you just become arrogant. Don't use sex to build confidence. Just let it happen. Not to sound spiritual or whatever but it comes from within. You dont need to have anyone's validation. Especially not sexually. I'm sure sex could be a confidence builder but what happens when you're not having it anymore or you get rejected? Don't rely on others for your confidence. Fake it until you understand it. 2
Chi townD Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Nope! Feels good at the time, but then after you still feel empty. Then, you start kicking yourself because you can't believe that you've stooped so low to have "pity sex". And you can SAY that it isn't pity sex, but you'd be lying to yourself. Because, let's face it. No other time have they ever offered it up before. So why now? Because they feel sorry for you.
pteromom Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 I wouldn't, but for a different reason. If you start dating someone new, and she gets to meet your "friends" - all the friends who you slept with - it's gonna be awkward and cause issues. If you want to keep them as friends, keep them friends.
Green Light Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Nope! Feels good at the time, but then after you still feel empty. Then, you start kicking yourself because you can't believe that you've stooped so low to have "pity sex". And you can SAY that it isn't pity sex, but you'd be lying to yourself. Because, let's face it. No other time have they ever offered it up before. So why now? Because they feel sorry for you. I can't imagine anyone offering me sex even if they felt sorry for me! People do that? This whole thread is like visiting some alternative universe. Most of the people that I have known through the years have seemed pretty uptight. Many I often wondered if they even had a sex drive at all. 1
somedude81 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 I really don't think being confident is going to cause women to offer themselves to you. Alcohol, may be the answer to all of life's problems.
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