irc333 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Been seeing a lot of posts about "dating in the workplace", but don't seem to bring up the old addage, "Don't crap where you eat" situation. LOL I'm always seeing, "I know this girl at work, and I think she's cute, how so I ask her out?" The question is, SHOULD you ask hero out? That being said, I recall one time where I worked, government entity, we'd always have cute females dropping off permits. (They worked as admin assts at contractors office around the county) THAT being said, since they're technically NOT a co-worker, would you date someone who you worked with indirectly.
Phennyphen Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 WOB WOB WOB! THIS IS AN ALARM! WOB WOB WOB! Oh no, dont do it, just dont. I 'sharked' a guy at work before christmas, which culmiated in me drunkenly giving him my phone number at the xmas party, he then asked me out and we went on what will go down in history as the most awkward date in the history of man. I assumed he was around my age (22) he turned out to be 30, not a HUGE age gap but he was an old 30, I thought, and I'm not immature...but I'm a bit of a party girl. It was so awkward and now I see him in work and we both cringe, me especially, after an awkward good night kiss that I wasnt expecting, in which he grabbed my bum. Dont do it. It might work out fabulously but if it doesnt you're in a world of ****. Maybe get to know her casually as friends first so you can decide if you and she have a potential relationship.
carhill Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 In my age group and industry, it's (dating where one works) problematical and generally frowned upon. YMMV. I have dated a few vendors over the decades, though no customers. No issues. I separated the business part from the personal part and the only pocket I'd have been robbing was my own.
Pierre Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 The work place is more fertile ground for extra marital affairs. However, anyone can meet a desirable person at work and date. If done correctly it can work and is way better than OLD. However, most folks cause drama at the work place. 1
FitChick Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 The only time it might be acceptable is if the coworker had a definite date to leave the company. Otherwise, it's not worth the possible drama and gossip.
grkBoy Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Been seeing a lot of posts about "dating in the workplace", but don't seem to bring up the old addage, "Don't crap where you eat" situation. LOL I'm always seeing, "I know this girl at work, and I think she's cute, how so I ask her out?" The question is, SHOULD you ask hero out? That being said, I recall one time where I worked, government entity, we'd always have cute females dropping off permits. (They worked as admin assts at contractors office around the county) THAT being said, since they're technically NOT a co-worker, would you date someone who you worked with indirectly. The only coworkers I ever see dating are those who work too much and have no social life. So perhaps their friends are all married off and know no single folk to introduce and this person spends way too much time at the office. Suddenly you have that other person, handsome/pretty, who engages you in convo and you two seemingly have fun at those late nights. Maybe you two share a friendly dinner one night. Then at some office social occasion with alcohol, a kiss gets shared or even you two get drunk and go to the apartment of one of said workers and spend the night. Thus is begins. I can't blame people for pursuing coworkers because of the work lifestyles we all have, but I don't see any of these work out. One possible way though to utilize coworkers is to be sociable. Go for after-work drinks, or even to the housewarming parties they might throw. They do have friends who aren't coworkers. Maybe you'll hit it off so much with said coworkers that they'll be thinking about their single friends to intro you to. "grkBoy is such a sweet guy...we should introduce him to _____. I'm sure she'll be into him. They might click." Social capital. It's how I met my fiance. She was the coworker of a friend of mine...and thus I was the single friend they thought they should introduce her to.
newmoon Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 not sure what the actual statistics are, but don't a significant amount of married couples meet at/on the job? nothing wrong with dating in the workplace, imo, although it'll work much better if you're in different departments and not in a supervisor/employee situation. it can get problematic when the co-workers start to gossip about you, so be prepared for that,and when you have fights, which you will. i met my current bf a year ago on the job, and we still work together peaceably.
Sid6.7 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Do you like your job? Then absolutely not. Never dip your pen into company ink and open yourself up to something like a sexual harassment suit if things didn't work out. If you don't like your job and you really don't care about it. Well, knock yourself out.
USMCHokie Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 I'm so so so so so glad I'm in a unit where there's literally no women in the entire building... And I'm a big fan of the adage, don't poo where you eat...
TheFinalWord Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Generally, NOT a good idea. A lot of affairs happen at the work place though. You spend lots of time with another person. The only way I would give the okay is if both people are extremely mature. "Well we just don't click that way, let's stay friends". Some people can do this. Most cannot. I would advise extreme caution. We all know the power of NC, well you can't do that when they're in your face everyday!
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