paperboy48 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 (edited) Anyone take habit to stalking your Ex's? For instance, driving by their house at night, looking for strange cars? Edited May 18, 2012 by paperboy48
Svet74 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I don't but one of my friends does. It's so retarded and she has been broken up with her ex a yr now. And she works with him! I guess she wants to make sure he is at home at nights and not screwing around I don't know. I don't know why people torture themselves by doing stuff like that. Facebook stalking though I understand
chelsea2011 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I have never done it. I was stalked though and knew he was doing it. Just got confirmation recently that he did all of the other things I suspected too. Whatever...it's his life and his issue, not mine anymore. If he tries to overstep his bounds though, I will nail his balls to the wall. It's a shame because his nice qualities were fabulous.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Anyone take habit to stalking your Ex's? For instance, driving by their house at night, looking for strange cars? Creepy. If you have ever been stalked you would understand why it is such a terrible thing to do to a person whether they are the dumper or the dumpee. Let them live and be free. That's where you will find your freedom. You will then be able to live and be free too. There is nothing to gain from knowing what they are or aren't doing. It is not an ex's business to go meddling in the other's life even if they hurt you badly. There are no excuses for violating personal privacy. Whatever "evidence" you find will not bring them back or make the pain go away but it will definitely creep them out if they ever find out. If you love them truly, you will respect their right to privacy, a basic human right (in Canada anyway). Take the high road, it will be the road to ending your pain. 1
esteem-jam Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Online- yes. But in real life- hell no. I always took big circle around whenever I needed to go that direction. Took me some 9 months before I walked the main street of town where I likely was to bump into her. Even now... uhm, 18 months later I wont walk some streets/places if I know I am in bad mood, it just gets multiplied. One time I visited the mall in her working hours. Was just a good day. And like 2 or 3 times I went to her mall on weekdays, when her shift is off.
chelsea2011 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 (edited) Chelsea did you break up with him? Yes I did. And, in light of recent evidence I am very glad that I made that decision. Edited May 18, 2012 by chelsea2011
relationship_stuff Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 On Facebook. Not IRL. That would be really creepy.
ls32ssibm Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Was a pretty bad online stalker for awhile after the breakup until she posted some pics sitting on a new guy's lap, then it started hurting too bad, so I cut that out. That sinking feeling I got is enough deterrent for me to probably never look her up again. In person, naw. She lives like 7 miles away, albeit and luckily out of the way from any direction I would travel. I recently started going back to the gym that we both used to go to, and I kind of hope I run into her eventually, since I put on about 20 pounds of muscle since the breakup. I'm my own worst enemy and I know it will probably hurt, though; the last time we saw each other we were dating.
Author paperboy48 Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 Sometimes I think its better to know than not to know. You know what I mean?
radrluv72 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Never did the drive-by thing...that doesn't sit well with me. I am however guilty of checking up on exes online. It's so rediculously easy to do because of the anonymity behind it when you're online. And the stupid thing is, you know you shouldn't be doing it, but since you're still in the mourning process of that relationship, checking up on them is all you have left until you either get it out of your system or take a sledgehammer & destroy your laptop. Any way that you do it, it's not healthy. And gas isn't getting any cheaper these days either.
MissBrunette84 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Nope. I prefer to not know a thing. To me it hurts more. I would never want to see his house, see who he's seeing or not seeing..where he's going or not going. It would just rip open wounds. I would rather stay well away. I don't understand why people like to torture themselves.
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