I think my Boyfriend is about to break up with me anyone?!!!!

[hurt_nobye]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years. in september i moved with him for college. at first everything was great!!! but he started getting mean and easily aggravated with me...and honestly i have been doing ANYTHING he wants me to do? anyways. We came back to our home state to see our family for summer, but us being separated tourtures me and is fine with him.....he doesnt have a cell phone because we cant afford 2 bills, so i call his house phone. now, last night i wrote a loooonnnnnggggg email telling him how i feel and explaining alot of stuff...(maybe i shouldnt have done that... but whats done is done and if anyone has advise on how to erase memory that would be great) so since i wrote this email...he does NOT want to speak to me........i called and he said STOP CALLING ME OBVIOUSLY IF I DONT PICK UP IM BUSY!!! i sent him another email saying i was calling so i can walk over and we can hang out. after he read this email an hour later, he called me and said where are you?!?!!! i said home. he said are you walking to my house?!?!?!!! i said no i was going to but you never called or replied so i decided not to, he said GOOD, DONT WALK TO MY HOUSE IM TIRED OF YOU I SPEND F***ING 24/7 WITH YOU WHEN WE LIVE TOGETHER AND I DONT WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU RIGHT NOW!!!!! I JUST WANT TO F***ING HAVE SOME TIME ALONE!!! i said i understand, and he said thats all i wanted to say ill call you back man and hung up... soooo now we are here...4:06...i have no clue how to keep myself from crying...i have to leave for work but how can i when im hurt by the only person that means anything in my life?????

 

 

(side notes: im 21 hes 19 and he has cheated on my in the past so i have trust issues)

[pteromom]

He sounds like a real winner. Verbally abusive AND a cheater.

 

What you need to be asking yourself isn't whether he is gonna break up with you.

 

The question you need to be asking is WHY are you ok with someone treating you like that? Why do you think the best you deserve is someone who will yell F-words at you over nothing? Why are you handing him your heart on a silver platter?

 

Think about LOVE. What is LOVE? Is LOVE simply that feeling that you can't live without him and NEED him? Or is LOVE an action? What does it mean to LOVE someone? Is LOVE what he is showing you? And why is it ok with you to give yourself to someone who won't show you LOVE?

[Savage4]

It sounds like you two are feeling very different about each other. I would suggest reminding yourself of what you are putting into the relationship and what you are getting out of it. Keep in mind he is only 19 and has cheated on you in the past. He doesn't sound like he is handling this relationship with any degree of maturity.

 

I don't know if there are some extenuating circumstances that are causing him to act this way, but even if that were the case I would take it as a red flag considering this is the way he will treat you any time things get rough for him.

 

I don't meant destroy your hope but he told you he wants time alone, so be prepared to give him that.

[chelsea2011]

You shouldn't be crying, you should be telling him to "F**K OFF, DON'T EVER TALK TO ME LIKE THAT AGAIN!" Then hang up and delete his information. Don't ever put up with someone talking to you that way. You are young and there are plenty of fish in the sea. You deserve much better than being treated like that. Block and walk and don't look back.

[hurt_nobye]

well...a little update...

after writing this post i went to work, everyone at work could tell something was wrong (i work at a hair salon so all females and they start at age 35+ so they have life experience) they said just forget him, give him some time to calm down. and they gave me more advise. i decided i will not call him first from now on, if he has a problem with me calling then fine i wont call. Around 6 he called me and said he cooked me dinner, so when i get off work if i could come over...i said whatever i gotta go he said ok call me back when you can, and i hung up. around 7 he called to ask if i can come i said ya but im at work on my break and i havent eaten all day and my coworker bought me some food (/to cheer me up\) so im going to eat and talk to him later. we hung up and i called back wayy later to let him know i was on my way. i stayed from 10:30 till 12:15 and we sat outside i ate and we talked...when i told him i had to go he said he didnt want me to leave cause he was enjoying our conversation (about our future together??) i stayed like 3 more mins then i really had to go. so....now...here i am...COMPLETELY LOST!!?? he went from a big meany to a nice guy to not wanting me to leave? i dont get it.

 

BUT!! i think there might be a reason for his meaness

he plays soccer (college level and hopefully soon going pro//at the rate his performance is yes he will be\\) anyways he injured himself last week at a pick up game after a real game, he is jamaican and was raised not to take pills or medication EVER but his coach told him the only way he will be ok to play in the game this saturday and this sunday is to take 4 ibeprofin every 6 hours, since he has never taken a pill before i think it might be having a reaction with his moods? or maybe its the thought of him not being allowed to play soccer in this extremely important game, that is stressing him out? regaurdless, he still needs to be nice to me

 

idk. stress makes me do some mean things to people i love, especially when its that time of the month...

[chelsea2011]

You're right, regardless of what's going on with him, he has no right to talk to you like that. Now that you have a taste of what his temper is like, I would reaccess if I were you. You are not his wiping post.

[hurt_nobye]

That's true, but I really do not want to throw away 2 years for him getting mad. you know? I mean I know his entire family, they all love me, he gave me a promise to be wed ring, we have had so much up's along with a lot of downs, but if every time things get bad I quit and try to move on...I don't think ill ever have anyone...

 

All due respect, but I am in love with him, he isn't a guy I just met you know? I've known him for years and we've been dating for almost two years. So we have history...also... we have had a miscarriage together...

 

Like I said...We have history together...I don't want to just throw it away...