marilla Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Hello everyone. A man started to flirt me and just as soon as we started to get to know each other another woman hit on him and he totally ignored me. After some time he came back really trying and showing me that they were just friends. So i gave in again and we started to become closer. However i wanted to take it slow and i would not always agree to meet him. However just as things started to become closer she hit again. And again he ignored me even being rude. I got hurt and told him so. After 3 weeks he came back again trying really really hard this time....It took me a long time to give in again. I could see that my indecision was killing him and it was obvious to me that he had feelings. After 2 months of him trying i gave in again but he was acting weird, rude and insensitive. Guess what i found out? she hit on him again!!!! This time i really blew at him and saying that i was really really hurt and told him so. I have been avoiding him for one month now and have cut all contacts from these people. However he got his friends to help out. It seems that he is very remorseful and sad and has really regretted and he even gave her up even though i know she is important to him. It seems that he can't hurt me further. There is obviously guilt here, don't know about feelings. Now what do you think of this weird story? should i give in to this again? Please help me. I feel so messed up. This whole thing has taken my clarity away. Please please help me!!!!( we are not teenagers by the way,even though it sounds childish it has really given me lots of pain and confusion)
d'Arthez Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Don't bother giving him another chance. Whenever someone "better" (by his standards) comes along, he'll ignore you again and again. The drama is not worth it.
chelsea2011 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Don't give that guy another chance because he is only going to do it again. He probably uses yu to make her jealous and to get her attention. He has issues...walk away fast!
Author marilla Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 Thank you all for your answers. What about the fact that in order not to hurt me and realizing his mistake he gave her up-she is important to him i know. Shouldn't that count for something? Also the first times he did this he said that i did not look very decided to him whereas she was. I wasn't always agreeing to meeting him as i was taking it slow but he said that was hurting him. What do you guys think? it seems that i have made mistakes too and now he has given her up. However i was deeply hurt all 3 times!!!! So what do i do?
d'Arthez Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Still keep giving up. It seems there is a complete lack of quality communication that has plagued this relationship / friendship for too long. And you have both contributed to that. Even when he would be a bit frustrated that things moved a bit slow, he could have communicated that. The rudeness and insensitiveness are what you get when things are not going to his liking.
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