loversreunited Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Hey guys, Just an update to my situation. As I have suspected that my ex is suffering from GIGS. We have broken up for almost a year, 11 months so far. Apparently I heard from mutual friends that he has been snooping my FB and he also wrote to me through one of mutual friends on FB to see how I am doing. He has been asking alot about me lately to our mutual friends, wants to know what I am up to, if they have heard from me etc. He also stated I look really good in my FB display pic to our mutual friends. So clearly something fishy is going on. He is still with the guy that he got with after me. They have been together for approximately 8 months now. What do you guys think about this? Is he having second thoughts about us? We were together for 2 years. He's younger than me. He's 22, im 26. I have heard that this guy he's with is nothing special and what they have is nothing compared to what we shared for 2 years. I put alot of effort into that relationship. He will be done uni soon so I guess once he's out things may change? Any input on this? Thanks.
Character Floss Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Welcome. I wonder though about the depth of his love for you. If I were to consider taking someone back after an episode of GIGS, I would be wondering: Is it really me that is so alluring, so deeply embedded in him that he/she needs to be with me? or Is it a matter that things didn't turn out better for him/her, and looking around, I'm as "good" as he/she thinks he/she can get? In other words...was the new lover Plan A, and returning to me Plan B? I think eleven months is a long time. Now if he's really hot and engaging and could have almost any guy he wanted...well, that does perhaps put a different spin on it. Just be careful with your heart.
Author loversreunited Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 Hey, Thanks for your response. I would have to be very cautious in taking him back because I don't want to be burned again. I can't just take him back without building trust into him first. Plus we've both been with others since we broke up so it will be different. My mutual friends have said he has matured alot over the last year which is a good thing. As I've read before it isn't wise to pressure someone with gigs, and just let them come around on their own. My friends said that he seems confused. I still love him and always will but he will have to prove to me we can both have a promising second chance if it comes to that one day.
Author loversreunited Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 Oh I forgot to add, no my ex is not some sex magnet lol. He's average. He's cute, and I think he's good looking, but I wont say he's muscular or anything like that so no I don't think he can get any guy he wants.
Author loversreunited Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 Hey guys, just wanted you input on this as I wanted to update you guys. Anyway last night I changed my display pic on FB to this new pic of me looking all confident, and doing well. It's been 11 months since my ex and myself have been broken up. The strange thing is I had a feeling he was going to block me on FB and when I went to check it he did. But whats even more strange is I went into my email account to find that he tried to add me as a friend around 2:30 AM and then blocked me after. Why is he doing this? Is he trying to get me to contact him? Input anyone? Another breadcrumb from a gigs ex?
Character Floss Posted May 24, 2012 Posted May 24, 2012 I can't say what he's up to...except trying to churn up your emotions/add drama to your life. Maybe he just wants to stir things up so you hesitate being with anyone else in a serious manner. That's my two cents...and cent number three is that I see him keeping you on-hand by that behavior. There's at least a 50% chance I am wrong!
Author loversreunited Posted May 24, 2012 Author Posted May 24, 2012 Hey, I think you could be right. My assumption is that he is trying to get my attention to make a first move to break NC however this is not sufficient enough for me to do anything. If he wants me back he's gonna have to put a little more effort because I cant be certain on his wishes. Back in November last year he called my phone and hung up after two rings. I made the mistake of texting the next day to see what he wanted, and he stated he accidentally pocket dialed me. So i'm sure if I was to message him about this, he would probably say he accidentally added me which makes no sense. I love him so much and I do want him back, but he can't come back that easy.
Author loversreunited Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 Hey, Just another update to this. Well I know this doesnt help my healing although im almost over this but I checked his display pic on FB through a mutual friends account and he put back a pic of him and his rebound guy the day after he added and then blocked me. I don't get it. Is he trying to get my attention or something? Im just sticking to NC for now, I will see if I get any other of these little breadcrumbs. I think he has regrets, but doesn't know how to approach me or this situation. We are eachother's first true loves.
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