Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Has she ever been to a gynecologist? If not suggest she go "because every woman should." If she has questions as to whether or not she is normal, she could ask her doctor. She might be worrying about something silly. Watch women-centered, women produced hetero porn with her. You could find out what she finds erotic. She might even want to try a few things. She's been to one of those. She is std and the other freakin diseases free thank the good lord. I would frame the results if I could, so Im out of reasons for her disgust for sex.
LittlePrince Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 [/b] Maybe she IS disgusted with sex (with a man) If she is unenthusiastic at 19 ,she'll never be enthusiastic,trust me.Life's too short to waste it on someone who is simply not interested.You have been warned...move on,find somone who is into you ,and stop trying to change her. I suspect ,as has already been said,she has unrealised lesbian desires,hence the disgust she is showing. If she has issues opening up physically then she might be able to by her thirties but it will take a few boyfriends before she is comfortable. Though it is more plausible that she'll never be at ease with sex.
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Man, you basically have a car in the garage that you can't drive. Time to trade in for a different model! A hot car, man...a hot car. I see if I can get it to pop the hood, so I can check out the engine.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Somebody is already banging her, Jaysonm. He leaves her too sore for sex with you afterward.
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 [/b] Maybe she IS disgusted with sex (with a man) If she is unenthusiastic at 19 ,she'll never be enthusiastic,trust me.Life's too short to waste it on someone who is simply not interested.You have been warned...move on,find somone who is into you ,and stop trying to change her. I suspect ,as has already been said,she has unrealised lesbian desires,hence the disgust she is showing. ugh, I'm not trying to change her I just want her to open up to me(no pun intended). It's been 10 months, she has been a good gf, but there is only but so much I can take and hold back.
make me believe Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Are you SURE she's not a virgin? Her angry and nervous reaction when you bring up sex, combined with not wanting to go further than making out, makes me think she may be lying about her supposed past sex life. She might have wanted to appear 'cool' and more experienced and is now freaking out about the possibility of you finding out the truth. 1
LittlePrince Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Are you SURE she's not a virgin? Her angry and nervous reaction when you bring up sex, combined with not wanting to go further than making out, makes me think she may be lying about her supposed past sex life. She might have wanted to appear 'cool' and more experienced and is now freaking out about the possibility of you finding out the truth. Probably wanted to seem more normal rather than as cool as the Fonz.
Pierre Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Alrite bro...stop talking about my gf's body. Nah, I never fingered her. I would try but she stops me. But, each try from what I felt she was ready to go, but something is holding her back. I have yet have a visual of her below the waist. Dude, you need to do a proper assessment of the situation. If she is truly horny she should have a very wet pussy and you need to verify. I assume you have never given her an orgasm and viceversa. Could she be anorgasmic? Did she masturbate growing up? There is no intercourse------I get that. But, do you guys take your clothes off and grind against each other? Any oral? Oops I forgot, no visual. You have your work cut out for you. But, I suspect she may not get turned on much.
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Somebody is already banging her, Jaysonm. He leaves her too sore for sex with you afterward. That would be effed up, but I doubt it. She is the hardest force to penetrate. She acts like she has the holy grail down there. Even when I wasn't with her some guys on campus tried to hit on her, but failed. I need to contact her ex and ask how he got in.
JohnP82 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Get out! Do you think she would be waiting this long if she was dating Ryan Gosling or any other dude women think is hot? Learn from this experience. 2
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Are you SURE she's not a virgin? Her angry and nervous reaction when you bring up sex, combined with not wanting to go further than making out, makes me think she may be lying about her supposed past sex life. She might have wanted to appear 'cool' and more experienced and is now freaking out about the possibility of you finding out the truth. She said she was with 2 guys. But, she might be...because half the stuff she says about sex is like wtf. Granted...it was a brief conversation about sex, but still either she was too naive when it happen or she slept with a pillow.
LittlePrince Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Get out! Do you think she would be waiting this long if she was dating Ryan Gosling or any other dude women think is hot? Learn from this experience. I remember when no one thought Ryan Gosling was hot and he was a very small time actor.
Eddie Edirol Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 That would be effed up, but I doubt it. She is the hardest force to penetrate. She acts like she has the holy grail down there. Even when I wasn't with her some guys on campus tried to hit on her, but failed. I need to contact her ex and ask how he got in. Dude, it sounds to me like she has no physical attraction to you. It sounds like she isnt over her ex, but is using you to get over him, and it aint workin. Thats the only reason I can imagine she is with you for so long, but doesnt want you to touch her, and she wont date anyone that she is more attracted to physically. She has some kind of agenda going on that doesnt include sex with you. Maybe her ex before you was her first, and she is still thinking about him. It takes a looong time to get over someone when youre not by yourself. When she avoids the question about sex, its because she has a real answer and she doesnt want to tell you, probably because you would bail on her, and she doesnt want to be alone. Hopefully she isnt shopping for guys while she is with you. I suggest you start distancing yourself from her, and if she starts pushing to find out why, THAT will be the time to find out why she wont have sex with you. I give it two reasons, she was molested as a child, or she isnt attracted to you. 2
FitChick Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 She said she was with 2 guys. But, she might be...because half the stuff she says about sex is like wtf. Granted...it was a brief conversation about sex, but still either she was too naive when it happen or she slept with a pillow. You mean like this scene from the ? Hey, maybe watch that film together and you can start a discussion. 1
FitChick Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Are you SURE she's not a virgin? She might have wanted to appear 'cool' and more experienced and is now freaking out about the possibility of you finding out the truth. That's what I did and why I did it.
Pierre Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 That's what I did and why I did it. Please explain. You may save the life of the OP.
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 You mean like this scene from the ? Hey, maybe watch that film together and you can start a discussion. EXACTLY! I asked her if her ex pulled out as in the pull out method, she said something crazy like no he put it in. I forgot exactly what she said. Maybe she lost her virginity really young other than that it makes no sense to answer questions like that.
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Dude, it sounds to me like she has no physical attraction to you. It sounds like she isnt over her ex, but is using you to get over him, and it aint workin. Thats the only reason I can imagine she is with you for so long, but doesnt want you to touch her, and she wont date anyone that she is more attracted to physically. She has some kind of agenda going on that doesnt include sex with you. Maybe her ex before you was her first, and she is still thinking about him. It takes a looong time to get over someone when youre not by yourself. When she avoids the question about sex, its because she has a real answer and she doesnt want to tell you, probably because you would bail on her, and she doesnt want to be alone. Hopefully she isnt shopping for guys while she is with you. I suggest you start distancing yourself from her, and if she starts pushing to find out why, THAT will be the time to find out why she wont have sex with you. I give it two reasons, she was molested as a child, or she isnt attracted to you. Is it bad that I hope she was molested and not using me? I hate to think I wasted 10 effin months. But if she was molested then we could talk it out.
Els Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 She said she was with 2 guys. But, she might be...because half the stuff she says about sex is like wtf. Granted...it was a brief conversation about sex, but still either she was too naive when it happen or she slept with a pillow. Her first sexual experiences might have been horrible ones with them that didn't satisfy her in the least, so she might have hang-ups? Dude, we don't know, it's hard to guess from text. My suggestion is, stop gunning the for 'holy grail' with your 'archaelogist's staff'. Slowly amp up sexuality in other aspects - kissing, caressing, sucking, etc. When you've got the heat on, don't take off your pants, but slowly focus your mouth and hands closer and closer downwards. See what happens. It does seem rather bad that she doesn't want to talk openly about her reasons, but heck, she's 19. IMO most 19-y-o girls aren't terribly good communicators about sex and their sexuality, especially if they've never had a good sexual experience before (since most 19 y-o guys are terrible at satisfying a woman).
dasein Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 EXACTLY! I asked her if her ex pulled out as in the pull out method, she said something crazy like no he put it in. Another possibility:
Rabbit-foot Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Is it bad that I hope she was molested and not using me? I hate to think I wasted 10 effin months. But if she was molested then we could talk it out. Wow. You hope someone was molested to justify your lack of sex? Nothing like rape to clear up intimancy issues, eh? Maybe she has trust issues, maybe she's not comfortable with her own body, maybe she's naive and wants to wait because she 'loves' you. What you should ask her is why she wants to be with you and what her intentions are regarding your relationship. And, you know, talk it out like adults. If she doesn't want to talk, she's not mature enough to be in a relationship.
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Her first sexual experiences might have been horrible ones with them that didn't satisfy her in the least, so she might have hang-ups? Dude, we don't know, it's hard to guess from text. My suggestion is, stop gunning the for 'holy grail' with your 'archaelogist's staff'. Slowly amp up sexuality in other aspects - kissing, caressing, sucking, etc. When you've got the heat on, don't take off your pants, but slowly focus your mouth and hands closer and closer downwards. See what happens. It does seem rather bad that she doesn't want to talk openly about her reasons, but heck, she's 19. IMO most 19-y-o girls aren't terribly good communicators about sex and their sexuality, especially if they've never had a good sexual experience before (since most 19 y-o guys are terrible at satisfying a woman). best advice. I'll try that. I've noticed that they dont, they just accept. But my gf doesnt talk nor accept.
Els Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 best advice. I'll try that. I've noticed that they dont, they just accept. But my gf doesnt talk nor accept. Well, I don't think it'd be very enjoyable if the girl just 'accepted', so this might hopefully be what you guys need to pick up the communication and work towards sex that is enjoyed by both. Good luck! 1
Author JaySonM Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Wow. You hope someone was molested to justify your lack of sex? Nothing like rape to clear up intimancy issues, eh? Maybe she has trust issues, maybe she's not comfortable with her own body, maybe she's naive and wants to wait because she 'loves' you. What you should ask her is why she wants to be with you and what her intentions are regarding your relationship. And, you know, talk it out like adults. If she doesn't want to talk, she's not mature enough to be in a relationship. Whoa there buddy. You're twisting my words around. I would rather her being molested and uncomfortable about talking about sex because of that than being used.
Rabbit-foot Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Whoa there buddy. You're twisting my words around. I would rather her being molested and uncomfortable about talking about sex because of that than being used. So, you rather have the person you care about be traumatized and hurt than bear the inconvience of being used? Nope, I got what you meant the first time. Really though, you need to sit her down and have a talk about your relationship. Don't even bring up sex. Figure out where this thing is going. If she doesn't want to talk to you or dances circles around you, just break it off. No need to torture yourselves.
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