Brunettie Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I've been talking to two guys. Everything is casual right now, but they're acting really strange. Guy #1: We went out once already, went great, he said he'd like to meet up again. He talks to me like 3 times a week. He said he really enjoys talking to me and getting to know me, and looks forward to talking to me more. I know he has a busy job, he works nearly everyday until it's dark out. I've not heard from him in a week. I just would think that he'd at least make a little time to talk to me.. Guy#2: He used to text me everyday. Then he fell off the face of the earth for 3 weeks. I accepted the fact I'd never hear from him again. Then he texts me saying he's sorry for disappearing, he's been in and out of surgeries and stuff. We picked up where we left off. He wanted to meet up. We exchanged pics and he said I was cute. he said we'd do dinner the following week. We talk that weekend, like normal, but no plans of dinner. Weekend comes and goes and no text. It's been a week and I've still not heard from him.. What is going on with them...
RiverRunning Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 "He's just not that into you." If I'm crazy about a guy - and I'm sure this is the same for the guys - and I've got 10 spare minutes, I'm going to try and touch base with him, even if it's just a brief text message or phone call. I won't go for weeks with radio silence. I think you need to 'pass' on these guys. If they invite you out to something, you're too busy to go. You need to set boundaries with people quickly: you don't take crap excuses for vanishing off the face of the planet for a week at a time because you have tons more prospects and your time isn't so invaluable that you can waste it waiting around for somebody else deciding what they're going to do. 1
persevere Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 First guy: Lost interest or found someone else. Second guy: May have been dating someone else for a few weeks, then moved on, had thoughts of you. Now, has moved on again? Either way, if a person likes another there won't be long stretches of silence like that. Both seem like flakes, with indecisiveness. I would suggest you write them off, sorry to say.
goldengirl11 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) As a guy I can tell you, that if I don't like a girl that much, I would go silent for weeks with no problem. Why spend my valuable male time on a girl I have little interest in? Since most guys don't have girls after them all the time, we keep girls we are not interested in on a hook, just in case we have to settle. Charming! I admit that I showed my 'ex' more interest than he deserved when he disappeared for the second time only to be mostly ignored. I'm guessing he will only now get in touch if and when he breaks up with his current girl who I'm assuming he got back with. Painful stuff. Edited May 17, 2012 by goldengirl11
boytoy Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Both of these are resounding cases of "He's not that into you." If you want sex from these guys, and make that clear, then it is likely that you can get it from one or both of them with no strings attached. A relationship, however, is extremely unlikely, and there is little you can do to change their minds in the long term. Sorry.
goldengirl11 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Both of these are resounding cases of "He's not that into you." If you want sex from these guys, and make that clear, then it is likely that you can get it from one or both of them with no strings attached. A relationship, however, is extremely unlikely, and there is little you can do to change their minds in the long term. Sorry. Unless it doesn't work out with whoever the guys may now be with? Also perhaps whether the OP had sex with them yet might make a difference too... maybe.
Author Brunettie Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 I've not had sex with either. I've not even met the second guy yet.
goldengirl11 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I've not had sex with either. I've not even met the second guy yet. I'd say there's a chance you could hear from either again, when hopefully you could talk to them re how you feel. So much better to face to face, if they make time for you that is. Made a silly mistake myself when I ended up blurting how I felt in an e-mail... when he may have already made things official with someone else. Best of luck!
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