Gotti25 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Hello there I posted here couple times and I found that it has helped! To make a long story short me and hubby have been together for 6 years married 3 years that makes it 9 years. I'm 26 years old his 31 we have struggled a lot for these past few years after I cheated on him on my best friends bday party I was on my way home I told the guy to beet it but he refused he knew I was married I was very intoxicated I ended up in the guys couldn't remember how I got dragged there. Anyway my husband is a very well educated man gas a very bad temper if I screw up he will hit me I'm from eastern europe and is very commen there if a woman disrespects her husband they are to be hit in the face even if it leaves a black eye! No one knows about it except my mother that I cheated my father would kill me if he found out! Well my concern is our relationship has fallen I have stoped all contact with any friends that I used to have we have no children my husband doesn't trust menhe is out and about with his boys drinking on the weekends until 6am bringing the boys home to crash on the couch I have complained multiple times but I find myself guilty for what i have done and just kind of letting him do it! My husband is a very successful man and professional he takes care of me and all of the financials he has never said No to anything that I wanted to buy! But I feel like the relationship is on the rocks I have been begging him to have a child he refuses to he says one day I want to be a mom so I just want some advice why won't he have a baby with me is he afraid? He works 13 hours a day and has 4 assistants even when we are at dinner he is constantly on his phone I get pissed. I love this man more then anything he was my first the other guy I cheated with was my second! Before my husband met me he had sex with 15 different woman which is fine our sex life is drained he is into lesbian porn these days watches it every day while i'm in the house I say nothing i'm very attractive girl why is he acting this way I cheated 2 years ago and I hate myself for it I confessed I dont believe in that saying take it to the grave I'm just an honest person! He never kisses me before he leaves for work he just says Adios his not spanish his from europe as well I hate asking him can I get a kiss we don't kiss when we have sex at all I haven't kissed him in a year he doesn't like it. I had to get it out of me any toughts would be appreciated!
Bellechica Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Gotti25, I definitely think you don't need to have a child at this point in your M. Frankly, your H sounds disrespectful and rude. I don't think he treats you well at all, and it appears you just take whatever treatment he gives you. I would not stay in a M with a man such as your H. Do you have your own career? Why are you staying with this man? For his money? What kind of father would he be to a child? He sounds like he would be a terrible role model.
Frootloop Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Even if spousal abuse is common where you both come from, it is not okay. Not ever. And please do not have any children with this man! I grew up in a physically abusive home, and I can't even tell you all the ways it has screwed me up.
alexandria35 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Gotti I recogonized your username but I couldn't remember your story so I had a look back at some of your other threads to refresh my memory. You are telling a very different story here than what you have said on the other forums. Here you make it sound like you had one drunken one night stand that you can't even remember and that was the end of it, but on the other boards you speak about hooking up with this guy several times over many months and you weren't always intoxicated. However you have spoken lots about being out in the clubs and being drunk out of your tree so maybe you have a bit of a drinking problem to go along with your cheating problem. You also said on your very first thread that you told your husband after the first time you cheated but then you did it again and when your husband found out he threatened the other guy but he didn't punch you in the face so I'm not too sure why you're suddenly posting like an abused woman. Anyways given your excessive drinking and cheating and your husbands excessive working and temper I don't really think you guys should be having children at this time.
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