dirtinajar Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 What is wrong with me? Tell me. In the rare and fleeting instances that I do finally meet a woman that really explosively excites me, the sort of lady that really enthuses me to no end, how is it that I shoot myself in the foot with the ensuing relationship? I have no problem sustaining relationships of any length with the women that do NOT engulf me, so the women for which I feel NO fire I can keep around as much as I want? Gah! Conversely, and frustratingly, the ladies that I date who I would kill the universe for, do nearly anything for are the very ones where I sabotage the relationship by being needy or clingy. That is not what I ****ing want to be, the insipid needy loser... but if you do not feel strongly, WTF is the point? I've known and been dating this 27 year old lady now for 2-and-a-half months, and WTF?! I am over the top excited about her; it is everything that I can do to not contact her, to not reach out even though I want to. I feel like I just need to pull away and ignore her, but I don't want to play "games." Is it really a game to give a lady the space she needs? No... I can't even ****ing think of anything else, I'm dropping weight and forgetting to eat, sleeping on an empty stomach and not even do I need to lose weight. What makes it worse is that she knows the gap is there, that her interest level in me, is below the level of my interest in her. I don't have any right to expect happiness in a relationship if I can't find an answer for this question- you meet a woman that you truly adore, and the answer for that is: ignore her, flee? That is what the women that I truly want, want? I'm sick of this, so unload both of your barrels, blast the **** away and tell me what I'm doing wrong. Shouldn't I just leave and play the numbers game out until I meet a woman that feels the same way I do... which could be years away, or just let this present deal play out, and try not to screw it up. As frustrated anxiety-ridden rants go, that should do.
amantis Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I was like that before . What i can tell you is , just have fun when you are with her , and when you are without her , do stuff that you like , and take care of yourself . Is normal to feel the way you feel , but you need to relax .
ohmygoshistalk Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 dont u think this is exhausting? you are being consumed.. i feel the same way and to be honest you should look to this as something you need to change. first off, you like thrill of the chase i guess. when it becomes stable and stuff, u lose the fire. when its unstable, u are all fired up. your brain keeps telling you theres a problem and u must solve it. i know this is meant for girls but it might give you a clear understanding How Not To Fall In Love: Consumed
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