meanttolive4ever Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 so i remembered the real reason we broke up even though my ex has been trying to tell everyone it was because "we had too much sex" thats just a lie. I remember when we visited his dad in South Carolina. The first time he ever met his dad was last year when we began dating. When he came back he was so sweet and everything, but when he came back from the 2nd trip with me he was a totally different person. I dont know why but he was more arrogant than ever. The first night we were there we were fine..we went to like a pub and played pool and had a good time. But then the next night he was a complete jerk..saying how i did too much for him and that he didnt want to be tied down. This i remembered the other day because i couldnt remember what it was. Everyone was saying different things. But he said he was too young to be tied down and that maybe down the road we'll get back together. But who knows. i started crying when i heard this song that i heard while i was down there. It was horrible. I hate songs. So do you think he'll be back in the future or what?
red-rose-in-winter Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 Do you think his Dad possibly filled his head with ideas of how he shouldn't be tied down, and that you do too much for him.....etc. Maybe his Dad has influenced his way of thinking or something. It's just strange that your ex did a complete personality turnaround when he visited his Dad the second time. It's just a thought........
Author meanttolive4ever Posted June 24, 2004 Author Posted June 24, 2004 Originally posted by neptoon How long were the two of you going out? we were together the first time when he went to see his dad for like 2 months...and then the second time was 10 months when we went back.
Author meanttolive4ever Posted June 24, 2004 Author Posted June 24, 2004 Originally posted by red~rose~in~winter Do you think his Dad possibly filled his head with ideas of how he shouldn't be tied down, and that you do too much for him.....etc. Maybe his Dad has influenced his way of thinking or something. It's just strange that your ex did a complete personality turnaround when he visited his Dad the second time. It's just a thought........ i think so...like his dad took us out to pubs and bars and maybe his dad influenced him. Because i know for a fact when we were down there he danced with a lot of his dads friends and some other girls. Cause on the way back, he told me that he couldnt hold in that one of his dads friends kissed him..and he said that he couldnt not tell me about it..i dont know what to think. Its been about 4 months since we broke up. i just havent been happy since then. I dont know whats wrong with me.
Author meanttolive4ever Posted June 24, 2004 Author Posted June 24, 2004 Originally posted by red~rose~in~winter Do you think his Dad possibly filled his head with ideas of how he shouldn't be tied down, and that you do too much for him.....etc. Maybe his Dad has influenced his way of thinking or something. It's just strange that your ex did a complete personality turnaround when he visited his Dad the second time. It's just a thought........ yea he completely did a 360 on me it scared me. He came back so arrogant and everything. but i mean whatever.
Wells Posted June 25, 2004 Posted June 25, 2004 I think that the fact he said you may get back together in the future may mean you have more difficulty getting over him. It's a very unfair thing to have said. What are you supposed to do? Wait for him in the hope he changes his mind? You deserve better than that, someone who loves you and wants to share their life with you now. Forget about the false hopes and concentrate on getting over him. The other thing that may not be helping is your search for a reason for your break up. Losing someone we love is hard enough but when we don't understand what has happened it makes it even harder. The thing is, you may never know so you need to find a way of stopping yourself from keeping the pain alive by going over it repeatedly. You think you know the most likely reason, try and accept it and move on. If you continue to find that the uncertainty stops you doing this, then think about why you need to know. Often it's because we find endings so much easier to bear if we know the other person still cares about us. I think this is particularly true for women. The only way I know of dealing with the uncertainty is to accept your worse case scenario: that he simply doesn't like you anymore. This may sound harsh and it will be hard but it will provide a resolution and, ultimately, peace of mind.
Author meanttolive4ever Posted June 25, 2004 Author Posted June 25, 2004 well..i am trying to get over him but it doesnt necissarily help wheni run into the girl who tried to get with him...she works at mcdonalds and when i came in she had this blank look on her face and didnt even want to take my order...i think she's scared of me lol.
Author meanttolive4ever Posted June 27, 2004 Author Posted June 27, 2004 Originally posted by kirkyswife Do you want him back? yea..why do you ask?
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