GG3 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I've been dating this guy since February. We used to work together so we saw each other everyday. Since leaving that project we spend every weekend together and talk everyday. Phone calls and messages and play online games. He went out of state for a week to see a family member graduate. Since then communication was pretty sparse. A few texts in the morning. Sometimes at night. No flirting. No I miss you. Nothing. The last two nights he actually called and said he had been really busy and hadn't had time to talk. I'm sure he was really busy with family, but I feel like that's kind of crappy and not enough. He's 41. We're not kids. We're an exclusive couple and talked everyday. I think it's crappy that maybe on the second evening he couldn't have stepped outside for 10 minutes and called. Or called before sleeping for a little pillow talk. I know there was nothing weird going on. He really was with family and the last weekend we spent together was great. Am I just expecting too much? This has me seriously evaluating how I feel about him and maybe if this is the reason he hasn't been married yet or had any long relationships more than 2 years. I would have thought being in the honeymoon stage we might have flirted a little this week or talked a little more.
Author GG3 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Btw I asked this morning if he even missed me because it felt like he didn't and he said absolutely and he's been very busy.
Onlyjonley Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 That is completely normal. My boyfriend is the same way when he goes on trips. I feel like guys are just not the best at communicating when they're busy and especially when they're out of routine. They have one track minds. My boyfriend went on a 4 day trip to Colorado last week -- he called me once and texted me 3 or 4 times throughout the day each day, which I think is plenty since he was busy with family.
pteromom Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Normal! Wouldn't read anything into it. Let him enjoy his trip - don't turn his trip into a guilt trip. LOL
NeverDated Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I agree. It's normal. Just let him enjoy his trip.
newmoon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 imo, you are expecting too much, and, as the person 'left behind' you should be the one to say you miss him while he's away :-) i travel quite a bit too and i am usually out of touch from my bf for days on end. it's nicer when the person who is at home sends a message - something like 'i know you're busy and having a good time with your family... i just wanted to say that i miss you can cannot wait until you're back.' send that message a few days after they leave and another text before they come home and everything should be great. texts work great when your bf/gf are out of town because you aren't bugging them with a call they might not be around to take. we're also up in age, i am 37 and my bf is 47. 1
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