How Private IS "Private" Communication...?

[USMCHokie]

It's usually out of context and usually one sided. Only someone very smart who is not a s**t-stirrer who would give you any decent advice in that situation.

 

Which is why I went to my best friend with it. I trust him for anything, especially things like that.

 

Anyway, I understand your point which does make me culpable.

[johan]

Well, whatever these other things were, I'm not convinced you're really capable of being a total bastard, Hokie. Your biggest crime, if I were to guess, is more one of mismanagement than total negligence or malice. When you meet the right girl, you will automatically be less of a dummy. As a guy you can never escape dumitude altogether.

 

Whatever you disclosed about Star is one thing. The biggest lesson I think you'll end up learning is not to disclose so much about yourself.

[USMCHokie]

No I meant it the original way. I would shiver if my private life was this public but we are all different.

 

 

 

I meant your private life is much more on a display as a result.

 

Eh, I'm this open in my real life anyway, so I don't really mind...

[Star Gazer]

Well, whatever these other things were, I'm not convinced you're really capable of being a total bastard, Hokie. Your biggest crime, if I were to guess, is more one of mismanagement than total negligence or malice.

 

Would you consider PMing my well-known "enemy" on LS to tell her private, personal information that I'd shared with him in the context of our private "relationship" to me malicious? I sure would.

[USMCHokie]

Well, whatever these other things were, I'm not convinced you're really capable of being a total bastard, Hokie. Your biggest crime, if I were to guess, is more one of mismanagement than total negligence or malice. When you meet the right girl, you will automatically be less of a dummy. As a guy you can never escape dumitude altogether.

 

Whatever you disclosed about Star is one thing. The biggest lesson I think you'll end up learning is not to disclose so much about yourself.

 

I will admit that emotions did color my reaction, as it was a genuine what-the-f*ck moment...

[d'Arthez]

Eh, I'm this open in my real life anyway, so I don't really mind...

Just wait until your kids find your posts on this forum, and decide to make a compilation of "daddy's blunders". Or even worse your best friends finding this repository and giving you a lot of grief on your wedding day. All in (supposedly) good fun.

[Emilia]

Would you consider PMing my well-known "enemy" on LS to tell her private, personal information that I'd shared with him in the context of our private "relationship" to me malicious? I sure would.

 

May I ask whether you know her in real life as well?

[Star Gazer]

I will admit that emotions did color my reaction, as it was a genuine what-the-f*ck moment...

 

I called you insecure in an email. That was your WTF moment? REALLY? Was that NEWS which warranted sharing the emails?!!!!???

[d'Arthez]

Star Gazer and Hokie ...

 

I am not going to pick sides in this one. But you are aware you are fighting this out on a public forum for all to see? Who is really benefiting here? Either of you or a third party or what?

[Emilia]

I can see your boundaries were crossed several times SG. I can also see that Hokie is quite naive. He doesn't have the same views on privacy like you do either and that's what it comes down to in the end really (just from reading the posts here on this particular thread).

[Star Gazer]

Star Gazer and Hokie ...

 

I am not going to pick sides in this one. But you are aware you are fighting this out on a public forum for all to see? Who is really benefiting here? Either of you or a third party or what?

 

Here's the thing...

 

People get annoyed at me for being mad at Hokie. He's "the nice guy" and I'm the "b*tch." Those are our roles. They all believe I'm being unreasonable not liking him, not respecting him anymore. This thread just goes to show a mere part of why. If it helps people understand my anger, and if as a result they lay off attacking me or making snide comments about my distaste, great. If not, at least Hokie's getting some well-needed commentary that what he did, and what he does, isn't cool and he's got a lot of growing up to do.

 

And again, HE started the thread.

[Star Gazer]

I can see your boundaries were crossed several times SG. I can also see that Hokie is quite naive. He doesn't have the same views on privacy like you do either and that's what it comes down to in the end really (just from reading the posts here on this particular thread).

 

And this understanding as you've articulated is all I could ever hope for. Thank you.

[d'Arthez]

Here's the thing...

 

People get annoyed at me for being mad at Hokie. He's "the nice guy" and I'm the "b*tch." Those are our roles. They all believe I'm being unreasonable not liking him, not respecting him anymore.

No not at all.

[Emilia]

Here's the thing...

 

People get annoyed at me for being mad at Hokie. He's "the nice guy" and I'm the "b*tch." Those are our roles. They all believe I'm being unreasonable not liking him, not respecting him anymore. This thread just goes to show a mere part of why. If it helps people understand my anger, and if as a result they lay off attacking me or making snide comments about my distaste, great. If not, at least Hokie's getting some well-needed commentary that what he did, and what he does, isn't cool and he's got a lot of growing up to do.

 

And again, HE started the thread.

 

While we are all real people here with PCs or laptops and keyboards, we are also complete strangers in some random virtual space and only show aspects of our persona. I think that what we think shouldn't really matter to you that much (I know you know this). Those that know you well here like Art or Johan don't judge you anyway, I'm quite certain of that.

[Stephanie]

This isn't going to happen here. This thread is closed.