Clarky Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 (edited) Its driving me mad it really is and im letting it. Two weeks ago my ex met someone at a club, she then dumped me for him the next day. Now within these two weeks these two have moved super fast, shes putting all her effort into making it work. They got together the same day she dumped me, shes with him everyday (guess shes taking time off work for that), they are doing things together that she would never do with me and its killing me little by little to see this guy walk along and get more in two weeks than i ever got the whole time we were together. Is that a rebound or just someone who doesnt care? Stupidly i sent her a message last night and this morning telling her how much i miss her, i love her how i cant get over her, broke no contant which i had done for 10 days, i feel so stupid. Edited May 16, 2012 by Clarky
Tree_Salmon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Sounds like a rebound by a weak person. Sounds really immature as well. How old is she? Definitely start up no contact again. For a month at least. And if she writes you treat her like shes a past friend. You don't need that.
Author Clarky Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Shes 24, i will start up no contact again. She deleted me out of her life the same day she left and hasnt contacted me since, forget me like yesterdays trash. They both act so happy together and i cant stand it, they live close by, he doesnt know about me either, she never told him who i was. Now im hating on myself for sending her those messages, i was doing well with no contact and then i wrote that.. How pathetic am i.
stillafool Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Two weeks ago my ex met someone at a club, she then dumped me for him the next day. I think a rebound relationship is one where someone has broken up with someone and then moves on to someone else to get over the lover they lost.
Tree_Salmon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I think a rebound relationship is one where someone has broken up with someone and then moves on to someone else to get over the lover they lost. I've seen girls prepare rebounds before hand. This relationship was done months ago in her head. She just needed another dude to ease her way out of it. Sounds like a rebound for sure. Either way she sounds like someone you shouldn't waste time over. My situation is somewhat similar so I know the best thing to do is forget about her and this new douche. He has to deal with the immaturity now.
Tree_Salmon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Its driving me mad it really is and im letting it. Two weeks ago my ex met someone at a club, she then dumped me for him the next day. Now within these two weeks these two have moved super fast, shes putting all her effort into making it work. They got together the same day she dumped me, shes with him everyday (guess shes taking time off work for that), they are doing things together that she would never do with me and its killing me little by little to see this guy walk along and get more in two weeks than i ever got the whole time we were together. Is that a rebound or just someone who doesnt care? Stupidly i sent her a message last night and this morning telling her how much i miss her, i love her how i cant get over her, broke no contant which i had done for 10 days, i feel so stupid. Don't tell her these things anymore. The best way to get her attention is to ignore her for the following month and work on yourself. Chances are she WILL talk to you again. When she does you have to be in a better place. Then you can put off that vibe that you are your own powerful man. Might turn her on again for all you know. Speaking from experience. You might even realize you can do way better, because it sounds like you can.
Author Clarky Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Did she ever reply? No she hasn't replied and I doubt she will. She cut me out of her life the day she dumped me.
Tree_Salmon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 This only means she'll show up more intensely when she does come back. You can't run from your emotions. They always catch up.
Author Clarky Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Don't tell her these things anymore. The best way to get her attention is to ignore her for the following month and work on yourself. Chances are she WILL talk to you again. When she does you have to be in a better place. Then you can put off that vibe that you are your own powerful man. Might turn her on again for all you know. Speaking from experience. You might even realize you can do way better, because it sounds like you can. I know I could do better, I was doing so well with this no contact I hadn't begged, then today I just slipped and it all came out, I'm so ashamed. Guess you just gotta start at day 1 again?
stillafool Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Okay I read a bit of your backstory with her. She seems a bit unstable. I see when you got back from L.A. it was over. I think that eventually her feelings for you will catch up with her and she will reach out. Play her hard when she does. Don't be easy to get back.
Tree_Salmon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Okay I read a bit of your backstory with her. She seems a bit unstable. I see when you got back from L.A. it was over. I think that eventually her feelings for you will catch up with her and she will reach out. Play her hard when she does. Don't be easy to get back. You mean me? I don't think ill hear from her again. Even though everyone seems to think so. I'm usually accurate about these things. But as far as the OP of this thread I think he has a VERY HIGH chance of hearing from her in a month or so.
Author Clarky Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 (edited) This is so effin hurtful. The one thing she wouldnt give me during our relationship. An exclusive realtionship.. guess what? All those months, all that time i gave her and he is with her two weeks and she gives him a relationship. She read my emails, didnt reply but she is now in a facebook relationship with him. How can she move that fast in 2 weeks, she sleeps at his everynight, i just dont get it, i cant deal with it, im gonna block her out of my life. Edited May 16, 2012 by Clarky
Tree_Salmon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 This is so effin hurtful. The one thing she wouldnt give me during our relationship. An exclusive realtionship.. guess what? All those months, all that time i gave her and he is with her two weeks and she gives him a relationship. She read my emails, didnt reply but she is now in a facebook relationship with him. How can she move that fast in 2 weeks, she sleeps at his everynight, i just dont get it, i cant deal with it, im gonna block her out of my life. These are surefire signs of a rebound. Shes breaking out of her comfort zone in order to get over you. All this "new and exciting" crap is just a major distraction. It's because she can't deal with her feelings. Shes forcing herself to get over you. I've been there trust me. It is the most painful thing I have ever felt so I get what you're going through. Just stay strong and walk away. If she wants you she will try again.
Author Clarky Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Ive blocked her from facebook so that i no longer have to look at anything to do with her. Im going to brush myself off and keep going. I think that is the most hurtful thing anyone can do. Thanks for the advice guys . Let her have her fun, it can end as fast as it started and then she can deal with it.
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