SaxMan54 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 Look, I had an affair a few years ago because my wife an I had problems; we were not communicating and had lots of verbal arguments. I'm not saying its the answer, but I felt excitement, exhilaration and pleasure. The first time I slept with my lover I felt some guilt afterwards, but it didn't last long. I'm not saying its the way to go, but I helped me forget about the unhappiness in the marriage. I am still married, but I'll never forget the affair
Avery Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Now wait a minute. I take my ring off, quite frequently. The heat makes my fingers puffy and it hurts! Or, I'm cleaning, doing dishes, gardening, etc.. and I take it off. Ever tried to get dirt out of your diamond ring because you're gardening? And sometimes I forget to put it back it on. My husband, on the contrary.. NEVER takes his ring off. And guess what? I'm the BW, and HE'S the (f) WS! Frankly.. I really wish he would have respected me enough to take off his wedding band while he was f'ing his mistress. But he didn't. Because he "didn't want to lose it"... and "she knew" he was married.. "so what was the point?" Him wearing his ring doesn't mean so much to me now. 1
MissBee Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 (edited) I haven't worn my ring in 20 years, once it stopped fitting. Didn't change anything. In a marriage, I assume any type of atypical behavior, whether it is that you all of a sudden start taking your ring off when you never used to, furthermore you not only decide to take it off while at home, but before you go away on a trip to Vegas specifically (as it doesn't seem like the OP noticed her to have done this at any other time), or some other shift should be paid attention to. I think one knows their spouse and in cases of infidelity or just plain marriage problems, it's often little changes in the normal routine, especially something that for many is symbolic, that is a clue to whatever is brewing below the surface. Taking your rings off in and of themselves don't mean cheating or marriage problems, but if someone normally wears it and then takes it off, then when asked hey why'd you take it off, they are defensive and have no good response....then I believe one should pay attention keenly. If it is innocent, I assume, they'd respond like you did and just tell their husband the rings don't fit anymore or they want them resized or what have you, a casual, normal, transparent response versus getting defensive about it. Edited May 19, 2012 by MissBee
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