Hope4anangel Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I am no expert but I have had my fair share of break-ups (on their part) and them eventually coming back to me wanting me back. Happy to help you with your way of getting them back if you PM me.
Shinobi Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Don't tell us you are among those magicians that cast love spell and then BAM- everything flips around... 1
Reddice Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I have to admit that I'm intrigued by this thread. Someone who can't be PM'ed asks people to PM him. Is this serious or comedy?
Svet74 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I'm gonna make the story as short as possible. Dated for 4-5 months. Fast relationship we even got engaged. He broke things off saying I changed. He has trust issues from his past relationship. Ex cheated on him. He still kept in touch with her. We were on and off for the next ten months. He wouldn't take me back but would freak everything I threatened to leave. Finally 3 months ago I let him go and he didn't put up a fight just agreed. Been in nc ever since. We attend the same church so I still see him and his family stays in touch with me. About a month ago he told his uncle he wants to be with a girl he really likes but can't because he needs to change. The girl he was talking about was me and his cousin told me cuz she over heard the convo. He had a drug and alcohol problem too. Still after that he hasn't tried getting me back. What do u think?
Author Hope4anangel Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 Sounds like he wants to get back with you but he knows he needs to change his ways and for him to do that, he needs some space. Be polite when you see him. If you get to chatting, drop in the fact that you wish things had worked out. That way he knows you are still interested in him. He is the one with the trust issues and he needs to work on them and realise not every woman is the same. It must be hard for anyone who has been cheated on not to have doubts. He also sounds like he is addressing his drink and drug problem and you wouldn't want to get back together in a rush for it all to crumble again because he hasn't address his trust/drink/drug issues. Be the person he fell for, got engaged to. It may take time but it is positive that he has spoken to his uncle about you. Give him a nice smile when you see him When you see him at church, I presume you don't speak to him?
Author Hope4anangel Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 I have to admit that I'm intrigued by this thread. Someone who can't be PM'ed asks people to PM him. Is this serious or comedy? Most websites have a PM facility. I didn't realise this one didn't. And I am a woman...mostly...suppose I drink like a man and have the occasional gas but I do have two breasts and a vagina. Not large breasts but breasts all the same 1
Author Hope4anangel Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 Don't tell us you are among those magicians that cast love spell and then BAM- everything flips around... Something like that
bodybuilderinnewyork Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 I have been posting the last few weeks. What do you think of my situation? I've tried no contact because she said some mean things. Not even "we need to talk" just straight up shell shock "id be lieinf if I told you I missed and loved you". She goes to med school in the carribean and failed so she decided to stay and see if they will take her back next semester. She still contacts me asking how my day is etc like nothing happened.
Svet74 Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 When I walk by him at church I avoid eye contact or look the other direction. I act like I don't see him there. You think I should look at him this time?
MissBee Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Don't tell us you are among those magicians that cast love spell and then BAM- everything flips around... People make it big business to cash in on people's heartbreak and post-breakup desperation. When you're out of the situation you realize it is ridiculous but while desperately wanting your ex back you will buy into ANYTHING that promises to get them back. I've learned that, people break up and it's often for a very good reason and the best option is not always to get back together with that person. In fact, probably 9/10 times this is not the best option. People should focus on healing in a HEALTHY way, moving forward, learning lessons etc and not chasing down the person who left. 1
Author Hope4anangel Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 When I walk by him at church I avoid eye contact or look the other direction. I act like I don't see him there. You think I should look at him this time? I'd make eye contact and give him a smile. It's not like you broke up because of him mistreating you right? I'm not saying smiling and making eye contact will get him back but it would be a good place to start To him, he might think you want nothing to do with him avoiding eye contact which is the signal you don't want to give off right?
Author Hope4anangel Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 People make it big business to cash in on people's heartbreak and post-breakup desperation. When you're out of the situation you realize it is ridiculous but while desperately wanting your ex back you will buy into ANYTHING that promises to get them back. I've learned that, people break up and it's often for a very good reason and the best option is not always to get back together with that person. In fact, probably 9/10 times this is not the best option. People should focus on healing in a HEALTHY way, moving forward, learning lessons etc and not chasing down the person who left. I am not here to take money off people. I am here to try and advise people and I have got this knowledge through my own break-ups. What to do, what not to do. I am not trying to give these people false hope. I am trying to help them create positive steps to how they MAY create a foundation to start talking to their ex again and guide them on the right path to perhaps reconciliation. If this is what THEY feel is right for them. Many couples break up and get back together, I am a walking example. Doesn't mean they shouldn't be together. Life isn't a fairytale.
Author Hope4anangel Posted May 19, 2012 Author Posted May 19, 2012 I have been posting the last few weeks. What do you think of my situation? I've tried no contact because she said some mean things. Not even "we need to talk" just straight up shell shock "id be lieinf if I told you I missed and loved you". She goes to med school in the carribean and failed so she decided to stay and see if they will take her back next semester. She still contacts me asking how my day is etc like nothing happened. We ALL say horrible/nasty things when we are under pressure. Doesn't mean that we mean them. It is a good sign that she is still texting you, asking how you are. If I were you, I would play it cool. When she texts, take a good few hours to reply and say "sorry I was a busy". Don't hold the nastiness against her by being blunt. I feel that using smiley faces is a way of being like, I'm doing good! For example, she texts "Hi, how are you?" you wait a couple of hours and text "Hey, sorry been busy I'm good thanks, hope you're good too." No questions expecting an answer. And the smiley face after you saying you have been busy will piss her off. How do I know? I'm a woman and I know how their minds word
Svet74 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 Well in a way it was because I was mistreated. He dis respected me and did not do a simple thing I asked like let me go if he didn't want to be with me cuz he didn't want to commit even after 3 months of talking again. He was still in a way controlling me even though he wasn't you know what I mean? He acted like he didn't care. Talked bad behind my back at one point too. And tried to make our relationship secretive and I was not happy. So I don't him bye call me when u wanna be in a real relationship but I'm moving on and will start dating other people. He Agreed just like that. A month later he tried to wheel himself in agai. And I rejected him cuz I could see that he didn't change so almost 3 months now since that contact
chelsea2011 Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 I don't want my ex back. I recently found out some things about him that mean if I did take him back, I would have to accept certain things that I don't want to. And there is not thing I could say or do to change the situation. It is not possible because that is just who he is. To stay means I would be forced to accept a relationship that is completely void of emotional intimacy. Blech. No thank you.
Author Hope4anangel Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Trying to figure out how to PM. Apparently you can't on this website. What's pm? Private message.
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