Teknoe Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 (edited) My small group of young adults have a Bible study every Tuesday night. Tonight I was paired off with two cute women around my age. We were discussing Abraham's faithfulness to God when my phone rang. I took the call. I was called in to substitute for Kindergarten tomorrow morning. The two women were all like "Awww, you teach Kindergarten?" "Yep. I do everything from K to 8th grade." "That's so cool! Aww, working with Kindergarteners, how sweet!" "What happens if two teachers want you on the same day? Do you get multiple calls from different teachers requesting you?" "Well, I'm used to being in demand. After all, the ladies are always fighting over me." They both cracked up so hard that everyone else in the group was staring our way wondering what was going on in our group! I said it with the right tone and facial expression. Not too cocky yet with a certain air of confidence, a little tongue in cheek, right degree of playfulness, etc. They both nodded and said in unison, "I CAN SEE THAT..." There was a new sort of life in their eyes as they looked at me after I made that funny comment. I noted how being a man of action and (humorous) confidence can really attract a woman to a man. Women like men who are doing things, who are out and about (something). Who have some interesting life experiences and stories to share. Some wisdom to pass on. And some laughs. Nothing exciting about "Call of Duty 3 is so cool" or "Yeah, I just surfed the net Saturday night..." They started asking me about my sub experiences and whatnot. It was nice to have something substantial to talk about, and was I worried about either one of them becoming my future GF? Nope. I just lived in the moment, and enjoyed it for what it was. Admittedly, I was quite smooth tonight. The less I fret about getting a girlfriend, the better I am around the ladies. Because they can smell desperation, no matter how much YOU THINK you can hide it (you can't). Cyndi Lauper was right. Girls just wanna have fun. And who said a young adult Bible study is boring or a waste of one's time? Edited May 16, 2012 by Teknoe 2
sid3 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Admittedly, I was quite smooth tonight. Isn't it a bit blasphemous to be flirting with cute girls during bible study.There's a time and place for everything, yes? And I'm pretty sure Cindy Lauper was wrong, girls want more than just to have fun.
Author Teknoe Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Isn't it a bit blasphemous to be flirting with cute girls during bible study.There's a time and place for everything, yes? I wouldn't call what I said "flirting." After all, these two ladies already have boyfriends, lol. It's not like I hit on them, you know? One of them I've known for a while. The other I recently met. Nothing wrong with a little light-heartedness during a Bible study.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Even if you hit on one of them and asked for a date, it's still not " blasphemous". I like it Teknoe! I also like that you sub-teach. We need more male teachers. And you hit the nail on the head, women like men that are out doing things more then they are playing video games or (everyone cringe now) looking at cornacopious amounts of porn. 1
irc333 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Isn't it a bit blasphemous to be flirting with cute girls during bible study. Lighten up, you are probably one of those people that won't allow singles events at churches for those reasons. LOL.
Imajerk17 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 (edited) You LIE man! Women want a guy whose only focus in life is getting a girlfriend. If you only had a PUA "guru" and that call had been from him, then you'd really know what it's like to have women hot for you. Meanwhile, get yourself an LED belt buckle. Seriously, good post. I figured your spiritual beliefs were important to you. I gotta say that I really respect how you giving you are of advice and help to people who need it the most (i.e., helping guys get a girlfriend), without preaching or anything. Edited May 16, 2012 by Imajerk17 3
fishtaco Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Church is actually a good place to meet people. Yes, God and all that, but it is a social event that you engage in on a regular bases. And that's where opportunities come from. Being a godless infidel, that's an avenue of meeting people (not just women, when you network, it's more than just about "getting women") that's not available to me. But yeah, I do the same type of humor. Sometimes when you just "be confident", it's difficult to hit it just right and not veer off into arrogance land, or disappear into not-quite-enough zone. Adding humor in it, then you get to run right into arrogance land, and not worry about making that perfect shot. But you have to make it funny. Part of the charm that women are into is wit. Be witty. That can be learned. But like everything else in life that's worth doing, it takes effort. Or alternately you can just really focus on getting a girlfriend, and make sure you're extra angry and bitter.
Author Teknoe Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 I like it Teknoe! I also like that you sub-teach. We need more male teachers. And you hit the nail on the head, women like men that are out doing things more then they are playing video games or (everyone cringe now) looking at cornacopious amounts of porn. Thanks DY. Absolutely. Women desire a man who is about something bigger than himself and his own needs. A guy has to have passions outside the arena of "getting with a woman." I definitely enjoy teaching. I hope to teach full time next year or the year after next. I find peace when I'm pursuing other avenues in life other than just women. I know I'm improving myself and better preparing myself for the day when the right one comes along. Gotta have balance and perspective in life. Can't be all "GF GF GF" 24/7 as that can only get a man crazy (and uber desperate). Seriously, good post. I figured your spiritual beliefs were important to you. I gotta say that I really respect how giving you are of advice and help to people who need it the most (i.e., helping guys get a girlfriend), without preaching or anything. Thanks. Yeah, faith is important to me. I try not to preach because I know that only turns off certain folks. Ultimately, everyone makes their own personal choices. Part of the charm that women are into is wit. Be witty. That can be learned. But like everything else in life that's worth doing, it takes effort. Right. Girls, no matter what background or nationality, love wit. If a guy can make them laugh at a moment's notice, show quick wit -- it's major bonus points. Of course, it must be done appropriately and at the right time. But that's just another lesson about life: timing is everything. And so is delivery.
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