Bwb?

[HHC]

I can't believe you have the balls to stand here (or sit) and say he's a scum bag because he didn't call, yet you have seen him and didn't mention it.

 

So let me get this right, it's okay for you to be standoffish, and ignore things, but he can't?

 

Sounds like you BOTH need to mature a little and casual sex is not something you should consider

[CC12]

Or..is there no way to fix this?

 

Why are you trying to "fix" it? Is it because you feel embarrassed, or because you want him to not think badly of you? If it's the latter, who cares what a jerky guy thinks of you? It does not matter one bit.

 

If you feel embarrassed, well, you'll get over it in time. There's really no way to "fix" that. Any attempt will either cause further embarrassment for you or make you look really desperate for the approval of someone who treated you badly. Rise above it, forget about it, move on.

 

If he brings it up when you see him, just say you don't want to talk about it and then walk away.

[Million.to.1]

Why do you care so much??

 

By spending all your energy worrying about what you might say in some hypothetical situation is just focusing more energy on him.

 

He doesn't deserve your energy.

 

you totally dodged a bullet here and I can tell you right now, that even if you did sleep with him and kept sleeping with him it would of resulted in you getting hurt. You clearly wanted more to begin with and thought that maybe if you slept with him, he would want more too. It never works out this way. You would of become attached and there would of been alot more a stake for you.

 

Stop lying to yourself - He rejected you, for a relationship, and for sex and your ego is bruised. That's all. You will get over it.

 

He will probably never bring it up so best thing you can do is stop worrying about it and move on.

[Mary Shadows]

Why do you care so much??

 

By spending all your energy worrying about what you might say in some hypothetical situation is just focusing more energy on him.

 

He doesn't deserve your energy.

 

you totally dodged a bullet here and I can tell you right now, that even if you did sleep with him and kept sleeping with him it would of resulted in you getting hurt. You clearly wanted more to begin with and thought that maybe if you slept with him, he would want more too. It never works out this way. You would of become attached and there would of been alot more a stake for you.

 

Stop lying to yourself - He rejected you, for a relationship, and for sex and your ego is bruised. That's all. You will get over it.

 

He will probably never bring it up so best thing you can do is stop worrying about it and move on.

 

 

What I bolded is what I'm trying to analyze and figure out. He is the one who wanted it first. He wanted sex first, not me. I wanted some sort of courtship, I suppose. You're right, I did want more. And, yes, my ego is bruised. Perhaps I am investing too much energy on someone who doesn't care in the least.

[Mary Shadows]

Why are you trying to "fix" it? Is it because you feel embarrassed, or because you want him to not think badly of you? If it's the latter, who cares what a jerky guy thinks of you? It does not matter one bit.

 

If you feel embarrassed, well, you'll get over it in time. There's really no way to "fix" that. Any attempt will either cause further embarrassment for you or make you look really desperate for the approval of someone who treated you badly. Rise above it, forget about it, move on.

 

If he brings it up when you see him, just say you don't want to talk about it and then walk away.

 

 

This is why I didn't say anything to him when I saw him. I know it would make me look desperate. I care way too much what he thinks of me. And, I guess my attempt to fix this, is because I feel silly, and I don't want him to think I'm one of those "loose girls" that he speaks about. I'll get over it in time. My ego is just bruised.

[mickleb]

If you have an easily bruiseable ego or wish to 'change' guys, don't sleep with them.

 

You can 'fix' this by learning from it - no other way. You've been judged pretty harshly by some people on here. No need to take that to heart, as such, but do accept that some people will think your behaviour was foolish.

 

It doesn't matter, ultimately, what he - or anyone here - thinks of you. What matters is how you view yourself.

 

So you made a mistake. No biggie. Just think about what you want and then then be honest about it. You didn't want casual sex. You wanted to change him. Why? What do you want from a guy?

 

I personally don't care if you never acknowledge this guy again, or chew him out in front of his next conquest. Just stop caring how he feels about you and take what you can from this: a greater understanding of yourself.

[CC12]

I care way too much what he thinks of me.

 

Agreed.

 

And, I guess my attempt to fix this, is because I feel silly, and I don't want him to think I'm one of those "loose girls" that he speaks about.

 

Someone who likes to make disparaging comments about other's sex lives or gossip about it is not worth your time or energy.

[Mary Shadows]

Agreed.

 

 

Someone who likes to make disparaging comments about other's sex lives or gossip about it is not worth your time or energy.

 

I was at a loss of words when this came out of his mouth. I did think it was somewhat disrespectful. I guess he is showing me just who he is.

[FitChick]

You need to start dating men outside of your regular crowd.