irc333 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Cougars typically lie about their age because they think they look younger, so they adjust their age to how they look physically.
KathyM Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I'm on OKC and I've exchanged a few emails with a guy. He seemed decent enough to meet but I already have one hang up. We were talking about an event he did. I looked it up and it had his age listed as 42. On OKC he's listed himself as 39. I know it's insignificant and I'm fine with either age, but annoyed that he lied about it (I assume to fall in under 40 search results). Would you meet up with someone who has already started with a lie? If I were in that situation, I would not meet with the person as soon as I found out he lied. To me, it shows manipulation, deception, and game playing, and those are qualities that don't appeal to me, so I would not be interested in pursuing. My sister, who had done online dating, used to get a lot of guys who lied about their age on their profile, and then upon meeting her on the date, they confessed that they were really ______ years older, but they said they felt younger than they were, weren't attracted to people in their own age group, age is just a number, yada yada. She rightfully felt duped, and that her time had been wasted, since she wasn't interested in dating men that were much older than her. Her first husband was several years older than her, and she felt that was not something she wanted to get into again. People should be honest and not misrepresent themselves on OLD, because it wastes other people's time who are not interested in people that are older than they prefer.
Author lilyblue Posted May 18, 2012 Author Posted May 18, 2012 If I were in that situation, I would not meet with the person as soon as I found out he lied. To me, it shows manipulation, deception, and game playing, and those are qualities that don't appeal to me, so I would not be interested in pursuing. My sister, who had done online dating, used to get a lot of guys who lied about their age on their profile, and then upon meeting her on the date, they confessed that they were really ______ years older, but they said they felt younger than they were, weren't attracted to people in their own age group, age is just a number, yada yada. She rightfully felt duped, and that her time had been wasted, since she wasn't interested in dating men that were much older than her. Her first husband was several years older than her, and she felt that was not something she wanted to get into again. People should be honest and not misrepresent themselves on OLD, because it wastes other people's time who are not interested in people that are older than they prefer. Agree, those qualities are definitely not attractive. Feeling younger than you are is fine, but it doesn't change one's chronological age... I asked him about it. Interested to hear his response... I guess there is always the possibility that they made a mistake, but highly unlikely. I guess I don't know if I'd believe him if he said that anyway. I hate finding reasons to not trust!
FitChick Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 He'll lie about something else eventually if he lied about his age online. Ditch him. So if he didn't lie about his age, he will never lie? Dream on, sister!
spiderowl Posted May 19, 2012 Posted May 19, 2012 (edited) No I wouldn't. It really annoys me when people lie about their age. I know to some it seems a small thing but I feel if they lie about that to gain a benefit on a dating site, then they will lie about other things. I do know a guy who tends to avoid mentioning his age and has led others to believe he's younger than he is. He is a decent guy but all the same, it did cause me to think twice about him too and I know him. Lying about age would put me off a guy and I wouldn't meet him. I am over 50 myself but guys I've met say I look like I'm in my late 30s. I don't ask them how old they think I look - they just comment. But, I don't lie on my profile even though it seems I could get away with it. I don't respect people who lie. Edited May 19, 2012 by spiderowl
Author lilyblue Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 Love how he answered - sent me a huge long email replying to mine and then at the end said "PS - Yes I am 42, my birthday is in July. Why, when's yours?" I was not asking when his bday was (well except maybe the year...)!! Love how he didn't even acknowledge he had lied.
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