he has my rings.... i want them back

[xpaperxcutx]

I got the impression that you were a party girl and partying is expensive. Sorry, if I'm wrong.

 

If reliability is not his strength, then don't expect him to be reliable now. Go to his place and get your ring back if he doesn't mail it to you. Next time, don't get involved with jerks who are rude, not reliable and don't respect your feelings.

 

partying is expensive that's why I stopped.

he is unreliable that is why I think I shot myslef in the foot for leaving my rings with him. I was visiting him that day and I took them off and forgot about it until much later. if I can just go to his place that easily I would so right now.

one , he's living with his dad ( never met his dad and nevef been to his place) and two he lives in long island where it's impossible to get anywhere without a car.

I suggested meeting up before but he said he will mail me my rings. so I'm aaking my friend for help because Ive to his workplace before, but I'm not going to drop in unannounced.

[xpaperxcutx]

I'm not out of line. He might be the biggest jerk on the planet, but the bottom line is that you left your rings at his house, which was careless of YOU. If you want them back very much, which is perfectly understandable, then be a grown up and make an arrangement to GO PICK THEM UP. It's so freaking simple.

 

The first thing that got my ire up was your choice of words: "He HAS my rings."

 

No, you didn't bother to keep your valued possessions on you. It has nothing to do with him.

 

I hope you get your rings back and that you soon learn what's worth making a giant deal about in this world. The drama. Not worth a thing.

you don't even know wth os going on. I didn't intentionally leave them there, and the whole breakup happened a few days afterwards. I'm not stupid enough to leave something of value like that. once again I was the one being civil- I asked him for a time and place where I can personally get my rings. he was the one who who threw a temptrum and said he rather mail it. I had to five him my address twice, on two separate days because he freaking gave me an excuse about losing his contacts.

[ItsJustTheWayItIs]

If you have never been to his house....where/why did you take the rings off and leave them with him? I'm just curious.

 

I know LS is for support and I read a lot of the threads on here, but I don't respond much, but your threads (all of them) are SO drama filled and its like a train wreck...I just can't look away.

 

I know its up to each member what threads they choose to read or not, but I have to agree with mm...get a life girl AND a therapist. This is NO way for a gal like yourself to live.

 

I'm sure your a very nice person, but damn your messed up.

[shayla]

Really? What do you think the police will say if you ask them "can you please come round to my ex's house to pick up my ring?"

And what so you think they will they do when he answers the door and says that he threw the ring in the Basingstoke canal? (Which, if he has half a brain, is exactly what he will say)

 

It's like any other case when there is a breakup and there is still property of the person at the home. They ask if there is a chance of trouble or violence if she goes there alone, she says yes, they go there to make sure there isnt trouble. That's it.

 

If you think that is too much, then that is fine. I'm going by what I know people have done to retrieve their property from an ex without drama ensuing.

Edited May 18, 2012 by shayla

[CarboniteCammy]

What i would do is make things as easy on him as possible for him to get the rings back to me... I would first give him a chance by sending him a self addressed envelope with postage already on it and then all he has to do is put them in the envelope and drop them in a post office box.

 

After a week or so has passed and you haven't heard back, text him and politely remind him to get them back.

 

If that fails, I would say, "Well, I've done what I can to get these back from you. I'm going to ask a police officer to accompany me to your house and I'm gonig to pick the rings up that way on this date at this time." That way, he has the option of being there when it happens and he can make it as easy or difficult as he chooses.

[vsmini]

that ring I lrft with is 14carat citrine ring with diamond deco details. I barely had it for a year and it was a gift to myself for after working for a year and saving up both for school and rent.

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Woah woah woah....the sentimental value is that it was a gift....to yourself? COME ON. Yes - you have every right to want the ring back but don't act like it's been in your family for 4 generations and lived through the holocaust. This entire "gifts to ourselves" thing is so strange to me...I see my friends justify raking up their CCs for stupid purses every week as a "treat." I will never understand this trend.

 

He is probably just holding this ring over your head hoping you keep making attempts to see him. He's probably the one that wants to see you....you stand a pretty good chance of getting your ring back. I say stay NC and he'll probably send it to you hoping that will initiate a response out of you.

[kaylan]

You know, I decided to check up on you OP when I saw you recently post in a thread. I thought "10 bucks says she has a new thread about this guy and is breaking up.......again" Low and behold, I see just that.

 

And you know we all expect you to create another thread about him in a week. Just look at your posting history. Its a shame what crap women put up with. Hell its a shame what people deal with in general. It truly makes me smile at the fact that Im single and havent been on much of a search for a girlfriend in a while. Your self respect should always come first.

 

Now you have dignity? Now? After all this? *sigh* well at least you learned something. So how about you now show yourself and show all of us that you are a woman of your word and that you respect yourself. Dont end up back with this dude. Again I say, dont you have better options? Because this guy had no good aura coming from him from the beginning in my opinion. You sensed it, but ignored it, and the rest of us sensed it and warned you. I assumed he was some wanna be baller who was simply using you to fill his free time, and I was right. Youll find better.

 

Good luck, dont contact him again. Tell him you want your ring back or youll make a small claims court suit. Simple and cheap.

[Star Gazer]

Kaylan: Why are you resurrecting a DEAD thread to harp on Paper? Don't you have something better to do?

[kaylan]

Hop off my jock troll. Like really, what purpose does it serve for you to even respond to me? Since when is a thread less than 2 weeks old considered dead? Especially when its last post is less than a week old? Especially in this section of the website where threads arent created with the same frequency as the dating forum and thus stay on the top page.

 

Im giving her a legit response and real advice. You arent one to be talking about who harps on OP. Last I checked shes never told me to get out of her threads or to stop talking to her. If I recall correctly shes said that to you after youve done plenty of harping yourself. So how about you get your crap straight and quit trying to get something going.

 

Get a life that doesnt involve addressing me on these forums. I thought you had me on ignore? Please do that.

Edited May 24, 2012 by kaylan

[xpaperxcutx]

Woah woah woah....the sentimental value is that it was a gift....to yourself? COME ON. Yes - you have every right to want the ring back but don't act like it's been in your family for 4 generations and lived through the holocaust. This entire "gifts to ourselves" thing is so strange to me...I see my friends justify raking up their CCs for stupid purses every week as a "treat." I will never understand this trend.

 

He is probably just holding this ring over your head hoping you keep making attempts to see him. He's probably the one that wants to see you....you stand a pretty good chance of getting your ring back. I say stay NC and he'll probably send it to you hoping that will initiate a response out of you.

 

Since when is buying a gift for myself a crime? I worked hard for my money and I like jewelry. The only problem is I can't wear nickel or silver so I opted to buy myself a gold one.

 

 

 

 

 

Hop off my jock troll. Like really, what purpose does it serve for you to even respond to me? Since when is a thread less than 2 weeks old considered dead? Especially when its last post is less than a week old? Especially in this section of the website where threads arent created with the same frequency as the dating forum and thus stay on the top page.

 

Im giving her a legit response and real advice. You arent one to be talking about who harps on OP. Last I checked shes never told me to get out of her threads or to stop talking to her. If I recall correctly shes said that to you after youve done plenty of harping yourself. So how about you get your crap straight and quit trying to get something going.

 

Get a life that doesnt involve addressing me on these forums. I thought you had me on ignore? Please do that.

 

When did you and S_G had at it?

 

 

Since this thread was resurrected I thought I give everyone a much needed update ( to throw the accusations out the window).

 

He gave me my rings back this past Sunday. I didn't nag him or reported him to the police, he actually sought me out to return my stuff to me. We didn't say anything to each other, he came out with his friend ( who drove) and he handed me my rings and left. That's that.

 

@Kaylan I do have options. I've been going out with different guys for the past week just to get myself out of the house and have fun. I also have a camping trip coming up this weekend with a friend. So lot's to do. I haven't dwell on anything. It is what it is.