xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 This past weekend was the final straw we broke up via text. I had nothing to say to him except he took me for granted. So when he decided to give me a rude speech about him beimg a " man' and he's busy ( too busy in fact to see me) I had enough. stupid thing though I left a very exepensive ring of mine with him week prior and I'm desperate to get it back. he said he'll mail it to me but I haven't heard squat from him. I have a right to ask for what's rightfully mine ( the ring is $200) but my dignity is telling me to avoid texting him. I have been on NC. what do I do?
FitChick Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 You just broke up with him. Give him time to find the ring, pack it up, take it to the post office. It seems that your entire problem with this guy stems from your impatience with everything if I remember your drama correctly. 2
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 You just broke up with him. Give him time to find the ring, pack it up, take it to the post office. It seems that your entire problem with this guy stems from your impatience with everything if I remember your drama correctly. No... he had two days to tell me when he was goinv to mail it out to me, the problem is him not me; he can never keep his words. I texted him an hour ago apparently his excuse wad that he lost all his contacts including my address. so if I hadn't texted him, I doubt he would ever get back to me. he is just so full of BS.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Unbelievable. I fess up to my stjupidity for having stuck out with him for this long but I don't have any more excuses for his behavior. I just want my rings bqck because they have sentimental value. The reason I haven't gone ape**** on him is. Because he was the one who suggested he mailed it back to me and he was going to follow up with letting me know either Monday or Tuesday. I trusted him to get back to me but he didnt. I'm not using the rings to get back in contact with him but I have no choice since the sooner I get tbem back the sooner I can erase him from my life.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 He will send the rings back, or maybe he won't. Please, please, please. No more of this. Move on. 1
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 He will send the rings back, or maybe he won't. Please, please, please. No more of this. Move on. I am moving on. believe me right now the only thing I am concerned about is getting my possessions back. like I said the rings havr sentimental value and while I don't want to rush him or have to contact him for that matter I really cannot stomach if he decides to keep them.
g450 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 He will send the rings back, or maybe he won't. Please, please, please. No more of this. Move on. Really LOL. Now I remember why I put her on my ignore list.
Cypress25 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Drive to his house and pick them up yourself. I wouldn't let my ex keep a $200 ring either. Just because you left it at his house doesn't mean it belongs to him now.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Its rather complicated if it,d been easy for me to get to him I doubt iwouldve started a thread about getting my rings back. I gave him my address. If I don't get it in the mail sometime soon I might have to pay him a little visit at hiss workplace.
PegNosePete Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 If he won't give it back then you'd have to take him to court to get it back. Is it worth the fees and hassle for a $200 ring? I doubt it. Don't visit his workplace. That is psycho stalker ex territory.
shayla Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Go to his house with the police. No muss no fuss no drama.
PegNosePete Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Go to his house with the police. No muss no fuss no drama. Really? What do you think the police will say if you ask them "can you please come round to my ex's house to pick up my ring?" And what so you think they will they do when he answers the door and says that he threw the ring in the Basingstoke canal? (Which, if he has half a brain, is exactly what he will say)
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 You seem to be a genius of making a huge deal out of almost nothing. That has been the essence of your very peripheral dealings with this guy from the start. Call him up, ask him to meet you somewhere with the rings, if he says "no," then write them off and FREAKING MOVE ON!!!!!!!!! Starting this thread - is NOT part of "moving on." And, no, you don't get to bring the police to his house or mess with his work environment because YOU LEFT YOUR RINGS WITH HIM. He didn't take them. Geez. People who leave stuff behind often never see that stuff anymore. Normal. 2
PlumPrincess Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 $200 is a lot of money, but even I can live with that one time loss if it buys me peace of mind, which not having contact with f*cked up exes mean. And my impression is that for New Yorkers $200 isn't that much money. So, it seems to me that you are just trying to find a reason to continue staying in contact with your ex. I don't know how it is for others, but my mind seems to come up with the most lame excuses to contact someone when I know I shouldn't. If the ring does indeed have sentimental value, I would go to my ex's house and demand the ring back.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Either go to his house or maybe send him a prepaid, self addressed envelope and hope for the best - but being indignant because he is not jumping to send back what you were responsible for leaving behind is just lame. If I were in this situation, I would say to myself, "darn. Why did I leave my rings at his house? I sure hope I ever see them again." The end.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 If the ring does indeed have sentimental value, I would go to my ex's house and demand the ring back. What's with the "demanding," the idea of getting police involved, and even the statement that he "HAS" her rings? She left her rings there! Mistake! Of HERS! Okay, sorry. For some reason, this irks me. I'll stop now.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) Mme. you are way out of line here. yeah I left my ringsl with him but it doesn't mean that I should just leave it with him. I asked him politely when we broke up for him to meet me and give me back my stuff; he refused and offered to mail it to me. I've been very civil since he was the one who broke with me after I told him i wasn't happy. for those who think $200 isn't worth a lot of monry, I'm still a working student. I don't depend on my parents for money so most of what I earn I save up for tuition. that ring I lrft with is 14carat citrine ring with diamond deco details. I barely had it for a year and it was a gift to myself for after working for a year and saving up both for school and rent. you know what 'irks' me? the fact you're jumping down my throat and dismissing my troubles because you think this thread is about him. I haven't talked to him, and I don't intend to unless its a followup about my ring. but even then I think I would prefer to have my friend talk for me because I don't have much patience anymore fr a selfish guy. Edited May 17, 2012 by xpaperxcutx
PlumPrincess Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 What's with the "demanding," the idea of getting police involved, and even the statement that he "HAS" her rings? She left her rings there! Mistake! Of HERS! Okay, sorry. For some reason, this irks me. I'll stop now. Who said she was supposed to take the police with her? What is it with people here on this board putting words in other people's mouth all the time?
PlumPrincess Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Mme. you are way out of line here. yeah I left my ringsl with him but it doesn't mean that I should just leave it with him. I asked him politely when we broke up for him to meet me and give me back my stuff; he refused and offered to mail it to me. I've been very civil since he was the one who broke with me after I told him i wasn't happy. for those who think $200 isn't worth a lot of monry, I'm still a working student. I don't depend on my parents for money so most of what I earn I save up for tuition. that ring I lrft with is 14carat citrine ring with diamond deco details. I barely had it for a year and it was a gift to myself for after working for a year and saving up both for school and rent. you know what 'irks' me? the fact you're jumping down my throat and dismissing my troubles because you think this thread is about him. I haven't talked to him, and I don't intend to unless its a followup about my ring. but even then I think I would prefer to have my friend talk for me because I don't have much patience anymore fr a selfish guy. How much money did you spend last month on clothes? And how much on partying?
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 How much money did you spend last month on clothes? And how much on partying? I haven't gone out partying or bought new clothes. I was wrking a job that I recently quit.quit with your unnecessary assumptions.
anne1707 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Who said she was supposed to take the police with her? What is it with people here on this board putting words in other people's mouth all the time? Not putting words in mouths. Someone has actually suggested this: Go to his house with the police. No muss no fuss no drama. Though I am sure the police have far more important things to deal with
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 it's irrational for me to go to the police. I don't want to turn this into a big situation. if I don't getmy rings in the mail I'm just goijgto hve him meet up with me and get tyem back in person.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I'm not out of line. He might be the biggest jerk on the planet, but the bottom line is that you left your rings at his house, which was careless of YOU. If you want them back very much, which is perfectly understandable, then be a grown up and make an arrangement to GO PICK THEM UP. It's so freaking simple. The first thing that got my ire up was your choice of words: "He HAS my rings." No, you didn't bother to keep your valued possessions on you. It has nothing to do with him. I hope you get your rings back and that you soon learn what's worth making a giant deal about in this world. The drama. Not worth a thing.
PlumPrincess Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I haven't gone out partying or bought new clothes. I was wrking a job that I recently quit.quit with your unnecessary assumptions. I got the impression that you were a party girl and partying is expensive. Sorry, if I'm wrong. If reliability is not his strength, then don't expect him to be reliable now. Go to his place and get your ring back if he doesn't mail it to you. Next time, don't get involved with jerks who are rude, not reliable and don't respect your feelings.
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