Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 i keep feeling like im gonna get him back someday. I don't know though could just be wishful thinking. I just feel like there still a spark among the ashes. Just why would be get married thats whats stumping me!
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 i keep feeling like im gonna get him back someday. I don't know though could just be wishful thinking. I just feel like there still a spark among the ashes. Just why would be get married thats whats stumping me! because he loves her and wants stability. Do you really want a man who sends suggestive texts behind his woman's back? If he went with you, he would most likely be texting her.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Do you think he will show his wife the texts? It's probably the wife sending the texts, LOL
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 haha.. not it wasn't her sending the text! And one..I have thought about that, would i want a man who is sending text like that secretly. But i think we have a special connection we both realized at different times. If he feels that way now or not, i don't know.There's just a some force behind it i cant explain the feeling..its almost like gravitational pull for me. But the text flowed very easily.. flirty, and everything like when we were together. I can give him stability and true love, that was realized more with the passage of time. Ive learned so much.
Dark Phoenix Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 . I can give him stability and true love, that was realized more with the passage of time. Ive learned so much. Ding ding ding, and this is why he will come back. This is why we say love isn't black and white. For people that haven't gone through gigs they will never understand this connection.
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 dark.. i wonder if he feels that way to.. i think its to soon to ask or make demands.. I'm still at a loss of what to do next. I don't know if i should say something or just let him sort things out in his mind.. or what. One think i know is i love him, i don't want anyone else. He is the only person i have thought about every day, and missed. Not only that i slowly learned about myself and that he wasn't bad like i thought originally and that i to did a lot wrong. I didnt know how to recive the love he gave me.. and i am aware of that now, as well as other things but i do feel a force thats drawing me back to him It just feels right. So hard to explain.
Dark Phoenix Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 You're well ahead of the game, you will figure it out. The fat lady hasn't sung yet
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 How do I even now if he feels the same way?
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 So we text again today... He text me saying what's up.. So it got more serious I expressed in text everything I did wrong and how blind I was... He didn't say much other than he never hated me and he thought I hated him. I did most of the talking.. He said he thought things happend for a reason.. And if it didn't work out it would be good to keep in contact.. And that he didn't hold any grudges.. And still thinks I'm a great person...
dsw31 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 So we text again today... He text me saying what's up.. So it got more serious I expressed in text everything I did wrong and how blind I was... He didn't say much other than he never hated me and he thought I hated him. I did most of the talking.. He said he thought things happend for a reason.. And if it didn't work out it would be good to keep in contact.. And that he didn't hold any grudges.. And still thinks I'm a great person... Oh no! The dreaded "you're a great person". Sorry to say but, you're most likely toast . He may try to keep you around just for sex one of these days. Be prepared to take your stand & not give it up unless you guys actually get back together. 3
Jono85 Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 So we text again today... He text me saying what's up.. So it got more serious I expressed in text everything I did wrong and how blind I was... He didn't say much other than he never hated me and he thought I hated him. I did most of the talking.. He said he thought things happend for a reason.. And if it didn't work out it would be good to keep in contact.. And that he didn't hold any grudges.. And still thinks I'm a great person... as close to a rejection as someone can get. move on now. leave his marriage alone. 1
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Also said I wasn't that bad as I made myself out to be...
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 He's married now! He married her because he loves HER! If he had LOVED YOU - he would have married YOU - but he didn't! Leave them alone! Stop contacting him! Would you like it if he were doing that while YOU were married to him? NO! It's a feed to his ego! That's why he's doing it! But it's hurting YOU! 1
AsItIs Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Also said I wasn't that bad as I made myself out to be... Enough is enough Searching! I disagreed with you interfereing with a marriage but, I gave you the benefit of the doubt because sometimes the "one" really does slip away.That's not the case here.You are being delusional.He said you "weren't as bad as you made yourself out to be" because you sounded pathetic spilling out your guts to him and apologizing while he knows he is happily married now.He said everything happens for a reason because it worked out for him.I'm sorry to be so harsh but you are trying to twist everything he says into hope.It's extremely hard but you need to work on processing the loss now & moving on. Good luck & leave the married man alone before his wife kicks your ass. 2
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 It was her pathetic attempt to create an emotional connection - all based on negative emotions! Oh please feel sorry for me - your "hook" for his attention! Disgusting! And he didnt take he bait! So now you are left with your own negative self image. Get counseling! You need help. Why are you creating negative envy and growing it bigger by adding in MORE negative energy? He's married! Stop communicating!!! 1
Dark Phoenix Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Searchin, from your conversation, do you perceive that as rejection. Remember, its only your viewpoint that matters
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Dark,I don't know what to think yet. He messaged me today and yesterday.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Dark,I don't know what to think yet. He messaged me today and yesterday. Does he message you while he's home with his new wife? 1
Dark Phoenix Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I know i saw that too, he didn't reject you, actions speak louder then words .
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 He didn't say much that would be rejection, not did he say anything favorable. He let me speak and vent. I'm kind of glad he didn't give much of a reaction let him think it over. He just said things weren't all that bad. I probably scared him by throwing emotions out there, I'll prob never hear from him again now lol
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Ego should play no role in this. I don't care if it feeds his ego or not.
Dark Phoenix Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Good for you for doing it. There was nothing wrong with it. You play tennis well, you hit the ball back in his court. Now let him hit the ball back. I'm sure hes thinking and will be for a while. He doesn't have an ego anymore, they are projecting, just ignore them
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Ego should play no role in this. I don't care if it feeds his ego or not. Oh yes it does. You also have an ego feed by even thinking he's paying attention to you while he's now married. You are playing an evil role - you are trying to tempt him. Your actions show your lack of character. Work on your defects.
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