Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 I didn't take any vows either. And I gave him a way out of the text conversation and he seemed to continue it and prompt me back. I will not text him again unless he text me. For some reason I feel he won't, it's been four days and nothing, if he truly wanted to talk to me I doubt he would wait four days. I would think he would have jumped at the opritunity. Maybe his text the other day were just friendly and innocent and wanted to see how I was and nothing more.
gibson Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) OP u had ur chance and blew it. be a homewrecker, but karma will catch up with u. The homewrecker is the spouse that wrecks the home! I love how people always blame the "other" person for being a homewrecker. In your world... As long as I don't have options... I promise to love, honor and cherish you until death do us part. Unlike you, I hold myself and my wife accountable to the vows we make to one another. We didn't take vows with every person of the opposite sex. Edited May 17, 2012 by gibson
Joaquin Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Op. How old are you? Have you been out with or made any romantic progress with anyone since you broke up with the now married ex?
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Well I compare everyone to him. I am young early 30s. I Dont feel a connection with other guys the way I did him. I'm talking to a guy now..kinda like him.. Bit I feel like I'd just settle to since I can't have my ex.
Joaquin Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Well I compare everyone to him. I am young early 30s. I Dont feel a connection with other guys the way I did him. I'm talking to a guy now..kinda like him.. Bit I feel like I'd just settle to since I can't have my ex. Ok. How many guys have you slept with since your ex.
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Sorry that's not an appropriate question and has no place here. 2
Joaquin Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) I disagree. I just wonder if your a bit lonely and reaching out. Turning this guy who you kinda ignored for 20 months into some kind of white knight because you maybe aren't having much luck since him. And maybe your getting anxious now your in your 30s. Edited May 17, 2012 by Joaquin 1
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) Lol actually I have a lot of luck.. I hate to sound coincided. But I'm very hot. Good looking and have very hot men interested in me and have been on dates ect and seen other guys ect. My ex actually gained weight probably like 30 pounds and doesn't have a six pack like he used to and I still want him and I know I could get any guy. I am not being concided but I'm blond, blue eyes and very in shape. And far from desperate as you say. I just love him and realize what I lost, i had a very good connection with him. And that is hard to come by. Looks and age have nothing to do with it. For the record his wife has nothing on me.. She not all that great lookin at all.. And a few of his friends said to me they thought he could have pulled better. Even when I ran into him the other night I was getting checked out and guys comming up to me. His poor little wifey didnt even get any looks.. And I noticed she was watching me lol damn did I love knowing I looked so damn good that night.. Hope she felt insecure lol Edited May 17, 2012 by Searchin81
wilsonx Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 You still have some growing up to do. You aren't ready for him yet. I wasnt sure until this very last edit on your post 3
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 Like I said its not about looks and I love my ex regardless of what he looks like... No one will convince me other wise. But it was wrong of the previous person to say I am despreate.. Far from it..I want my ex cause I love him for who he is...not cause I am desperate cause I can't get anyone else.
muzik_lvr Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Please leave this man alone and let him tend to his wife and marriage. Hopefully she is a humble woman who loves him and seeks to please her husband, and he the same to her. 1
gibson Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Like I said its not about looks and I love my ex regardless of what he looks like... No one will convince me other wise. But it was wrong of the previous person to say I am despreate.. Far from it..I want my ex cause I love him for who he is...not cause I am desperate cause I can't get anyone else. Searchin, you don't have to explain to anyone here your feelings for your Ex or answer questions about your looks and how many sexual partners you have been with. Due to the fact your Ex is married and this is a break up forum where many of the people here were dumped by someone running back to an Ex... You are asking for it in here. Stay in the "Other Man / Women" Forum and let this thread die.
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 My heart kills me.. For years it's been eating away at me. I can't take it. To say I don't love him his foolish. I never realized how much I did. It hurts even to think about the good times because I miss it so much. I miss him, his personality, his family everything. I just can't take it anymore my heart is killing me. I just wish this pain would go away, I wish I would get ammnisure and have my memory erased. Thats how bad it is. I would jump in front of a bullet for him. I love him more than anything. All of this wasn't supposed to happen. I never ever ever ever ever expected him to jump into a marriage. I thought he was gonna live the single life for a while.. He was a player like that and I expected that is what he was going to do. He told me once he wanted to be single ect then changed his mind.. How does that happen.l did he think I was gonna let him leave play around then all of a sudden come back to me after he realized the grass wasn't greener? I was supposed to sit around and wait why my man told me he didn't love me, then lived it up till he decided to come back, then not make him feel the pain he put me through? then he tells me he regrets it all, and single life wasn't what he thought it was gonna be, and tells me he compares me to everyone ect then runs off with some girl that broke up with her bf and moved right into his house and gets engaged? Why would I ever think that would happen?
gibson Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Please leave this man alone and let him tend to his wife and marriage. Hopefully she is a humble woman who loves him and seeks to please her husband, and he the same to her. I love how this man who is married can be the one contacting the OP, texting with her all day even after she ended the conversation and never once mentioned his wife and he wins the "Husband of the Year Award". Note: The OP is not contacting him... it's the other way around!
Jono85 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Lol actually I have a lot of luck.. I hate to sound coincided. But I'm very hot. Good looking and have very hot men interested in me and have been on dates ect and seen other guys ect. My ex actually gained weight probably like 30 pounds and doesn't have a six pack like he used to and I still want him and I know I could get any guy. I am not being concided but I'm blond, blue eyes and very in shape. And far from desperate as you say. I just love him and realize what I lost, i had a very good connection with him. And that is hard to come by. Looks and age have nothing to do with it. For the record his wife has nothing on me.. She not all that great lookin at all.. And a few of his friends said to me they thought he could have pulled better. Even when I ran into him the other night I was getting checked out and guys comming up to me. His poor little wifey didnt even get any looks.. And I noticed she was watching me lol damn did I love knowing I looked so damn good that night.. Hope she felt insecure lol i'm sorry to inform you, but you're as conceited as it gets. if you hated to sound conceited you wouldn't sound like the most conceited narcissistic person in the world lol. i love you try to suggest that looks have nothing to do with anything, then proceed to spend a whole paragraph bashing the wife's looks. what happened to looks not being important? ps. chances are you're heavily overrating yourself; in my experience beautiful girls feel secure enough not to mention how pretty they are. 1
Jono85 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 The homewrecker is the spouse that wrecks the home! I love how people always blame the "other" person for being a homewrecker. In your world... As long as I don't have options... I promise to love, honor and cherish you until death do us part. Unlike you, I hold myself and my wife accountable to the vows we make to one another. We didn't take vows with every person of the opposite sex. don't accuse me of things i never said, it makes you sound silly. it takes two, they both can be homewreckers. she IS a homewrecker if she doesn't leave a married man alone. and all of you are in fact suggesting that she takes matters into her own hands, aka a homewrecker. 1
gibson Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) i'm sorry to inform you, but you're as conceited as it gets. I love confident women who know they are attractive and sexy. if you hated to sound conceited you wouldn't sound like the most conceited narcissistic person in the world lol. I am very good looking and I know it. Call me conceited if you like... I call it confident and honest. i love you try to suggest that looks have nothing to do with anything, then proceed to spend a whole paragraph bashing the wife's looks. what happened to looks not being important? What planet are you from? Here on earth, most women I have met often compare themselves (clothes, hair, handbags, shoes, jewelry, looks, make up, body, etc.) to other women. Ever talked with a women that was dumped? They compare themselves to the new women... A LOT. Do you actually think the women you date are getting dressed up nice just for you or other men? I hate to break it to you, they dress up for other women also. ps. chances are you're heavily overrating yourself; in my experience beautiful girls feel secure enough not to mention how pretty they are. Hahahahahahahaha! This statement is the most ridiculous of all! The most in-secure women I have met were very beautiful. Edited May 17, 2012 by gibson
Jono85 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I love confident women who know they are attractive and sexy. I am very good looking and I know it. Call me conceited, I don't care. I call it confident and honest. What planet are you from? Here on earth, most women I have met often compare themselves (clothes, hair, handbags, shoes, jewelry, looks, make up, body, etc.) to other women. Ever talked with a women that was dumped? They compare themselves to the new women... A LOT. Do you actually think the women you date are getting dressed up nice just for you or other men? I hate to break it to you, they dress up for other women also. Hahahahahahahaha! This statement is the most ridiculous of all! The most in-secure women I have met were very beautiful. there's a difference between a woman who's confident and knows they're sexy (who wouldn't love that in a woman...) and one who starts rambling about how pretty they are when no one inquired about it. one is confident, the other is a self-absorbed, insecure, ________ (insert own adjective). if u can't tell the difference, then u probably fall into the latter group (of men). obviously women AND men compare themselves to eachother. but what the hell does that have to do with the guys wife?? unless he chooses his mates based solely on attractiveness, why is she writing a paragraph about how much prettier she is than this wife?? oh that's right, b/c she's an insecure, self-absorbed _______ . and you haven't been meeting quality women unfortunately. confident beautiful women don't talk about how beautiful they are, especially when no one was talking about beauty. confident beautiful women KNOW they are beautiful and don't need to say it to believe it. i could never be with a girl like that personally, but to each's own. 1
muzik_lvr Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 I love how this man who is married can be the one contacting the OP, texting with her all day even after she ended the conversation and never once mentioned his wife and he wins the "Husband of the Year Award". Note: The OP is not contacting him... it's the other way around! Not saying he is without fault. By "leave this man alone", I mean to not plot and plan how to get back with him, and if he does contact her again, for her to not respond and let him be. By her not responding, maybe it will snap him back into reality that he is a married man now who made vows to this woman, and that he should put all of his focus and attention on her.
gibson Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 don't accuse me of things i never said, it makes you sound silly. I quoted you word for word in my post. she IS a homewrecker if she doesn't leave a married man alone. You should get "Husband of the Year" contact information from Searchin81 and let him know that he is suppose to love his wife, honor his vows and to STOP CONTACTING Searchin81 and to LEAVE HER ALONE. all of you are in fact suggesting that she takes matters into her own hands, aka a homewrecker. Wait.. What? You just said that accusing you of something (when I directly quoted you) made me look silly. You are the one accusing me and everyone else here of being homewreckers? Please point out a post where I told Searchin81 that she should be with "Husband of the Year", contact "Husband of the Year" and ruin a marriage (even though the "Husband of the Year" is doing that all on his own).
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) Can we get back to the main topic... I'm worried that I'm not gonna hear from him again.. So everyone can breathe a sigh of relief while I wallow in my misery lol.. How long would it take for him to contact me again.. U think he will sooner or later, or if at all? He hasn't measaged me in four days now. I wonder if he has thought about me the past few days at all the way I have thought about him. Does the fact that we text all day men anything or was he just being nice and catching up? Also I found it interesting that he told me he doesn't go out often anymore to bars and stuff...when he did he spoke in the singular sense using "I"... Not we.. I know when he talks to mutual friends he always tells them he doesn't go out because he is married... But to me he just said "I" Edited May 17, 2012 by Searchin81
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 I can't I'm to scared to do that. Cause I'm afraid ge doesn't feel the same. If he had been texting me still then maybe, but he hasn't
Author Searchin81 Posted May 17, 2012 Author Posted May 17, 2012 (edited) Oh ya for the record he never even told me he was married! He probably just assumed I knew when I said "all the best to you and yours", I'm sure he must know that I know Shouldn't he have been somewhat formal and mentioned it to me himself? Edited May 17, 2012 by Searchin81
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