2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Good for you for doing it. There was nothing wrong with it. You play tennis well, you hit the ball back in his court. Now let him hit the ball back. I'm sure hes thinking and will be for a while. He doesn't have an ego anymore, they are projecting, just ignore them This is a very twisted sense of helping - he IS MARRIED!
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 I think its so immature to worry about ego.. If anything people should never concider ego in anything.. It's the biggest obstacle to anything I've learned. If his ego is fed so be it. I was speaking how I felt and disregarding my ego.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I think its so immature to worry about ego.. If anything people should never concider ego in anything.. It's the biggest obstacle to anything I've learned. If his ego is fed so be it. I was speaking how I felt and disregarding my ego. Not true. It's all about your ego.
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 Sorry sweetie it's not. My ego told me not to do it, not to express what's in my heart for fear of rejection. I had to over come that egoism and just lay what I felt on the line. I wronged him and he deserved to know it.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 Sorry sweetie it's not. My ego told me not to do it, not to express what's in my heart for fear of rejection. I had to over come that egoism and just lay what I felt on the line. I wronged him and he deserved to know it. Don't call me sweetie - you don't know me! If you didn't need the ego boost - you would have simply stated the obvious WITHOUT trying to further engage him in conversation. Now you're trying to force YOUR agenda on him (trying to get him to cheat while he's married). That IS all about your ego - at the cost of completely harming OTHERS! Specifically him and his wife! IF you truly cared - you wouldn't interact with him ANY FURTHER! That would look like NO EGO! But your EGO IS IN IT - you keep trying to get him to participate with you - THAT is ego! No ego wouldn't have needed to even step into any communication!
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 He messages me today and yesterday. Maybe his intent was to be friendly who knows.
Dark Phoenix Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 2sunny you're projecting, its not about ego. You aren't a marriage expert. She let go of her ego to express herself, if you would let go of your ego, you would find love too. Ego is the one thing that blocks love. Marriage doesn't equal love
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 He may well be just trying to be friendly. Maybe has no interest in me other than some text messages. Who knows. But I am glad I was finally able to express my feelings, I have been scared of brusing me ego for years and never did it. Had I done this years ago maybe things would be diffent. He said he thought I hated him. I told him not at all, far from it.. He just said "good", I stopped short of saying I still loved him. I didn't think that was Apropriate.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 2sunny you're projecting, its not about ego. You aren't a marriage expert. She let go of her ego to express herself, if you would let go of your ego, you would find love too. Ego is the one thing that blocks love. Marriage doesn't equal love I am not projecting . I am posting to words written. How would you know if I'm not a marriage expert? Ahahaha, that's funny you would assume! Ego blocks love - REAL love. Some marriages equal love. And for you to say its MY ego is absurd... I feel neutral. And you make assumptions when you say I don't have love! Sheez, SO MANY ASSUMPTIONS! Read the book "the four agreements" by RUIZ - you could learn from it.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 He may well be just trying to be friendly. Maybe has no interest in me other than some text messages. Who knows. But I am glad I was finally able to express my feelings, I have been scared of brusing me ego for years and never did it. Had I done this years ago maybe things would be diffent. He said he thought I hated him. I told him not at all, far from it.. He just said "good", I stopped short of saying I still loved him. I didn't think that was Apropriate. His one word answer of "good" is his attempt to NOT ENGAGE in conversation. Notice he's NOT asking you for any info? Yet you keep giving MORE! He's not trying to OPEN UP the communication! He's not asked to know MORE and he hasnt asked to see you. Stop trying to get his attention SI your agenda.
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 I prob scared him with all the emotions. Wonder if he will bother textin me again now. I bet not for a while.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 I prob scared him with all the emotions. Wonder if he will bother textin me again now. I bet not for a while. No more - for EVERRRRRR!
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 No harm no foul He's texting you Do you always encourage women to be home wreckers?
ginastar Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 searchin is not doing anything wrong by responding to him. He is the married one AND he is initiating it. searchin did not marry someone she doesnt love like her ex did. She is single and free to do whatever. It is the married persons responsibility to act like a married person!
gibson Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 The whole story is really sad. What makes it worse... The people that were cheated on by their Ex-Husband (2sunny), left for an Ex (Jono85) and a psychopath guy who talked about his Ex-wife all the time (BewitchedandBothered). I guess they still blame the other person and since Searchin81 is the "other person" here, she gets attack. Why does everyone in here think this guy is so great? Worthy of a Husband of Year award? So "In Love" with his Wife? HE IS SNEAKING AROUND, FLIRTING, EMOTIONALLY CHEATING AND WILL CONTINUE TO DO SO!!!! Searchin's Ex is problem here. If it is not Searchin, it will be someone else down the road. I guess my version of "LOVE" is a lot different than most because I don't text and flirt with an Ex if I am married or in a relationship with someone, much less when I am "In Love" with them. When I make a vow to be married or enter into a committed relationship with someone, I don't go to every person of the opposite sex in the world and ask them to hold my partner accountable to the vow or the commitment they made to me. It's my partner's job to do that ALL ON THEIR OWN no matter what situation that find themselves in (and almost all of "those situations" can be avoided anyway). I have been in committed relationships where... I have had other woman text, email, call, proposition, "grab" me, had a few get naked in front of me, etc. when I was sober and drunk. Never once did I act on it nor would I. If I was searchin81, I would remove myself from the situation and not respond to any further communication unless he is divorced. Which from where I am sitting, I think is only a matter of time.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 searchin is not doing anything wrong by responding to him. He is the married one AND he is initiating it. searchin did not marry someone she doesnt love like her ex did. She is single and free to do whatever. It is the married persons responsibility to act like a married person! Ummmm, last time I checked in order for a MM to find a willing participant to cheat - the communication needed to be opened by one person. In this case that ONE person is the OP - SHE is the one trying to get him to consider cheating. So yes, SHE IS doing something wrong - its wrong for her to participate in this manner. IF you were his wife - would YOU be digging what the OP is DOING? She INTENDS to get him to cheat with her!!! THAT IS WRONG!!!!
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 The whole story is really sad. What makes it worse... The people that were cheated on by their Ex-Husband (2sunny), left for an Ex (Jono85) and a psychopath guy who talked about his Ex-wife all the time (BewitchedandBothered). I guess they still blame the other person and since Searchin81 is the "other person" here, she gets attack. Why does everyone in here think this guy is so great? Worthy of a Husband of Year award? So "In Love" with his Wife? HE IS SNEAKING AROUND, FLIRTING, EMOTIONALLY CHEATING AND WILL CONTINUE TO DO SO!!!! Searchin's Ex is problem here. If it is not Searchin, it will be someone else down the road. I guess my version of "LOVE" is a lot different than most because I don't text and flirt with an Ex if I am married or in a relationship with someone, much less when I am "In Love" with them. When I make a vow to be married or enter into a committed relationship with someone, I don't go to every person of the opposite sex in the world and ask them to hold my partner accountable to the vow or the commitment they made to me. It's my partner's job to do that ALL ON THEIR OWN no matter what situation that find themselves in (and almost all of "those situations" can be avoided anyway). I have been in committed relationships where... I have had other woman text, email, call, proposition, "grab" me, had a few get naked in front of me, etc. when I was sober and drunk. Never once did I act on it nor would I. If I was searchin81, I would remove myself from the situation and not respond to any further communication unless he is divorced. Which from where I am sitting, I think is only a matter of time. I'm not attacking - I'm just saying its terribly wrong!
Author Searchin81 Posted May 25, 2012 Author Posted May 25, 2012 He is also said nothing about his marriage. He hasn't told me if he was happy or anything. Nothing not at all. But he did send me if everyone wants to know some very sexual text messages yesterday.
2sunny Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 You could be describing my friend that was my room mate for two years. He always dated one gal seriously and would also string several non interesting gals along just to feed his ego. He would say VERY LITTLE to them - but they would go on and on... To the point where he thought they were ridiculous and crazy! He loved the ego feed - just knowing that they would respond was enough. He is very immature for an older guy. He got married not long ago - after dating a new gal only a month before he proposed. HE was over the top IN LOVE with her - they had worked together for years at his side job, so he did know enough about her. She is MUCH younger then he is. He had his specific reasons for wanting to marry HER - and not all the other hot ones he had previously dated. They have FUN! She is real! No drama! Similar interests! You could be posting about him! But I've seen it first hand - he did get married and he was happy to do so! Anyone that really loves a guy like that is TRULY happy that they found love! They don't go trying to flirt and tease them into communicating!
ginastar Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 How on earth can you still think this guy is in love?? He is not only continuously texting his EX GF but he is texting her flirty, sexual messages. He has not mentioned this wife that you think he loves so much. I wonder why. You could be describing my friend that was my room mate for two years. He always dated one gal seriously and would also string several non interesting gals along just to feed his ego. He would say VERY LITTLE to them - but they would go on and on... To the point where he thought they were ridiculous and crazy! He loved the ego feed - just knowing that they would respond was enough. He is very immature for an older guy. He got married not long ago - after dating a new gal only a month before he proposed. HE was over the top IN LOVE with her - they had worked together for years at his side job, so he did know enough about her. She is MUCH younger then he is. He had his specific reasons for wanting to marry HER - and not all the other hot ones he had previously dated. They have FUN! She is real! No drama! Similar interests! You could be posting about him! But I've seen it first hand - he did get married and he was happy to do so! Anyone that really loves a guy like that is TRULY happy that they found love! They don't go trying to flirt and tease them into communicating!
Joaquin Posted May 25, 2012 Posted May 25, 2012 This thread may have started out genuine but it's full of contradictions and rubbish now from the op. In the space of 1 day the married ex is now sending her sex texts. This is bs. I'd say op is trying to keep the thread alive to give her some ego feed and attention since the married guy is long gone. 2
2sunny Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 How on earth can you still think this guy is in love?? He is not only continuously texting his EX GF but he is texting her flirty, sexual messages. He has not mentioned this wife that you think he loves so much. I wonder why. I never said it was him. I said my old room mate has had OLD girlfriends he used to text with - when he was single - but dating someone seriously. But he did get married... And he seems very happy about his decision to get married.
Author Searchin81 Posted May 26, 2012 Author Posted May 26, 2012 (edited) This thread may have started out genuine but it's full of contradictions and rubbish now from the op. In the space of 1 day the married ex is now sending her sex texts. This is bs. I'd say op is trying to keep the thread alive to give her some ego feed and attention since the married guy is long gone. Sorry it's true.. If I could post photos here I would. Why would I like. He most defiantly sent me sexual text messages the content of which would be to explicit to type here. How he was at work and giving I'm an erection in more excplicit language. And how he wished he could do things ect... Today around he sent a message.. With hey xxxxx(my nickname), that's all it said.. So I asked how he was. And it went from there Edited May 26, 2012 by Searchin81
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