c0nfused88 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I am curious if you meet someone through online dating and you seem to hit it off-- and then you realize they are still logging into that dating site (or others) on a daily basis. What do you think of this? Are they keeping their options open? Are they just not that interested? What if the person told you that you're the first person they have meet online (and they had been online looking for a while), does that make a difference-- and if so what does it mean?
pteromom Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I wouldn't delete my profile until I became exclusive with someone. Until that point, you don't know what is gonna happen. If you deleted your profile every time you had a good date, you'd be rewriting the thing all the time. I wouldn't read anything into it other than it is still very very early in your new relationship. Just relax and keep getting to know them. 3
LittlePrince Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I wouldn't delete my profile until I became exclusive with someone. Until that point, you don't know what is gonna happen. If you deleted your profile every time you had a good date, you'd be rewriting the thing all the time. I wouldn't read anything into it other than it is still very very early in your new relationship. Just relax and keep getting to know them. Which is why you saved a copy of it just in case being exclusive isn't so exclusive
january2011 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 If they're logging in daily and you know this, so are you. Works both ways. When you become exclusive, you need to talk to him about what to do with your profiles - try to reach an agreement that you're both happy with.
FitChick Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Some websites won't let you delete a profile so they can claim millions and millions of members. In that case you can usually hide it or remove your photos and change it so much that no one would contact you.
Author c0nfused88 Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 I am sure this will sound creepy-- but I do not log in daily-- I was searching and finding that he was. I'm not very into online dating yet-- but perhaps I should keep my options open. I do a agree that if we become exclusive that talk should occur-- how many couples actually have the specific exclusivity talk though? I feel like a lot of things just seem to fall in place in relationships. I have been out of the dating game a while-- out of a serious relationship and am not sure how this is talked about now. If they're logging in daily and you know this, so are you. Works both ways. When you become exclusive, you need to talk to him about what to do with your profiles - try to reach an agreement that you're both happy with.
DuchessKaye Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 As soon as we become exclusive, I will switch mine off. But as to your guy, he could be just checking you out if you're still logging in just like you checking him out if he's still logging in. I tried online dating before and it was really a mess. After I met a guy from there and started hanging out that lasted for 3 months consistently (with sex in the question). We really got along well, I thought he'd delete his profile as I did to mine cause I was starting to get a vibe that it could somehow work. But it broke my heart when I found out that he has been there all the while and he's still a paid member so I thought what the f-ck is that? I mean what has he been doing there? Chatting and still checking out other women? I dropped the contact and I ran away with no nothing.
SJC2008 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I am curious if you meet someone through online dating and you seem to hit it off-- and then you realize they are still logging into that dating site (or others) on a daily basis. What do you think of this? Are they keeping their options open? Are they just not that interested? What if the person told you that you're the first person they have meet online (and they had been online looking for a while), does that make a difference-- and if so what does it mean? It's one of those dammed if you do dammed if you don't situations for both sexes. Take it down right away scare him her. Leave it up too long and leave the the other saying WTF? The last girl I dated took her profile down right away and it didn't bother me at all. I didn't get past the 3rd date so that just tells me she's conservative/not a multi dater and took it down right away and had nothing to do with liking me.
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