Pinkhearts05 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 So I've been with my boyfriend for a year & a half. I love him so much & I know he's the one. He had to leave Mid February because his dad passed away & came back a week after but then he had to leave again Late March. He said he would be back in two weeks & that didn't happen he had to stay in his hometown & is in a different state than me. I just wish I could be with him but I need to finish school & I only work part time. He has been shutting me out. I don't know what's going on with him right now. I know it's family issues that he has to deal with but he should at least text or call. I have texted & called but he doesn't answer. It's been two weeks that I have not heard from him & out of these two weeks he's only replied once saying I love you too. I'm giving him his space to deal with his family & I try not to get in the way but I just don't know what to do anymore. Should I completely stop texting him? All I text is I love him & that I'm here for him even though he doesn't text back. I'm worried I may be pushing him away or maybe I should try a little harder. I know he needs time right now but he should not completely shut me out... I know the best thing would be to visit him to see what's going on & support him. I'm saving up money for that but all im doing right now is trying to be very very patient & it kills me each day because hes my weakness. We had plans for the future to get married & thats what keeps me going each day that hopefully in time things will be like they were before. Do I stop texting him & let him come to me? Or should I try to keep calling? One can only be so strong...this is someone who I see in my future & me & him have come a long way. By the way this is my first long distance relationship...
d'Arthez Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 You don't know what is going on. Either he will call or he won't. Try to keep yourself busy, and set a mental for yourself by which time he should have given you a call. You can't keep on living like this forever - at some point you may be forced to cut your losses and move on.
Christine52 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I think what's best is to just let him know that you are here to support him and he can come to you for anything he may need, and then just back away and give him space. For guys, when they go through life's problems, they often want to go away into a cave somewhere, and sort it out on their own. Once their problems are somewhat resolved or put on the back burner for whatever reason, they will come back to you. Be patient, and get busy!!! Don't call him after you tell him through an email or text that you support him no matter what, then leave it be. I personally think 2 weeks of him not calling you is kind of uncalled for, and I would definitely be upset with him but given his tough situation, give it some time 1
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