xxSRMxx Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I shouldve seen the signs, that somebody was only stirring up trouble for a reaction, but i took the bait anyway. a ''source'' messaged me today telling me that they had heard my ex was chatting up loads of girls n coming onto them etc........ he had told me a couple of weeks ago he wasnt even interested in looking at anyone else so i was furious and ended up calling him to have it out with him. Before u say, I KNOW, wrong move..... but i was so angry, technically he can do what he likes..hes single. Anyway he said it was all ridiculous and that i need concrete evidence but there wouldnt be any because thats not what hes doing, when i thought about it the ''source'' is a bit of a stirrer anyway so i was silly to believe it. and silly to call him. We spoke a little bit about us, one thing ive noticed he always does (and it genuinely upsets me) he shouts.....alot...he gets really fustrated and starts shouting at me, even when im not shouting he continues to just shout shout shout at me. Then he will hang up and turn his phone off etc. I know i should toughen up, and i did apologise for jumping to conclusions but this constant shouting at me everytime we talk but then in the next breath saying he wants to be friends etc and cares about me. Ive felt so strong the past week, now i just have spent another night crying in my bedroom, wish this would stop.
eles83 Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Grr, I wrote you a darn essay and the site ate it. I will try to hit on the main points. Don't apologize. No more! I apologized so much, I kept thinking, if I just said I was sorry... But you know what? It isn't all on me. Make a note of when he does things like turns his phone off because he knows you are trying to get ahold of him (before my ex was an ex, he did the same thing sometimes...). It kind of helps me to look at the list of things and go, you know what? I love him, but I am kind of mad. And that's how I resist some of my urges to text. You kind of remind me of myself. I think we have a lot in common in terms of how we act and respond and maybe even some of how our exes were.... I am always here to listen (having someone to listen has helped me so much, you don't even know).
Tree_Salmon Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 toughening up is easier said than done! It can be super tough
TaintedHeart Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Grr, I wrote you a darn essay and the site ate it. I will try to hit on the main points. Don't apologize. No more! I apologized so much, I kept thinking, if I just said I was sorry... But you know what? It isn't all on me. Make a note of when he does things like turns his phone off because he knows you are trying to get ahold of him (before my ex was an ex, he did the same thing sometimes...). It kind of helps me to look at the list of things and go, you know what? I love him, but I am kind of mad. And that's how I resist some of my urges to text. You kind of remind me of myself. I think we have a lot in common in terms of how we act and respond and maybe even some of how our exes were.... I am always here to listen (having someone to listen has helped me so much, you don't even know). I also do this eles83. I always want to say sorry! Even if hes the one thats in the wrong, I always end up feeling guilty and wanting to say sorry.
blotter Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 Why are you still talking to you ex? Are you two broken up?
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