how far can it get

[truffelo]

hello

so i've already told a big part of my story

 

i was together for more than 6 years with my gf, had a lot of plans, our relationship was great, very balanced. We had our personal activities and we had a lot of activities togheter. It was real intense love and we could talk about anything, had a relationship of which a lot of people were jealous at because we could let each other free but were always very happy when we were together. She left for a semester to study in italy starting in februari this year.

Before she left, she did a lot of effert to convince me how much she loved me and still was in love

 

She got there and the first weeks she was always trying to get in contact with me. She missed me like hell. She begged me to come over there and i did after 3-4 weeks.

We had a good weekend, not like the weekend of our lives but we talked a lot and it was hard for both of u to let each other go again.

 

From then on, everything seems madness.

 

First day after my return were ok, but after a week or so i noticed that her attention for me was lowering.

I didn't care at the start but i got this strange feeling when she didn't seem my girl anymore.

I wanted to talk about it but she was too busy with her own "sweet world'

during a skype session she said suddenly out of the blue, like she didn't had thought it before (she really didn't, that's what she has said to me afterwards and to her friends etc) she wanted a break.

 

She wanted full freedom, just to know what that was.i couldn't believe what i heard.

She thought this would be good for our relation because i was her first lover and she just would like to have the idea she was single.

She promised she wasn't in love with anyone etc.

She said she knew our relation was too good to just give up and she couldn't imagine she would find someone like me.

 

I didn't argue, but i tried to talk to her to know if she was sure and if she knew what a big decision she was making without really thinking about it. she was very distant.

 

she kept repeating the next days, even weeks that she still believed in our relation, but that some things had to be changed. but she "couldn't promise".

she sent messages in the middle of the night " i'm thinking about you"

 

Off course there was an other guy very fast (couple of days after she broke up) and she didn't told me this but i knew it after 10 days.

 

he's like the total opposite of me and exactly everything what she always disliked in men. Soon they were posting pictures of the new lover of her life and her together in all sorts of poses.

 

My family saw them, my friends and of course ... me.

I said it was better to go to NC but she said she could understand that but she really wanted to have contact with me. So we went to LC.

 

She started telling everyone she has met the guy of her life (like she was always so sure about me:rolleyes:) and she wanted to stay there forever.

I never started conversations with her but i answered when she did.

 

She did a lot of effort to make sure everyone home she's extreeeeemly happy. But one day she starts this conversation with me:

" i know you probably don't want to talk about it, but can't trust this new guy and i think he only wants me to have sex"

ok,

that was stupid

but i tried to be a friend (not to good) but i didn't said bad words about him or something. She said she found out she was allready his 18th girlfriend and he was specialized in foreign students and he even ever had 3 gf's the same time. But that he promised he had changed:rolleyes:

 

the day after she started again by saying that there are a lot of moments she's extremely happy there but also a lot of deppresive moments because she could talk with someone like with me and she knew she was heading to a big emotional rollercoast

 

i said that i wanted to talk to her now and than but i couldn't talk about these things because she made a choice.

 

this wass all via facebook chat.

This was the only way we had contact

 

But what happened today: she blocked me???

how could she. That was the only thing I had: the thought that i had to choice if i would have contact with her or not.

 

why did she did this?

can someone who has loved me for so long suddenly change this hard

 

i never hurted her, i was always extremely supportive

[wilsonx]

Yup, happens to the best of us.

 

So what do you want to know?

[hinatticus]

I like your harshness Wilson. I even told flitz I wanted to hear from you. You wanna check my thread out and give me some of your harhness or honesty or whatever?

 

Sorry op sounds like your situation sucks ass. I had a gf once who thought **** was nicer on the other side of the fence. It really does suck. No words of wisdom from me other than CUT TIES. Now if you royally screwed up I'd suggest fixing yourself.

[truffelo]

Ok,

 

last wednesday she sent me a decent message to explain why she blocked me on her facebook:

 

She said she was sorry and she didn't want me to see the pictures with her italian lover but she's not sure she made a good decision. She also asked how i was etc and some random stuff.

 

Now here's the thing: I'm pretty sure that's not the real reason because

a) the pictures were online online for a day

b) there are other solutions for that AND she would have explained it the day/moment she blocked me

c) I'm pretty sure here italian lover doesn't want her to talk with me

 

Now I know a lot of people don't understand this but i really hope we'll get back together again ever.

 

I didn't reply on her message and now we're 5 days later

what should I do?

 

Reply?

Reply after her next message?

ignore it and wait until she's back in july?

[Chi townD]

Awww...dude! Screw her!!! She made a choice. She decided that she wanted to have sex with some itailian dude and that's just using her for sex. AND SHE KNOWS THIS!!!! Rather than sticking to a committed relationship with a guy that truely loved her. She doesn't care because she's got you waiting on the sidelines like a good lap dog waiting for her to throw you some scraps. How did it feel reading through FB status post where she said, " That she's met the man of her dreams and she never wants to leave there!"? Some much for being the most important person in her life. She's showing you a lot of love there! She's convinced that she can come back in July and EVERYTHING will be back to normal and she can resume her life with you. I call BS on that.

 

DUDE!!! grow a spine! Find your balls! She decided that Antonio was more important than you. So be it. Don't be her lap dog, don't be her doormat. Go NC on her. She made this choice. Now, she has to live with the consqenences of her actions. She just lost a good guy to a guy that she means nothing to him.