AwptiK Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 Alright, so this is a pretty confusing story that will probably sort itself out. But I'd at least like to see what others think, especially those with more experience in general. So last night my friend Paul and I, 19 and 20, invited two girls over, Kristen-21 and Jane-18. Kristen is Paul's girl, so Jane was my "company". We hung out and chilled for a couple hours, and things progressed between Jane and I. To skip a lot of useless detail, it got late and everyone was tired, so Kristen and Paul went off to my spare room. Jane and I went up to mine. Making out turned into touching, then some clothes were off...but then she stopped and she said she really didn't want a one-night stand. She said she'd definitely like to pursue more, in time, and so on. Because i'd definitely started to take interest in her, I agreed. Even though I intended to at least pursue her if we had ended up having sex anyway, I figured it was best that I show her. So we just went back to making out and eventually fell asleep. Not a very eventful morning, besides some more talking about that kind of stuff from the night before. She was mildly clingy after we had that talk last night, she was snuggled up to me the whole night and then was either on my lap this morning in the living room or she tried to stay in the same room I was in. Before leaving she asked on a few occasions that I text her, and as a group we also talked about hanging out again tomorrow night. Also, one of the first things I said this morning to her, was "I'm gonna make you my girl this summer." And she responded with, "Well summer starts in like 3 days so get a move on." ---- So the girls left. I texted Jane a couple hours ago now, to make sure she got to work on time. They stayed as late as possible, so I figured it was good to make sure of that. Here's where everything goes crazy and I am now totally lost: Jane got really flirty, sexually..to be specific. No big deal, I played along and all. I almost started to think that after last night, I showed her enough to lower her guard a bit and delve into that kind of stuff. But then (I'm going to tell it exactly how it is, and as confusing as it will be, I don't understand either..), she brought up liking girls. A few texts later, I said something like, "Last I checked I wasn't one, so I guess that isn't gonna work out." She said, "So are we done then?", and I said, "No.....I'm interested in you and i'd like to see where that goes..." And she said something like, "Well I hope liking girls won't get between us I've been thinking about your ..... ;)" So, back to a good ground, and I replied with, "That's honestly fine. If that's what it takes for you to be satisfied sexually, then it's cool. I wouldn't want to keep you from being satisfied. But i'd eventually more or less like an actual relationship." And, then I get..."Hey, this is Jude's man. She's a lesbian. So back off." I simply said, "ok." and haven't heard from her since. I talked to Kristen just a bit ago, and she texted Jane to ask about this double date tomorrow, and Jane said she was still wanting to go. So as far as that goes, I guess things are still good. I just can't figure out if I got fkd with, or someone had her phone, etc. It's definitely something I want to pull her aside tomorrow and ask. It seems less confusing the more I think about it, minus the last text. I can almost venture that she doesn't necessarily want to date, but she wants a steady-guy in her life....but at the same time, she specifically brought up dating and all in person. Any wild or crazy suggestions or interpretations from anyone? It also almost comes off as a shxt-test, but I simply told her what I wanted and expected, so there's not much else.
NateC Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 I'd ignore the last text and see how things go. Texting can be risky sometimes because you never 100% know who's on the other end..
g450 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 This reminds me of a funny but sadly true story. I knew a woman that sent a sex text to one of her FBs and she accidentally sent it to one of her Sons in the next room over. She quickly realized this and went in to ask him if he was OK. He said yes. In that case both her Sons knew what kind of person Mommy was. And I felt bad for them in a way. But goes to show that sometimes people send texts by accident. I remember my GF sending one to her X but paniced and sent it to me by accident. It simply confirmed what my gut was already telling me. We broke up right after and she went back to him. You gotta love technology.
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